Hi girls thanks so much for the support. My big brother, best mate, Dad and Hubbys parents have been amazing. They are sad for us obviously but think they understand why we waited to tell them and also why we had to write it down for them! Its a lot for them to deal with but hopefully they'll leave us to it and let us bring up the subject when we think it necessary.
I haven't had the best relationship with my Mum since she divorced my Dad 5 years ago, basically she has a bit of a drinking problem but won't admit it, and used to take her anger out on me a lot when I lived with her. I thought she was much better recently but sure enough she rang up last night (quite late I might add) crying and shouting at me down the phone - I don't think I can ever forgive some of the things she said. I know its upsetting, but there's no need to take it out on us! She was saying that there was probably nothing wrong us, and that the doctors are lying and rubbish and that we are so stupid for not going private (she has money stashed away, she was offering me allsorts and wouldn't get into her head that money may not be able to help us!)
She asked about treatments and I mentioned the pgd thing saying we didn't know how we felt about it, she was like a woman possessed 'have it done, now have anything done!' crazy woman. I know she is against anything like IVF and adoption yet now shes all for it! Then she said oh you could use a donor instead of hubby, it wouldn't matter! Just like that, like its nothing, like I want a baby that looks half like me and half like a random guy. Hubby got really mad at her for upsetting me, never seen him so mad. She just doesn't get it I'm afraid, she thinks just because she 'might' have had a miscarriage once that she can totally relate and there's nothing wrong with us, we're just making a fuss.
Sorry for the rant. She hasn't even apologised, just texted me saying she wants to meet up all normal....haven't even seen her for about 3 months cos she doesn't bother with us. I know I prob sound like a spoilt child but this isn't an overreaction, shes genuinely got a drink problem and learned to hide it very well. Don't think hubby ever believed me till he heard her last night. He does now!
Lou - the letter basically listed all the things wrong with us, but then went on to say we are happy together whether or not we have children - my Mum was basically saying if we don't have kids we may as well split up! nice!!
Arrrgh sorry for long long post!!!! xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Your mum is trying to pretend that everything is normal, probably because she is so upset for you (deep down). It's frustrating cos if she only knew what an apology and acknowledgment of what you're going through would mean to you both. 
