Not sure what to do??

[Holi]

Me and oh always agreed to start trying for baby no2 after wedding

We get married in less that 2 weeks and today I broached the subject and suggested stopping the pill now

He just froze! I asked him if he thought I should and he said he didn't know, I asked him if he wanted to wait a few months he said he didn't no, I asked him what he wants to happen and he just said 'do what you want, you always do anyways' - he said this with a smile on his face, didn't come across nasty or anything, more cheeky!

Anyways not sure what to do - he's not one for committing (even though we've got dd and getting married haha) he finds agreeing to something quiet stressful and tying

But if I'm waiting for him to actually say the words 'let's try for a baby' I think I might be waiting a long time

On the other hand I want him to be more on board than 'do what you want' - it's a joint decision

What would you ladies do?? Xxx

 

[kellylou]

I am in a similar situation, I have always said that I wanted 2 children and our DS is now 4, however he has always never seemed keen and we said this year we need to kind of make the decision on whether we have another. I asked him on Friday had he thought anymore on it as we go away in May and well I would be happy to conceive anytime after then as ideally would like a Jan/Feb/Mar baby as DS is in Dec he said he hadn't thought about it and never showed much interest then in my valentines card he said "my answer to our question is yes!" but now its in my hands I don't know what to do!

 

[Mrs M]

I can't make a decision either! Ha ha! Anything I am asked, it's always whatever you want to do, or I'm easy! Ha ha! Except for baby. I definitely want another baby and rather soon! Less than 3 months to go for me now

Just talk to him. Ask him what he wants to do, and if he says whatever you want, say, you want him to have an input as it's a massive decision that just 1 person shouldn't be making.

 

[Donna88]

You need to speak to him about your worries.

I agree with you, after the ''do what you want, you always do'' comment, I would not be comfortable just trying... even if he did say it in a cheeky way and not a nasty one, it's a funny thing to say.

 

[Donna88]

Mrs M less then 3 months will fly by, I'm due on the next couple of days-so after that it will be 6 more cycles for me (I feel a little cheated that it's less than 6 months but apparently 7 more cycles if I include the one I'm about to start)

 

[Mum2Many]

I think men often shy away from making decisions like this... I would talk to him, tell him you don't want to put any pressure on and if he doesn't want to know the ins and outs of TTC then you won't tell him, but that you need more than a "do what you want" from him when it comes to trying for a baby. You need a proper "yes, let's do this!" or a "no, can we wait a short while longer".

Hopefully he'll just give you a straight answer, but it may take him a few days to do so (or it may not, my DH made the decision on the spot with most of our babies!)...

Good luck!

 

[Holi]

Yes I defo need a green or red night one way or another!! I wouldn't even be overly upset if he wanted to wait but I hate that he wants me to decide! Especially as this time effects lo!

Might try and broach the subject on honeymoon when I've got him drunk and chilled and in a promise for some sex!!

Would be nice to move over to Ttc soon!!!

Mrs m I bet your so excited!! Xx

 

[kellylou]

Yes definitely keep trying, I always said to my dh that if I wanted another one we would have one which is really selfish of me as he works all the time to support us and also worry is it the right decision for ds, honeymoon, different surroundings, wine....good time to talk!

 

[Mrs M]

Very much excited! 82 days to go!!!

 

[kellylou]

Will fly by!

 

[Donna88]

I'm on 170 days lol, wish I was under 100