Believe me the stories and know it alls dont get any better even when it's your 4th pregnancy lol. Yeah labour can hurt like crazy, let me tell you about my birth experiences, not to be patronising but to prove that each labour and pregnancy is different.
1st pregnancy can't remember much about the pregnancy to be honest but I was down the hospital all the time with niggly pains here and there because I didnt know what to expect. Birth, went into labour during the night but slept most of it off and woke up on the 28th december 99 with really bad pains, hubby took me to labour suite, and they examined me and told my hubby to go and get my stuff as baby would be a while yet
they then put me on the monitor and realised baby was in distress so I ended up having an emergnecy section and baby was born before hubby returned to the hospital
recovery was hard as I had the flu and baby was in special care baby unit.
2nd pregnancy went ok and I was more relaxed so less visits to the hospital. Labour.... I started having contractions during the day but they didnt get really bad until 10pm which is when I went to hospital, I had every pain relieve going and was complelty in another world. Doctor told me congratulations you have a boy and my reply was really so when was he born. Recovery was pretty good but it hurt for a few days to sit down but its all worth it.
3rd pregnancy was a nightmare, had a massive bleed at 9 weeks and it continued into spotting until 16 weeksish. I then came down with sciatia, and had symptoms of pre-eclamsia but that sorted out. Labour..... 5pm I returned home had no contracions or warnings through the day at all. Sat down to watch tv with husband and within half hour my waters went but still no contractions, went to hospital and they examined me at this point mild cotractions but very mild, mw said oh shit the babys head is there get ready to push and then it sped up really quickly but I had no time for pain relieve other than gas and air, they then decided to use ventoise but 1st the machine wasnt sucking properly and then when it did they was using it without me having contractions so felt like they were ripping baby out of me, I wated to jump off that table and make them leave me alone. After birth I was brused badly down below so hurt for ages and I was very traumatised from the labour I couldnt sleep for 48 hours by which point I just KO'd. I was hullucinating because of being so tramatised and exhausted I thought I saw a face of jesus in the clowds, at this point I was a practicing chrisitan and it freaked me out more and i thought jesus was coming to get me lol.
I am sh@@@ing myself with this labour but only because of Joannas birth expereince. Each labour is different, you could have it easy or you could have it hard but my advice is try and stay relaxed and breath through each contraction.
Girls you'll be fine and like someone said if it was mega bad we wouldnt have anymore. No it aint easy especially with no pain relieve but hell it's worth it.