To cut 2 years short..
My ex partner as of yesterday has abused drugs and alcohol for years. I don't know what I saw in him but I loved him and stuck by him to try and get him off it and helped. He would get really argumentative about drugs and alcohol he wouldn't admit he had a problem although he smoked weed daily sometimes spending £100 a week on it. We have had our fair share of arguments over the past 2 years and he started making me feel like I was the problem
And that I was depressed. I am depressed, I'm really depressed. I also attempted suicide last year after he smashed up my parents house on my dad's birthday. He left after trying to fight everyone, kicked my mums blind dog and smashed up their kitchen. I thought my family would disown me, I had no partner and I had just lost my part time job just before. I was at my lowest. I survived, I stupidly took him back and since that night nearly every argument has turned into him coming up right into my face nudging me with his head and shouting, I'm not a mouse, I can stand up for myself and I've lashed out in the past.
Yesterday after a night out he returned home and we rowed because of his state and he took it further. He's smashed my house up, thrown cups and glasses on to the street, ripped my hair out, tried to strangle me and pushed me on my sofa before picking the sofa up and throwing me backwards on it. I called the police and I got a video recording of him throwing things at me and shouting, he ripped out the phone line while I was on the phone to them and that's recorded to. The police arrived and they arrested him. He's assaulted an officer by kicking him, he's been charged with that, the assault on me, criminal
Damage and possession of a class A drug, he's still on probation for racial abuse as well.
Please don't judge me I know I shouldn't have taken him back the first time. I'm in a really low depressed state at the moment. What hurts the most is that he did a lot for me and my 2 daughters. He was really nice in the week when he didn't abuse hard drugs or alcohol.
Obviously after yesterday it's final there's no Going back. I know he's an idiot and he's not cut out for family life full time. He got bailed with conditions to not contact me in any way. 20 mins later he was ringing me begging me to drop the charges. He's rang today and I've recorded the phone calls and made a statement to have him arrested for breeching. Although he will just go to court the day after and they will release him with the same conditions.
Anyway he's still logged on fb on my tablet and I stupidly looked at his activity log. He'd searched a girls name who posts half naked pictures of herself and hot and sexy chicks etc... If I was looking at prison I don't think i would be in the mood to be pleasuring myself!! What the hell did I live with????
I feel like the past 2 years has been a joke, I'm going through the "I'm going to be alone forever now" stage. I'm not eating either, I can't bring myself to do
It, I'm that depressed. I feel like my life is ruined and I feel like I'm failing at being a mum because I'm so depressed.
I'm currently under the care of the healthy minds team but I don't know when my next appointment is. I got told I was on a waiting list. I need to speak to someone and I don't know who. My friends and parents just keep
Telling me I am worth more and I don't deserve be treated like that and I'm better off now. But I just feel like my life is a mess and they Rent fully understanding what I'm going through
Why am I so worried what our mutual friends will think when they find out I called the police? I've been assaulted and I feel like I've done wrong.
I feel unattractive, I'm so ground down, I've not been work for 2 nights as I'm a night care assistant and I didn't want my work to suffer, I'm not eating, I keep jumping awake in my sleep and I'm just upset
Sorry if a lot doesn't make sense and punctuation is crappy but I'm on my mobile and my heads not with it at the moment.
Thanks for listening
My ex partner as of yesterday has abused drugs and alcohol for years. I don't know what I saw in him but I loved him and stuck by him to try and get him off it and helped. He would get really argumentative about drugs and alcohol he wouldn't admit he had a problem although he smoked weed daily sometimes spending £100 a week on it. We have had our fair share of arguments over the past 2 years and he started making me feel like I was the problem
And that I was depressed. I am depressed, I'm really depressed. I also attempted suicide last year after he smashed up my parents house on my dad's birthday. He left after trying to fight everyone, kicked my mums blind dog and smashed up their kitchen. I thought my family would disown me, I had no partner and I had just lost my part time job just before. I was at my lowest. I survived, I stupidly took him back and since that night nearly every argument has turned into him coming up right into my face nudging me with his head and shouting, I'm not a mouse, I can stand up for myself and I've lashed out in the past.
Yesterday after a night out he returned home and we rowed because of his state and he took it further. He's smashed my house up, thrown cups and glasses on to the street, ripped my hair out, tried to strangle me and pushed me on my sofa before picking the sofa up and throwing me backwards on it. I called the police and I got a video recording of him throwing things at me and shouting, he ripped out the phone line while I was on the phone to them and that's recorded to. The police arrived and they arrested him. He's assaulted an officer by kicking him, he's been charged with that, the assault on me, criminal
Damage and possession of a class A drug, he's still on probation for racial abuse as well.
Please don't judge me I know I shouldn't have taken him back the first time. I'm in a really low depressed state at the moment. What hurts the most is that he did a lot for me and my 2 daughters. He was really nice in the week when he didn't abuse hard drugs or alcohol.
Obviously after yesterday it's final there's no Going back. I know he's an idiot and he's not cut out for family life full time. He got bailed with conditions to not contact me in any way. 20 mins later he was ringing me begging me to drop the charges. He's rang today and I've recorded the phone calls and made a statement to have him arrested for breeching. Although he will just go to court the day after and they will release him with the same conditions.
Anyway he's still logged on fb on my tablet and I stupidly looked at his activity log. He'd searched a girls name who posts half naked pictures of herself and hot and sexy chicks etc... If I was looking at prison I don't think i would be in the mood to be pleasuring myself!! What the hell did I live with????
I feel like the past 2 years has been a joke, I'm going through the "I'm going to be alone forever now" stage. I'm not eating either, I can't bring myself to do
It, I'm that depressed. I feel like my life is ruined and I feel like I'm failing at being a mum because I'm so depressed.
I'm currently under the care of the healthy minds team but I don't know when my next appointment is. I got told I was on a waiting list. I need to speak to someone and I don't know who. My friends and parents just keep
Telling me I am worth more and I don't deserve be treated like that and I'm better off now. But I just feel like my life is a mess and they Rent fully understanding what I'm going through
Why am I so worried what our mutual friends will think when they find out I called the police? I've been assaulted and I feel like I've done wrong.
I feel unattractive, I'm so ground down, I've not been work for 2 nights as I'm a night care assistant and I didn't want my work to suffer, I'm not eating, I keep jumping awake in my sleep and I'm just upset
Sorry if a lot doesn't make sense and punctuation is crappy but I'm on my mobile and my heads not with it at the moment.
Thanks for listening