Ovulating and not DTD

[Pinkz]

So we are at the 2 year point.

My body is giving off the ovulation signals

And i hate my husband...

He's never understood my mental health. We are trying to get back on the diet and hes just so unsupportive. Considering jn ALL the tests ive come back fine and in 1 of his tests is was way below normal you would think he would take some burden of responsibility but no. All on me. I have to lose the weight. I have to work out weight watchers which ive never done before and havent got a clue how to do.

I just feel like our relationship is falling apart. Im constantly put down and spoken to like crap. Everything was fine before my miscarriage! It sounds dramatic but its absolutely ruined my life. I missed out on a promotion. I had a full mental breakdown and now my marriage is probably over. Im going to end up losing my house. We work together so who knows... i dont even WANT my job to be honest!

I just wish it was all over. Even if the ivf didnt work. I want the weight loss done. The ivf over and be able to move on regardless of the outcome.

 

[Bambi42]

Hey Pinkz. You sound at the end of your tether, you wrote this yesterday so I hope you are feeling a bit better today.

Have you thought about going to see a councellor? Either on your own or with your husband to talk about the miscarriage and how you are feeling?

Me and my other half miscommunicate ALL the time. He says things that I interpret to mean X, when he actually means Y. Instead of saying to him.... I'm not sure I'm understanding what you mean can you explain a bit more...I was feeling hurt and talking to my friends who think like women, not like men and that wasn't helping.

Does that make sense? I'm trying to say I wonder if what you are hearing him say is actually what he means to say. Maybe he feels a bit lost too. Or maybe he thinks he IS being supportive but his words come out wrong. This whole fertility thing is a mind f*ck and I understand 100% how scary it all is. But I'm guessing you want to have a baby with him because you love him. And I guess he wants to have a baby with you because he loves you too. So that says there's something worth hanging on to.

Or maybe if you're ovulating its all PMT and you had some chocolate last night and today you're much better.

Have a hug anyway x

 

[chattychar1990]

Massive hugs to you Pinkz. I hope you are feeling better today x

 

[Pinkz]

Hey Pinkz. You sound at the end of your tether, you wrote this yesterday so I hope you are feeling a bit better today.

Have you thought about going to see a councellor? Either on your own or with your husband to talk about the miscarriage and how you are feeling?

Me and my other half miscommunicate ALL the time. He says things that I interpret to mean X, when he actually means Y. Instead of saying to him.... I'm not sure I'm understanding what you mean can you explain a bit more...I was feeling hurt and talking to my friends who think like women, not like men and that wasn't helping.

Does that make sense? I'm trying to say I wonder if what you are hearing him say is actually what he means to say. Maybe he feels a bit lost too. Or maybe he thinks he IS being supportive but his words come out wrong. This whole fertility thing is a mind f*ck and I understand 100% how scary it all is. But I'm guessing you want to have a baby with him because you love him. And I guess he wants to have a baby with you because he loves you too. So that says there's something worth hanging on to.

Or maybe if you're ovulating its all PMT and you had some chocolate last night and today you're much better.

Have a hug anyway x

Thanks. Im just so fed up . I feel like such a fraud moaning about us not getting pregnant then not dtd... its like what do u expect?

We definitely dont communicate right. I went to counselling and he thinks my depression is just me taking things too personally...

 

[xMillie]

Pinkz, I hope you’re feeling a bit better today.

Can you make any plans with your husband? A nice day/meal out or weekend away? Maybe it would help?

My hubby doesn’t understand depression, it’s like men just don’t really get sad ever.. I was feeling pretty low yesterday morning and I just stayed in bed and he just came in the room and said to me ‘you have to just get up and make yourself do things instead of sitting around feeling sad’. Like thanks..

 

[Pinkz]

Its a choice to them...

He never wants to do anything