*Edited: It was waaaaay too long and have included an update from today!*
OK, I don't often speak about my ex (Ash) because if I ever talk about him, I end up thinking about him for weeks afterwards until I read that he's with someone or going away with the lads and I remember that there is no hope. We met when we worked part time at our local shop when I was 16, we started to become very close friends and spent all our time together, then we officially got together and we were together for almost 3 years.
I went through a bit of depression I think, not even sure what it was over or anything but I ended it. I did treat him pretty badly towards the end, I'd break up with him, he'd tell me he loved me and that I was his world and refused to leave until he changed my mind and then I'd have got my "feel good fix" and we'd get back together. He eventually started to not play the games anymore and whenever I'd say I didn't think it was working so that I'd get a bit of affection he'd say "OK that's fine" knowing that I'd coming running back.
After we split, Ash got his life back on track and yet mine was crumbling, I only had to think about him and I'd cry or get upset... I still do now, I can shut off for maybe 3 or 4 days and then I'll think about him again. I've been like this for a year!! We met up again in September and he told me he secretly enjoyed watching my cry while he said "Hmmm I don't think there'll ever be another chance for us Dan, you hurt me too much" I tried SO hard to get back with him but he was enjoying single life too much. That's when me and Gray got together (blah blah).
Anyway, my "I hate men" attitude is completely false I've recently realised Ash emailed me the other day (Red: Me, Blue: Ash) All copied and pasted lol.
"Hello. How's things?"
Hiya, nice to hear from you. How are you? Hope you're ok.
Yeah things are going ok thanks. Planning life as a singleton lol I've given up on men now completely! How's things on the "love" front for you?
I was only talking about you yesterday. One of the girls at work knows your family, Lucie Chamberlain? They're from Potton..
Anyway, hope you're ok, and it is really nice to hear from you xx
yeah im good thanks, just passed my first electical exam. i work as a electrician now love it.
love front dunno really kinda seeing this girl clare but im not looking for anythin serious. i like being sinlge to much lol. we'll jus see what happens suppose.
oh yeah? think i know her. how did u get talkin bout me?
hows things going with the baby?
x
Oh well done!! That's wicked news. Bet you actually LIKE going to work now!
Hang on a minute, you sent that message at 7:40 IN THE MORNING! You crazy fool, hungover?
Ah that's good, as long as you're enjoying yourself it doesn't matter ) I am happy for you that you're happy.
Just randomly, if someone says something like "I went to Alton Towers" I say something like "I've been there - Ash took me" or "when me and Ash did this.." etc and I said the other day "Ash's Mum does dog grooming" and Lucie asked what your surname was and she said "all this time you've talked about Ash and I bloody know him!!" It was wierd!
The baby lol... OK, well I'm 30 weeks, got 10 weeks to go now, it's a girl, I'm calling her Evie, her "Sperm Donor" as I like to call him lol hasn't been in touch since New Year so he doesn't want anything to do with her so it wasn't very nice at first but he's definitely not going to be suddenly turning up on the doorstep... I guess it's just a case of getting on with it and doing my best. Not ideal in the slightest but we'll manage I'm sure.
Hope everything else is going well for you. It is really nice to hear from you )
xx
Who the f*ck is Reece?! (Army ex) I've completely dropped him now because of this "old flame" - I haven't even thought about him once!
I'm absolutely crumbling here... Can't believe this is happening and part of me HATES Ash for contacting me again, he KNOWS how much it hurts me when we talk again, only for me to later realise he was "just wondering how I am and doesn't want to meet up for a chat"
Now he's contacted me, I'm checking my emails constantly, I even set my alarm this morning for 8am to check them because I know he goes to football at 9am
I genuinely believe that I am "meant" to be with Ash and that if there was ever the chance to be with him I wouldn't even hesitate. I questioned Reece, I've admitted how worried I am about relationships, and yet, here is a bloke who I am head over heels for STILL and I would happliy drop everything to just be with him again.
I know what love is, I just didn't nurture ours the way it needed to be nurtured I let it fall apart and however much Ash tried to stop it, I actually let it and I am so angry with myself - it's my biggest regret in life.
Just needed to get it all off my chest... xx
*UPDATE*
I emailed Ash today (after no reply to my last message) saying;
Hello again,
I'm just replying again because this has been playing on my mind (you contacting me so out of the blue like this)...
