On a bit of a downer...

[Jen & Her Men]

Hi ladies, thought id come on here to cheer myself up. Been feeling a bit poo past few days - nothing specific, just feel very large and getting v tired too easily and having to pack ready to move house and I HATE it!

Also, feeling a bit resentful towards my DH. We both stopped smoking when we found out about LO and I thought he had continued as I had and I caught him on our Honeymoon smoking which didnt lead to a very enjoyable last night as you can imagine. Well he promised he would make a concerted effort to give up again, but it seems as though now I know he is just smoking all the more. Between that and the drinking its really getting me down. He had a mood on last night because we got a call at 7pm to see if we wanted to go round to his mates house for a chinese and I said I didnt want to. I was all settled in my PJ's and had eaten and didnt see the point of going round when I was knackered anyway, and would just sit there and watch everyone else get drunk and smoke AGAIN. Is it too much to ask to not have your OH p*ssed EVERY weekend?? I know he works hard so I feel bad and he is very good at doing things round the house and makes me dinner sometimes and stuff, but every single weekend watching him getting drunk and stinking of booze and fags - its getting me down. He says he does it cos he is stressed. I wish I had such an easy outlet for my stress!! He knows he is out of order but does it anyway.

MEN!!!!!!!!

Sorry girls. Needed a rant. Am I being overly sensitive?? Or does anyone else feel a bit resentful every now and again too?

 

[Kimbo]

ur allowed to get stressed your pregnant!

 

[Jen & Her Men]

LMAO stress ...what a selfish bugger.
In the mean time put him on sex ban muwhaha. And when you have 20 week scan get aload of photocopys and line the ashtrays with your baby scan pics... it might make him think twice.

He knows his prioritys are gonna have to change hes just using these months to his advantage no doubt. Mabey us women do become resentful because our lives have already prioritised with being preggo..and we just expect the male to do the same?? ...who knows they truely are odd creatures.
Take care xxxxxx

Thanks Midna. I will definitely do the scan picture idea - thats cracking!! Dunno about the sex ban though - that would be like cutting my nose off to spite my face!! However I wont let him near me when he has had a fag cos he stinks.

I just feel like it was a decision that we both took to get pregnant and I was the biggest party animal ever - bigger than he is - but I still stopped because I have to and want to take care of our unborn baby. Just because he doesnt carry the LO, he should still realise that he now has a responsibilty to me and his child to try and give up smoking and cut down on drinking (A) because its dangerous and I dont want him killing himself and bubs growing up without a dad and me without a husband and (B) because I have had to make sacrifices and he should stop being so bloody selfish and realise its not nice for me to watch him continually getting drunk and smoking himself stupid and carrying on like nothing is different. I dont expect him to give up drinking completely but I would like it if every now and again he had a weekend off. Doesnt look like that will be happening. It gets me down because he promised me before I got pregnant that if i did he would stop smoking and cut down on drinking and he has broken both promises.

 

[Jen & Her Men]

To be honest he doesnt go out and drink - he just drinks in the house. So he does spend a lot of time with me, I just find him very irritating once he is drunk!! Theres nothing worse than being with a drunk person when your sober! He also smokes outside so is good in that respect. I think Im so down because he promised me he had given up and was doing it behind my back for 1 month - even on our wedding day. So he was hiding it from me and lying and getting other people to hide it from me. That upset me soo much.

 

[Jen & Her Men]

Hee hee!! He is well and truly sin binned at the mo and he knows it. Problem is I love him so much that I cant help getting all gooey and forgetting that Im in a mood with him!! Poor bloke wont know if he is coming or going!!!