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Me and Jay went over to Liverpool to have tea with his mum yesterday, i havn't seen her for about 8 weeks as i can't ever be bothered to travel the whole distance. (1 hour on 2 buses).
Anyway Jay had to pop out to pick up the tea and she started going on about how she knows we wont have anymore kiddies after having Ava as she doesn't think i'll be able to handle the pain!! I told her i think i'll be fine, i'm not worried about the pain or the birth at all anymore as its going to happen so no point in me panicking. She caried on saying she KNOWS we wont have anymore everytime i said "Oh no we will, it'll be ok" she would just say "NO"
WHO THE HELL DOES SHE THINK SHE IS TO TELL ME HOW MANY CHILDREN ME AND JAY WILL DECIDE TO HAVE!!!!
With that we got saved by the door and i ended it saying no matter how bad it goes we will have more in a few years...cut her off by walking away
After tea we were sitting around in the living room and she asked about what pain relief i want. I told her gas + air and if i need it i will ask for an injection as i've been told i shouldn't have an epidural by the Dr.
She then thought it would be a great idea to tell me of her experience with pethidine and how horrible it was and it lasted too long...my mum had pethidine with my sister and she thought it was great so just ignored her there but still really peed me off!!
She also thought it was OK to say how she thought i wouldn't be able to cope even with any pain relief as i have a low pain threshhold i asked her why she thought that and she just said, "i just do"!
I then found out jay's nan had been saying the same thing so they have obviously been talking about me and how they basically think i wont be able to give birth without any problems.
All i have had from family and friends is full support and them saying they think i will be fine and whatever happens things will be Ok, i go and see Oh's family and they just make me feel like i've got myself into something i wont be able to handle here.
Who on earth would say things like that to someone who is pregnant at all!!
It's fine if they doubt me id rather they just kept it to themselves and never told me. I was soooo upset last night and jason couldn't see why so had to explain to him how it felt as he thought it wasn't that bad!!
Everything is ok today and he says he understand but i am still so annoyed with his mum for saying it to me to start with. She didn't want anymore kids after she had jay's older brother but jay accidently got in there but not everyone is the same. His nan has the attitude, if she can do it no one else can or if you have something she is always worse off!!
Sorry for the long pointless thread but had to vent!
katie xx
Anyway Jay had to pop out to pick up the tea and she started going on about how she knows we wont have anymore kiddies after having Ava as she doesn't think i'll be able to handle the pain!! I told her i think i'll be fine, i'm not worried about the pain or the birth at all anymore as its going to happen so no point in me panicking. She caried on saying she KNOWS we wont have anymore everytime i said "Oh no we will, it'll be ok" she would just say "NO"
WHO THE HELL DOES SHE THINK SHE IS TO TELL ME HOW MANY CHILDREN ME AND JAY WILL DECIDE TO HAVE!!!!
With that we got saved by the door and i ended it saying no matter how bad it goes we will have more in a few years...cut her off by walking away
After tea we were sitting around in the living room and she asked about what pain relief i want. I told her gas + air and if i need it i will ask for an injection as i've been told i shouldn't have an epidural by the Dr.
She then thought it would be a great idea to tell me of her experience with pethidine and how horrible it was and it lasted too long...my mum had pethidine with my sister and she thought it was great so just ignored her there but still really peed me off!!
She also thought it was OK to say how she thought i wouldn't be able to cope even with any pain relief as i have a low pain threshhold i asked her why she thought that and she just said, "i just do"!
I then found out jay's nan had been saying the same thing so they have obviously been talking about me and how they basically think i wont be able to give birth without any problems.
All i have had from family and friends is full support and them saying they think i will be fine and whatever happens things will be Ok, i go and see Oh's family and they just make me feel like i've got myself into something i wont be able to handle here.
Who on earth would say things like that to someone who is pregnant at all!!
It's fine if they doubt me id rather they just kept it to themselves and never told me. I was soooo upset last night and jason couldn't see why so had to explain to him how it felt as he thought it wasn't that bad!!
Everything is ok today and he says he understand but i am still so annoyed with his mum for saying it to me to start with. She didn't want anymore kids after she had jay's older brother but jay accidently got in there but not everyone is the same. His nan has the attitude, if she can do it no one else can or if you have something she is always worse off!!
Sorry for the long pointless thread but had to vent!
katie xx