Please don't hate me but......

[Kerrykins]

I don't want to breast feed.

I just really don't, but have this feeling that I am going to be bullied into it anyway.

Everyone keeps telling me not to let anyone bully me into it but there is always a but.............

Surely it's my decision? I also have twins coming which just makes the idea even worse.

I've signed up for the breast feeding workshop as I feel like at least when they try to bully me into it I can say I have at least got all the information and who knows, I might change my mind later, but if I do I want it to be because I decide it not because others have forced me into it.........

Am I literally the only person on the planet that doesn't want to breastfeed?

 

[nikki8092]

To be fair when i had my first baby i wasnt too keen on the idea but my OH really wanted me to so when she was born thats what i did. It felt totally natural and i breastfed my 2nd and will be doing so with my baby when he/she arrives. However its totally up to you how you decide to feed your baby. Do whatever feels natural when they arrive. Dont let anyone force you into anything as you will only regret the decision x

 

[Piglet10]

no ur not the only person that doesnt want to breastfeed, i think no1 will blame u if u say no, at the end of the day twis are tiring enough,

i told some of the nurses in the hospital to 'pis* off' as they were being rude and judgemental to me , i wasnt even hormonal

they never bothered me afterwards and prob dont even remember me!

just tell them to swivel if they try bullying you, at the end of the day if u dont want to youll never stick at it anyway,

ALTHOUGH

you could compromise and do first feed for babies or something?! lol i know im playing devils advocate but they prob wud go easier on you if they think u dont want to but are giving first feed anyway xxx

 

[Lacey's Mummy]

I didn't breastfeed both my children. I just don't like the thought of it. Luckily I've never been pressured into it, if you don't want to do it, be firm x.

 

[Kerrykins]

Thanks all. The daft thing is I know "it's the most natural thing in the world" etc, but I really jsut don't want to. I think I will just have to be strong and tell them no. Unless I change my mind of course......... can't see it though........

Surely it's nearly impossible with twins anyway right? I mean, you would literally be permanently feeding them wouldn't you.

I am lucky that my OH does say whatever I feel comfortable with so at least there is no pressure there.

Huff, I'm getting worried about this and have so much time left it's really silly, I think I should just put it to the back of my mind and worry about it later.

 

[nikki8092]

How true Piglet, if you are forced into it you wont stick at it. Just do what feels right for you x

 

[cosmicgirl]

I tandem fed my twins (both at the same time) and it was fine so don't let that put you off. If you just don't want to then it's your choice hun x

 

[Hayley1608]

i'm not breastfeeding.

Like you say everyone tells you its the most natural thing in the world but to me it most definately doesn't seem it... i have no problem at all with other people breastfeeding i just don't like the idea of a baby feeding off of my breast.

I think its bad that women feel pressured into breast feeding as it is a massive commitment to make and shouldn't be done half heartedley because in the long run it will just make things more difficult. I am being firm in my decision not to breastfeed and will not let the nurses pressure me into doing so.

I do feel guilty sometimes as they do say breast is best and therefore by choosing to bottle feed sometimes i feel like i am being a bad mother... but it is only the people who pressure you into it who make you feel like this. I'm lucky to have a really nice midwife who supports my decision and said that formula feeds are so developed nowadays that really it isn't much different.

I hope you come to a decision that works best for you and your family.

Good luck with the twins too!! (as in babies... not boobies lol)

xxx

 

[Hope81]

kerry you go to the supermarket you buy formula you feed the babies as simple as that. having twins will lead to that probably anyway.

what i should do is to give it a shot at the hospital thats a double win, babies get the most nutritional colostrum and i definetely decide if i want to do it or not so i dnt have second thoughts later that i didnt at least try it. buy your bottles and your formula and you dont need anyone's blessing to formula feed your LOs.

 

[cosmicgirl]

It's not a problem breastfeeding twins so don't let that put you off hun, unless you wouldn't want to bf anyway. Any advice about twin feeding feel free to pm me hun x

 

[Hope81]

i ate the idea of breastfeeding btw... but i will try it for those reasons and none of those implies better health of LO....
1. its cheaper
2. -500 calories per day??? bring it up lol and see my extra pounds going away
3. reduces the risk of breast cancer and that is a real issue in my family.

i wouldnt hesitate to bottle feed my LO because formulas are not good and certainly i dont care if midwifes or doctors or nurses think different lol. but i will try breastfeeding if its not a hell i will do it, if i hate it as much as now, bring the bottles right away

 

[nikki8092]

It doesnt feel natural to everyone hun but like you say you have loads of time to decide and formula milk is preety advanced nowadays and has all the nutrients in it, the only upside to breastfeeding in that respects is that its free and easier than having to get up make a bottle up lol.
Do what feels natural for you, no one else. There will always be pros and cons to both arguments. Good luck in whatever you decide and good luck with the twins x

 

[Kerrykins]

Thanks so much to you all, it really has been helpful reading through this. You are all in the same boat or have been there so your opinions really mean a lot to me. Thanks again. No doubt closer to the time I will be having another crisis about it and will be begging for support again!

Cosmicgirl - thank you so much, I may well be PM-ing you, so nice to have someone who has done the twinnie thing. I really feel blessed but am frightened to death as well!!!!!

 

[cosmicgirl]

That's natural Kerry but it's not as bad as I'm sure you have imagined. I was the opposite to you really. I had lots saying "oh you'll have to bottle feed won't you because it's twins" and I was determined not to absorb their negativity (these people didn't have twins btw!) and I found it easier to breastfeeding than bottle actually! Deffo pm me anytime xx

 

[Kerrykins]

Thanks again Cosmicgirl - I've just "friended" you, hope you don't mind.

 

[cosmicgirl]

Of course I don't mind xx

 

[Mamafy]

Your choice hun, so long as the babes are getting fed it doesn't matter how

 

[Maria1977]

It's such a personal choice and nobody should pressure you into it. I didn't want to breastfeed, then I thought I had to and by the time my baby got here I was already in the mindset that I was going to breastfeed and when it didn't start out too well there was alot of pressure that I didn't need, it was very emotional. But on my ward there were alot of mums straight on to bottle feeding and the midwives never pressured them at all. I think if you tell them bottle when they ask that's what they will get on with, but if you said you weren't sure etc then they would try and sway you maybe.

Just be confident with what you want and they should support that choice.

Nothing wrong with bottle feeding at all.

And congrats on twins btw too xxxxx

 

[Annie050408]

Hon, don't feel pressured to bf if you don't want to - plenty of women (myself included) didn't and are fantastic mums (even if I do say so myself!!). xx

 

[Kerrykins]

Thanks again everyone, feeling more confident in myself about this already.