leckershell
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This won't be too long as Ryan's just woke up but just wanted some views really.
Been organising Ryan's birthday, so I sent out invites to all family, mine and Nat's, as well as my friends (and left him to sort out his friends as he's too gay to sort out their addresses for me).
Nat's mum and dad have split up. His mum had a relationship which has now ended (but still on talking terms) and Nat has a half sister who is 10. All's cool. Nat's dad is still in the new relationship and has remarried and they are not interested in further family, they are more holiday/tea party/wine group type people. We get on fine with all parties.
Nat's dad has told nat he will only attend Ryan's birthday if Nat's mum is not there. Nat's mum is perfectly happy to leave for an hour or so so that they can be there.
The stupid thing is that they won't sort it out between them and won't make a phone call. So it's up to me or Nat... so basically it's up to me to sort it out, time for when one leaves and the other arrives etc.
Should I:
Tell Nat's dad a time, but leave it that Nat's mum will still be there and they'll either make a scene and look ridiculous, or one of them will leave...
or
Sit and call them both, be piggy in the middle and arrange times for them just for the sake of everyone getting along.
I know I should probably just do what will cause less of a scene, but at the same time I don't understand why they can't be mature enough to sort it out between them instead of burdening us with this when we have other more important things to think about... like our big day with Ryan??!!
Opinions please, but either way it will be left for me to sort out. Only other option is to call Nat's mum and ask her to call his dad - she is less bothered about calling them than they are calling her, iykwim.
Been organising Ryan's birthday, so I sent out invites to all family, mine and Nat's, as well as my friends (and left him to sort out his friends as he's too gay to sort out their addresses for me).
Nat's mum and dad have split up. His mum had a relationship which has now ended (but still on talking terms) and Nat has a half sister who is 10. All's cool. Nat's dad is still in the new relationship and has remarried and they are not interested in further family, they are more holiday/tea party/wine group type people. We get on fine with all parties.
Nat's dad has told nat he will only attend Ryan's birthday if Nat's mum is not there. Nat's mum is perfectly happy to leave for an hour or so so that they can be there.
The stupid thing is that they won't sort it out between them and won't make a phone call. So it's up to me or Nat... so basically it's up to me to sort it out, time for when one leaves and the other arrives etc.
Should I:
Tell Nat's dad a time, but leave it that Nat's mum will still be there and they'll either make a scene and look ridiculous, or one of them will leave...
or
Sit and call them both, be piggy in the middle and arrange times for them just for the sake of everyone getting along.
I know I should probably just do what will cause less of a scene, but at the same time I don't understand why they can't be mature enough to sort it out between them instead of burdening us with this when we have other more important things to think about... like our big day with Ryan??!!
Opinions please, but either way it will be left for me to sort out. Only other option is to call Nat's mum and ask her to call his dad - she is less bothered about calling them than they are calling her, iykwim.