I've always had thoughts about parenting, I think that's natural and human regardless of whether or not someone has had a kid. But now I know I'll face real decisions for myself rather than just meandering thoughts. After my 20 weeks scan I found I can hardly stop myself imagining future life (I think before I struggled to imagine a unisex child!!). I've realised there's some things I feel really strongly about - some of them are a bit odd and I just wondered if other first timers are feeling the same around this time - or if people remember feeling that way when they had their first. I know that things will change when the baby is here, and I know life always comes up with the unexpected - nothing i think now is inflexible to change but I am going to think, I'm not afraid to form ideas. One thing I feel strongly about is to spend less on possessions for her, less mountains of cuddly toys and more on experiences - baby swimming sessions, baby signing. Then as she enters childhood proper maybe even second hand clothes but lots of access to sports and fun adventure stuff to do together (long bike rides, walks in woodland, and a trampoline in the back garden!). I want her to see art galleries, interactive sciency BUT play places. I also know that I want to teach her in her pre school years - not in nursery. I'd like her to spend time with a child minder so that she gets other kids around but under 5 I want to do the teaching because I don't want her to even associate reading, writing and maths with having to sit still, or do it at a desk - I want her to learn through play and be encouraged to discover the things she wants to learn for herself. None of the above are strong moral beliefs, they're not things I think are either right or wrong - just stuff, just stuff that I think about parenting, about being ME as a parent rather than being morphed! What stuff do/did you all think about?