Nightfeeds Chat Thread

[ChloeSmith]

Thanks guys, she fed at 3, went down again at 4 after nappy change etc, now just woke up again. Pretty happy with that really! X

 

[BeeSmall]

Sophie Jane, he's 9 weeks on Saturday. The longest he's ever done is 4 and a half hours but that was once. He's done 4 hours a handful of times too but apart from that it hasn't been good. Really thought the sleep would be improving by now. My 3 friends from antenatal have babies that sleep really well (one right through the night) and they're all the same age as Henry, breastfed etc. Getting a bit down about it...probably just feeling crap cos I'm so knackered!

 

[sophie_jane]

Maybe he's affected by the developmental leap he's going through at the moment, BeeSmall? See what he's like in a week's time. Keep positive and don't let friends like that make you think you're failing in Amy way. They are the lucky ones and you're the norm!

 

[BeeSmall]

Yeah I'm really hoping its just a growth spurt. They don't intentionally make me feel bad, it's just I naturally compare our sleep to theirs because the babies are the same age...same as ladies on here who had their babies at the same time...I'm so jealous!! Fingers crossed for tonight, hope we all have good nights

 

[SpinSugar]

Beesmall, I know where ur coming from with the sleep thing...always feels like all the other babies are sleeping through. But often if u dig down to what sleeping through is, it's a different story.
Ie my cousins baby is ten days younger then my LO. Shes been "sleeping through" for ages. But she goes down late, around 11, and up at 6. My LO dies still wake for a night feed, but she goes down at 7.30 - 8 and wakes between 8-9.30...I know what I'd prefer means I get an evening to myself and a lie in too.
Good luck tonight everyone xx

 

[BeeSmall]

Thanks spin, I know people's sleep is very different and all babies are different....think I'm just particularly grumpy today because of lack of sleep haha vicious cycle! All I want is a consistent decent stretch to start the night off so I get into a deep sleep, feel like all I ever do is doze at the moment. He's still feeding at the moment, hopefully he'll settle soon. Have our first injections in the morning, dreading them! X

 

[SaraLouise]

Hey ladies! Long time no see!

Harrison has got himself into a nice little routine now. Goes down around 7.30pm then sleeps til 4.30am then is up half hour then sleeps til 7.30am.

When I think about getting up every hour & a half when he was littler it makes my eyes water!

Our bath, massage, bottle, boob, bed routine has improved it by 100%!!

Goodluck for tonight ladies.. I'm living proof it does EVENTUALLY get better! X

 

[amygates88]

Well little max has been very good for the past 2 nights. Sleeping from half 7pm until 6 am. I'm keeping everything crossed that he has cracked this sleeping through malarkey! Xx

 

[Constantstar]

Morning ladies. Well far surprised me fed8.30pm and slept 9-6.30. Yes she woke up a few times but no feeding. Well done far

 

[SpinSugar]

Yay, a great few night there

 

[Maru]

Hello sleepy ladies. Thought I'd join in this thread, as I am at the end of my tether. My 6 month old boy was a champion sleeper up until a month ago. He was sleeping 12 hours at night with one feed at around 4am. But for the last 4 weeks, he has been waking up every 2-3 hours. And it seems to be getting worse. Now it is every 2 hours on the dot. We are losing our minds and feel dreadful. I'm also concerned that our little boy isn't getting good sleep when he is at this early stage of development.

We just can't pin it down. Teething? Well, he did cut some teeth early on in this period, and he's not seeming like he's teething now. Growth spurt? But how long should that go on for? Surely not more than a month?!

There seem to be so many possible factors (more mobile, so needs more calories / more excited by the world / etc). So we had decided not to worry too much about what was causing it, and just wait for it to pass. But it doesn't seem to be passing!

Did anyone else go through this? How long did it go on for?

 

[sophie_jane]

Hi Meeeru and welcome to our world!
My little girl is almost 6 months, so not quite as old as your's. I'd never been treated to sleeping through, but she was always quiet in the night. Just a quick feed and straight back to sleep. At 4 months she suddenly started waking more often and crying and the only way to get her back to sleep was to Reed her. It got to the stage when she was waking up every hour sometimes! I ended up going to a sleep clinic. They said she wasn't getting enough naps in the daytime and that she now had sleep more like an adult's. When she woke up, she was awake and needed to know how to fall asleep on her own. This involved putting her to bed tired but awake and her learning self-self-settling. I had always previously fed her ti sleep. Not sure if something like that could apply to you?

