over reacting?

[nadiaaaaaa123]

Am I being silly? I live with my boyfriend and he pays for all bills etc as I'm not working (I'm 36 weeks pregnant and still waiting for maternity pay to be sorted out) I said to him when I start getting money I'll give him £100 a month to help.

I currently don't have any money for myself, at home all day cleaning etc. I don't have friends that i see often, feel like crap (due to being heavily pregnant) he thinks I have it easy but I clearly dont so stress is start to build up. He doesnt offer to take me out or do anything to cheer me up.

last night I found out that he has been taking any spare money out of the "bills" bank account so I said to him im not just going give him money and not know what its being spent on so i'll use it towards the food shop. I didnt shout or cause an argument over it, just simply said it.

Today he has been off with me..only making small talk, not wanting to touch me or anything. I finally had enough and had a pop at him. He didnt care that I was upset or anything until I said well we're over then if you dont care. He hasn't spoke to me since.

Surely if you love your girlfriend & mother of your baby you would want to sort things out? But no he has decided to sleep on the sofa and not say a word.

Sorry to moan, just need some advice please what to do xx

 

[ClimbingRose]

I guess we all have times like this! I think alot of the time men just dont realise that being pregnant is a job in itself and it takes alot of energy to grow another human being!
Stick to your guns, money can be a real issue in relationships, but you need to know he will be responsible once the baby comes... I feel the same way sometimes at the moment as OH cant get out of the habit of buying himself nice things with his spare cash, where as I'd really rather he started putting it aside for things we'll need! A trip around mothercare so he can see the prices will open his eyes I hope!
Good luck with it, let him stew for a bit, im sure his ego is just bruised!! xx

 

[Rachel80]

I think you're absolutely right but hormones to amplify your feelings.

Maybe sit him down & explain how you feel calmly, or write him a letter if he's not one to listen & take your feelings onboard. He's being immature but for the man it's difficult for them to change their lives in the wake of a baby. We have no choice! I'm in a similar situation to you in that I don't have many friends round here but I did make a few new ones at nct classes, can you afford to do anything like that or will he pay?

If he's still being a prick, accept it & make some decisions when the baby is here & you see how the land lies. Can you move home? & yes use your money for food & nappies, I spend at least £30 a week on milk & nappies just for the baby so he'll have to get his head round that too! Good luck x

 

[mel0013]

i also know how you feel - ive gone from working 55+ hours a week to being signed off with SPD. SSP is terrible so ive had literally no money for myself and have relied on my OH to pay for everything. it puts alot of pressure on you both (he is soley responsible for all bills and you are tired and uncomfortable constantly). sit down and and have a good talk about how your both feeling it would help to get things off both your chests and remind each other that you are a team working towards the same thing - a good home for your baby.