My SIL has been TTC for over 7 years now and has had no sucess. Both her and her husband have been tested and everything is healthy and Doctors have no idea why they haven't been successful.
When we found out we were expecting i cried before we met up and told her and cried all the way home after. I was still in a little shock and she didn't think i was happy about the pregnancy. (very much excited but very nervous about telling her).
In the last few weeks she has been diagnosed with OCD and her obsession is with personal hygiene. I was talking to my father-in-law the other day and he said that the Doctors think it could be related to my pregnancy (ie im pregnant and she isn't). I had a feeling it could have been this but after having it confrmed made it all a bit more real. I am certainly not offended by this but trying to put things into persective for you girls
At the weekend we went out for dinner and i asked the waitress about the icecream and if it was paterised. They came back and said they couldn't garantee it. My FIL asked why this was inportant and i just casually said it had something to do with the possibility of having a bacteria in it. My SIL then went off on one saying that as i didn't know what this was i couldn't be that interested in the baby and the safety and that other people would make better mothers.
I didn't really say anything as i was in shock and no-one else said anything either - we all just carried on as normal.
I now don't feel like i can speak to her at all. She hasn't asked (and i certainly havne't encouraged her) to look at any of the scan pictures and doens't even know when the DD of the baby is.
I can't help feeling a little guilty about being pregnant and i know i shouldn't be feeling like this. Everyone else is really supportive about the pregnancy and really happy for us both but at the back of my mind i still have the toughts of her.
Is anyone else in a similar position as me if so what have you done to help the situation?
When we found out we were expecting i cried before we met up and told her and cried all the way home after. I was still in a little shock and she didn't think i was happy about the pregnancy. (very much excited but very nervous about telling her).
In the last few weeks she has been diagnosed with OCD and her obsession is with personal hygiene. I was talking to my father-in-law the other day and he said that the Doctors think it could be related to my pregnancy (ie im pregnant and she isn't). I had a feeling it could have been this but after having it confrmed made it all a bit more real. I am certainly not offended by this but trying to put things into persective for you girls
At the weekend we went out for dinner and i asked the waitress about the icecream and if it was paterised. They came back and said they couldn't garantee it. My FIL asked why this was inportant and i just casually said it had something to do with the possibility of having a bacteria in it. My SIL then went off on one saying that as i didn't know what this was i couldn't be that interested in the baby and the safety and that other people would make better mothers.
I didn't really say anything as i was in shock and no-one else said anything either - we all just carried on as normal.
I now don't feel like i can speak to her at all. She hasn't asked (and i certainly havne't encouraged her) to look at any of the scan pictures and doens't even know when the DD of the baby is.
I can't help feeling a little guilty about being pregnant and i know i shouldn't be feeling like this. Everyone else is really supportive about the pregnancy and really happy for us both but at the back of my mind i still have the toughts of her.
Is anyone else in a similar position as me if so what have you done to help the situation?