Our night has been ok. OH woke E up coming to bed at 11 so had to feed her then. Am bow on 2nd wake up call and am deciding whether to go for a stupidly early run or leave it an hour.
Hope you all had good night's

 

[Clairexx]

Hi ladies, been too tired to post the last couple of nights. We are now being woken every 1-2 hours by the monster! I am sooooo tired!! He was better as a newborn!

Sophie, did they give any tips for self settling? I'm not sure how we would do it at night as he always falls asleep on his last feed, but id love to attempt it during the day? Xxx

 

[sophie_jane]

I also had Ella waking that often, Claire but since she's been sleeping better during the daytime in her cot, the nighttime has improved. Basically they need 4 naps during the day. 2 short ones and 2 longer ones. It should be in their cot in a darkened room. I carry Ella in, tell her it's time for a nap and then lay her down on her side. I close my eyes or don't look at her, put my hand on her stomach firmly and the other on her back. I breathe in and focus my mind and relax. when I breathe out go "shhh" and rock her gently back and forth. When I breathe in, I keep her still. Repeat for 1-5 mins. It's important to take your hands away at the end of the out breathe before you start breathing in again. Then I kiss her and say "good night, sleep tight" (you can say anything but you should always say the same thing), then leave the room. If you have to go in to resettle, repeat the process again. It doesn't work if you aren't completely relaxed and sending your calming energy to them. Sounds ridiculous nut my OH tried it and she screamed!
Good luck and let me know if it works!

I've just had to come upstairs in the middle if a film to feed E as she was crying. That was only a 4 hour stretch. She normally does better than that and she had some baby porridge for tea. I thought that was meant to fill babies up so they sleep longer?

Hope everyone has successful nights!

 

[BeeSmall]

I'm hoping for a good night but last night only got a 3 hour stretch before he was in with me and up every 1 to 2 hours for the rest of the night. Had a lovely 3 hour nap this afternoon though which made me feel better, he seems to love his long nap on an afternoon.

Hope everyone has a good night...I can't wait for the day where I can post on here 'he slept through!!' Can't see it happening any time soon though....

 

[SpinSugar]

That's interesting Sophie. 4 naps?!I've just started to get my 3 month old to take one nap in the day, two if I'm extremely lucky!
Might try your settling technique...it's got to be better then rocking her till she screams herself to sleep (she HATES naps)

Good luck for tonight everyone xx

 

[Constantstar]

Evening all! Far had her injections yest. So is a bit grumpy fed 6pm. Slept 7-1. Now had sone milk will put her back ib moses and see how she goes. Shes managing good 5- 6 hour stretches at a time now x

 

[SpinSugar]

That's not bad constant star seems quiet on here tonight. Guess over the weeks the babies have been getting better & better & not so many posting. Wish I could join those ranks

Were up for the first feed though so can't really complain too much. Poor hubby is up for work in half hour, so I want LO to hurry so I can see him before he goes, as I won't see him now till Monday night xx

 

[sophie_jane]

What work does your OH do, Spin? That's a long time to be on your own
Yep, 4 naps is key. I was missing out the first and the last of the day (the cat naps) meaning she was too tired going to bed.
My day should look like this:
Feed and up at 6, nap at 8 for 30-60 mins. Feed at 9, nap 10:30 for 1-1:30 hours. Feed 12, lunch 1, hap 2-3, feed, nap 5 for 30 mins, dinner 5:30, feed 6, bed 7/7:30.
What's your LO's routine?

 

[SpinSugar]

Oh my that looks amazing! We have no routine at all. She wakes any time between 6-10, depending on what kind of a night shes had. She's fed on demand, some days lots of feeds some days hardly any! If I'm lucky she will go down for an hour about lunch time for a nap but some days she won't sleep all day. I find it very hard to introduce any structure tbh as she is so grumpy & variable, plus we are out every day.

Hubbys now being extra noisy in the hall outside LOs room, I bet to wake her up on purpose as he wanted to stay in bed and be late for work but I wouldn't let him miss his train! Xx