People help. I feel like I'm going crazy

[Belle23]

I can't help but panic, cry, and worry.
I'm worried hubby is gonna leave me and he keeps telling me I have nothing to worry about, I'm freaking out about labour and how scared I am. I have my annistist appointment tomorrow and I'm scared I'll be to big ( larger lady) for an epidural and if I had to have c section I'll have to have a general.
I'm worried and upset because I feel as big as a house and so ugly, and that hubby is gonna run off with someone else and we have hardly dtd.
Just feel really low
Xxxx

 

[LucyB.]

I know how u feel hun. I'm putting it down to irrational hormones, me and OH have hardly dtd either and its knocked my confidence more than his. I trust him completely but it kind of makes me feel like I can't give him what he wants and it makes me feel really low! I'm hoping my sex drive comes back after birth though and I'm sure urs will too hun. As for birthing options it can be a worry. Maybe at ur appt u should emphasise the kind of birth u want really strongly so she knows how important it is to u and maybe she can discuss more options xxxx

 

[Loula]

I'm sure hubby loves you and hormones are bound to be all over the place.
Hope your appointment goes well and aneathetists have done many epidurals so they're pretty clued up, Remember they are the ones with the drugs lol. Xxx

 

[BellaRiven]

Fears about hubby leaving are normal I do it all the time, it is just your hormones and these will likely not calm down after baby is here either sorry

I have dtd grand total of 4 times with hubby since we found out, once just after 12 weeks and then he got a blast last week and that has been it, so I wouldn't worry about your hubby too much, he knows that you are pregnant and that everything is getting harder.

In respects to you and how you have your baby this is YOUR choice not someone elses to take away from you, make a birth plan (if you need help, then just ask I will send you a copy of mine) if you do not want an epidural then you do not have to have one they cannot make you, your appointment today should be a 'just in case appointment' that should you need one they will know how to get it into you. Research your options honey and you will be fine, I am absolutely petrified about the actual labour and birth part, but I feel better because I am armed with information and my birth plan, You also need to start trusting that your body knows what it is doing, women were constructed for having babies and your body will know naturally what it is doing.

Are you doing any ante natal classes? I would recommend doing these

Most of all try and stay calm all the worrying you do is not good for baby or you, so stop and take some deep breaths and then carry on

If you need any help at all just give me a holler xxxxx

 

[Kirsty.Y.84]

How you feel is completely normal hun, it's just your hormones (annoying I know, but unfortunately they have a lot to answer for!)

I have felt insecure and clingy for most of my pregnancy, and now, as I'm feeling MASSIVE I wonder what my husband can actually find attractive. The truth is, he will always find you attractive, and actually, the pregnant body is beautiful. You are carrying his baby, nothing could be more beautiful than that.

Me and my husband have a very strong relationship, and I trust him 100%, but there are times when that niggling worry creeps in, and it's ridiculous, but it's just our crazy pregnant brains making us worry.

Hope you feel better soon xx

 

[Butterflykisses]

Pregnancy hormones are awful!!! Men get it so easy.

To be honest we haven't DTD that much either. First trimester was due to fear of MC so that was total no no. Second tri I felt fat and ugly and thought DH would go right off me. Now the bump gets in the way. It's not a never DTD but just less frequently that when TTC. DH has been brilliant about it though. I know he loves me and already LO. I am sure your husband loves you and your LO too. Pregnancy isn't easy and takes it toll on our bodies but just remember the little family that you will have at the end - you, LO and DH. It will be so good

 

[Maria1977]

Defo hormones are playing a big part in how you feel, although worrying is totally natural but hormones making everything seem so much worse.

I always worry about my OH too when I'm pregnant, this 2nd pregnancy is so much worse than my first too. But he is still here putting up with me lol

Really hope you're appt goes well, I'm sure the hospital will do whatever they can to not have to put you under general if you have to have a section.

Let us know how you get on and massive massive

 

[Pinktink23]

You just need a cuddle
Things WILL be fine, it is the unknown but there are plenty of people out there who have done it... Good luck at your appointment im sure your not as large as you say you are...
Your a Beautiful, Glowing, lovely lady.... Just remember that... And your husband... isnt going to leave he loves you and your carrying his baby.... Im sure if you just tell him everyday how much he means to you he wont feel left out.... xxx THE BIGGEST MOST SQUISHIEST PREGNANT BELLY TOUCH CUDDLES IN THE HOT HEAT I CAN SEND YOUR WAY!!!! xxxx