Parenting?

[Rachaellius]

Me and OH were discussing last night what rules we wanted to install into LO's life and what are the most important things we want to teach our LO.

We came up with a few things like always sticking together, putting on a united front infront of LO. And trying not to argue infront of him/her.

Also things like teaching them to have respect for other people and not to judge
Obviously have manners etc.

Lol OH said make sure they are not a chav!! lol.

But I was just wondering if anyone else had thought of things they wanted to teach their LO?

xxx

 

[Dragonfly Fi]

This is something we talk about all the time - which i think is really healthy

Breastfeed for as long as possible
make sure all his needs are met, this means letting him co-sleep with us, stay up late if he wants to and go to sleep when he wants to for the first year but then when he became more independant (i am talking about my son Jasper here) helping him learn to sleep on his own and slowly letting him become more independant, not forcing anything upon him

Let him have a wide variety of toys, including dolls and cars and pink things and blue things, do not be gender stereotypical.

show him that sometimes people fall out about stuff, but they make up and get over it and thats healthy

help him see that he is part of a bigger and strong community, allow many people to love/hold/care for him from an early age so he is empowered by the amount of people who love him

not smoke or drink around him, or make him be around smokers at a young age. Do not allow people to 'let him taste' their alcoholic beverages etc

baby wear him exclusively for as long as possible (this was one year for us because i fell pregnant again) help him to experience the world in the loving warmth of his parents for as long as possible

do not judge him for being slower at walking or talking than other children, let him develop at his own pace and do not feel we need to place him in competitions

be firm with him when we need to be, discipline him when we need to but do so with a firm and loving care, not with frustration or anger

let him see the full range of human emotions so he understands them in later life, be honest with our love for each other as well as him and our friends

show him the world and how magical it is

show him a number of paths to God and how many people reach out for answers from a higher power, let him make his own mind up based on our shared experiences and his own

allow him to own pets, to understand the cycle of living and dying, do not hide him from this.

allow him to learn about food at his own pace, do not feed him purees or pots, let him taste, explore and journey with his finger mouth and mind until he feels comfortable with his likes and dislikes.

most of all, love him and love ourselves. Do not punish ourselves for getting things wrong every now and again, just like we would not punish him for the same things.

 

[BevG]

never make empty threats or promises, if you say something is going to happen then make sure it does and they will listen to you more when you say not to do something or else.

never lose your temper or self control. it isnt a competition, if they tantrum its not something to get angry with, its not a fight. they are a child and you are the aduly. you will always be the boss.

definately to teach respect, patience and tolerance of others.

noone is perfect and everybody is different and does things differently

i want to baby wear, do BLW, BF and use reuseable nappies to save money

to teach my lo the value of money and not to want things just cos someone else has it without knowing how much it cost.

to have pets and to let LO understand life, death and sex from owning these pets.

to never judge or place expectations on my child that are beyond their ability.

to teach honesty and integrity, to never lie to my LO. no swearing,

to teach them to speak properly and use as many different words as possible to help them be able to express themselves.

to be a team with my OH and never argue or undermine him in front of our child.

high hopes lol but to not think i have failed if i dont manager to do all these all the time.

 

[saraian26]

I had lots of wonderful idealistic notions while pregnant with Stephen, they never happened and I just go with the flow these days. It works for us all!

 

[JoJo79]

I had lots of wonderful idealistic notions while pregnant with Stephen, they never happened and I just go with the flow these days. It works for us all!

Was gonna say same most days i wing it!!!

My girls have manners/know right from wrong/ are respectful (most of the time)

Personally not much else i can hope for xx

 

[saraian26]

I had lots of wonderful idealistic notions while pregnant with Stephen, they never happened and I just go with the flow these days. It works for us all!

Was gonna say same most days i wing it!!!

My girls have manners/know right from wrong/ are respectful (most of the time)

Personally not much else i can hope for xx

Good to know im not alone, I think my kids are polite and well mannered but they are kids and are occasionally are cheeky and push their luck but they get told they are wrong.

 

[Lilelephant]

To support Bristol city lol

 

[JoJo79]

Same here! I think IMO only the idea of having lots of plans for your children and how you would like to raise them is great, just sometimes reality is a lil bit different,

i dont mean to come across as nasty btw xxx

 

[Lilelephant]

All u can do is ur best with ur kids

 

[Geminiblue]

MrsMc you made me larf.

We did the list which is great and very healthy BUT like the others have said dont put yourselves under too much pressure... if you dont get to achieve all these things dont get upset, some days its all you can do is have a poo and a sandwich (Im laughing but not joking ha ha) especially if you are wearing your baby like I did and that was because he cried and cried and cried. He is a lovely kind boy now and we just tried the best we could lots of love food warmth and kindness xxx

 

[Princess81]

Uummm be the best of our ability and for our child to know that
He/she is loved and safe. Will make up the rest as I go along x