Opks and timing

[Sunflower1]

For one reason or another - illness and tiredness - we only manage to dtd once during the fertile window. Given this may also be the case this month would you advise waiting for a positive opk before dtd? We've dtd the day of or the day after a pos opk for the last 2 months and nothing... Would it be better to guess ovulation day and dtd before the pos opk? The problem is my pos opk day varies from 12-16 at the moment. Thanks ladies.

 

[Eryinera]

They say the best chance of success is 2 days before ov x

 

[Mariexo]

I honestly think everyone is different. There are lots of statistics flying around the internet that suggest certain days are better but I think it all comes down to the individual.

With me, I got my peak ovulation on CD17 (April 19th), OH and I dtd on that same day. I had implantation bleeding 5 days later (April 24th) and May 1st I got my BFP. They say sperm can live for up to 7 days but a more realistic figure seems to be 2-5 days depending on the mans sperm.

Are you using CB Digi ovulation tests or are you just using the strips? I'd highly recommend CB Digi if you can afford as it tells you when you're in high fertility (when beginning to ovulate), and when you're in peak fertility (when your egg is beginning to start its travels). Once you get your solid smiley face on the digi - I'd recommend dtd straight away because you have 24 hours to catch the egg before the egg dies.

If your positive opk is varying each month then you definitely need to keep track of where you are. I think it's all down to the luck of the draw at times too... I mean you seem to have been doing everything to the book so far - dtd on day of or day after a positive opk, but for some reason you're just not catching the egg. I really do think it's luck of the draw sometimes. We caught our egg first month so we were lucky - wish I could pass on that luck to you hun.

Just keep tracking your ovulation and dtd on the day of your positive and also I would recommend on the day after too.

Good luck xx

 

[Sunflower1]

Thanks both. The CB digi sounds good. I just worry that with more accurate opk there will be even more pressure to dtd on the day and I don't want to put more pressure on my DH. I will keep them in mind though for the future. Congrats on your BFP so soon Mariexo, that's great.

 

[Sk8erzeh]

Have you tried smep? I read about it and by the sounds of it, you'll increase your chances without feeling to pressured to do it on the day of ovulation.
Good luck

 

[Sunflower1]

Hi, we only manage to dtd once - that is the problem. So can't do smep at the moment. DH is recovering from long term illness and is run down.

 

[Sk8erzeh]

Since sperm is known to last in your body for a few days then you're still in with a chance. May has been a good month for bfp's so far. Fingers crossed sunflower

 

[Sunflower1]

Yes, that's true and this time of year it lasts longer (3 days apparently) so maybe I shouldn't get so stressed! Thanks.