People just don't get it ...

[FBTTN8079]

My friend the other week whilst trying to talk about our ttc journey whilst sitting with her newborn, seconf child and said I think in a way to lighten the subject "pregnancys not all it cracks up to be anyway"

Effing heck love ! Think about what your saying !
She doesn't get it!
She doesn't get that with ivf there's no guarantees, I know in pregnancy generally there isn't but there isn't, there's no say , there's no control ! No one can say yup it's ok it will work & quite frankly ivf terrifies me, what if it doesn't work! They aren't even considering iui for us just straight to ivf once I've lost this bloody stone !
Sorry girls for the moan x

 

[claire2602]

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[honeybear]

hi hun sorry for how your feeling
people are generally insensitive about conceiving because alot of people have such an easy ride and just find out or say they didnt know and dont generally go through what alot of TTC woman have too
all my friends have children xxx

 

[Dee28]

Big big hugs my lovely. People don't get it, I know I am truly blessed to have my Nancy but people don't get the desire to have a baby unless they feel it themselves. People say to me at least you have Nancy, be grateful, is she not enough for you, it's very upsetting. IVF is such a scary prospect, all we can do is be healthy and prepared and hope for the best. You will be lucky with 3 tries and frozen cycles too, you just will, I know it, you're young, you'll lose the weight and all you need is some sperm meets egg assistance, I'm wagging my finger as I write this! xxx

 

[FBTTN8079]

Thanks hun, I need lots of finger wagging, it's just super scary xxx

 

[Kay Kay]

Hi Sarah I ttc for 33 cycles and like you was very sensitive to comments like this. The worst one someone said to me is that 'getting pregnant was the easy part' it was the pregnancy that was hard. That cut me like a knife. I wanted to shout it's not easy for me! Or lots of other people struggling. To be fair this girl didn't know my situation but still a bloody ignorant thing to say. Your friend was probably trying to make you feel better in a roundabout way but it's difficult for some people to understand the emotions involved if they haven't been through it themselves.

Wishing you lotsa luck hun, I'll be looking out for your bfp xxxx