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xcharmanderx

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Hi all,

First post, I made this account because I really want to express this but I don't like how friends and family judge, rather than five constructive advice.

So I'm 29 weeks pregnant expecting my second child, but my partners first. Recently between me and him things have been weird.
At the beginning of my pregnancy he's seemed uninterested and didn't really express any of what he was thinking or feeling. As time had progressed and we've had the scans and I've got bigger, he's acted like he cares, but still not open with his feelings.
Now at the start of my third trimester things seem to have gotten worse rather than better like I had hoped. We're rarely intimate, and if we are he finishes and I don't. Seems to be like we just aren't connected anymore and I'm not sure why. Outside of the bedroom we get on and stuff, but we just aren't there same as before I got pregnant.

I'm so worried, I don't know what to do. I've bought this up with him, but we've never really had a proper conversation, and now I feel I've pushed it too many times to ask again.

I don't know what I expect you guys to say, I guess I just needed to vent.

Thanks for listening.
 
Some guys feel weird about pregnancy
They need to watch you change. Emotionally and physically
And his life is changing too
Many guys won't go near their partners intimately because they find it a bit weird... As if they're going to poke baby in the head or something lol
Is the pregnancy something that he wants?
 
Having a baby happened because of a joint decision so I would say yes, it's something he wanted. He seems happy about having a baby, it's just affection and intamacy which has become a problem.
Just feel a bit lost.
 
Maybe hes just struggling with seeing you change x
 
I remember this with my first pregnancy and it seems history is repeating itself, I feel lost. I feel the excitement of the pregnancy is shared just between my son and I. Hubby just seems to be going through the motions yet he has always got excited when the time arrives eg scan and delivery.
 
Maybe he is just struggling with the idea of being a father. I know it took my oh a while to come round until after my son was born. We both wanted a baby but the reality was a big leap. Men notoriously bottle things up and don't like to be pushed I just took things easy with him. He opened up about his feelings years later lol.
 

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