It's really hard for me to hear from you knowing that it's not going to lead anywhere and that it'll end on "ok, well take care of yourself and good luck with everything".
You know how I feel, I know you do. Nothing's changed. I absolutely adore you still and if you said to me tomorrow "let's try again" I wouldn't even hesitate and you know it! Fact is, I KNOW that's not going to happen, but there's part of me that holds that hope and it always will. So to still have "inbox empty" after what feels like a life time of waiting for a reply (lol OMG how sad am I sounding right now!?) is devastating for me!
I guess what I'm trying to say is that I know there is no hope for us ever to even try to sort things out and see how things go, I know there isn't, but when I hear from you I can't help it but those feelings come flooding back of missing you, loving you, realising how IN LOVE I was (and still am) with you etc and it hurts so badly to feel that again Then of course the guilt of everything comes back and it's just horrible. I really couldn't explain it properly if I tried.
See, I don't think you realise that this is going to take weeks to get over now. Even just a quick hello message has an affect on me which makes it hard to get through an hour without thinking about you!
Basically, only contact me if you're going to suggest us running away together to Gretna Green and getting married lol!! I'm joking! But you know what I mean? Hope so..
Sorry, I know you were probably "just seeing how I am" but when I check my facebook every 5 mins to see if you've replied really gets me upset.
I'm sorry, you're probably thinking "WTF?" but if I don't say all this now, I'll just keep checking my messages constantly in the hope that you ask to meet up or something...
xx
He then came online and said "hello, I've just got your message on Facebook Dan" and by the time I'd finished speaking to my Mum and read his message, he'd gone offline again!
I think this will be the last bit of communication between us now... There's no way he'll reply x
OK, I don't often speak about my ex (Ash) because if I ever talk about him, I end up thinking about him for weeks afterwards until I read that he's with someone or going away with the lads and I remember that there is no hope. We met when we worked part time at our local shop when I was 16, we started to become very close friends and spent all our time together, then we officially got together and we were together for almost 3 years.
I went through a bit of depression I think, not even sure what it was over or anything but I ended it. I did treat him pretty badly towards the end, I'd break up with him, he'd tell me he loved me and that I was his world and refused to leave until he changed my mind and then I'd have got my "feel good fix" and we'd get back together. He eventually started to not play the games anymore and whenever I'd say I didn't think it was working so that I'd get a bit of affection he'd say "OK that's fine" knowing that I'd coming running back.
After we split, Ash got his life back on track and yet mine was crumbling, I only had to think about him and I'd cry or get upset... I still do now, I can shut off for maybe 3 or 4 days and then I'll think about him again. I've been like this for a year!! We met up again in September and he told me he secretly enjoyed watching my cry while he said "Hmmm I don't think there'll ever be another chance for us Dan, you hurt me too much" I tried SO hard to get back with him but he was enjoying single life too much. That's when me and Gray got together (blah blah).
Anyway, my "I hate men" attitude is completely false I've recently realised Ash emailed me the other day (Red: Me, Blue: Ash) All copied and pasted lol.
"Hello. How's things?"
Hiya, nice to hear from you. How are you? Hope you're ok.
Yeah things are going ok thanks. Planning life as a singleton lol I've given up on men now completely! How's things on the "love" front for you?
I was only talking about you yesterday. One of the girls at work knows your family, Lucie Chamberlain? They're from Potton..
Anyway, hope you're ok, and it is really nice to hear from you xx
yeah im good thanks, just passed my first electical exam. i work as a electrician now love it.
love front dunno really kinda seeing this girl clare but im not looking for anythin serious. i like being sinlge to much lol. we'll jus see what happens suppose.
oh yeah? think i know her. how did u get talkin bout me?
hows things going with the baby?
x
Oh well done!! That's wicked news. Bet you actually LIKE going to work now!
Hang on a minute, you sent that message at 7:40 IN THE MORNING! You crazy fool, hungover?
Ah that's good, as long as you're enjoying yourself it doesn't matter ) I am happy for you that you're happy.
Just randomly, if someone says something like "I went to Alton Towers" I say something like "I've been there - Ash took me" or "when me and Ash did this.." etc and I said the other day "Ash's Mum does dog grooming" and Lucie asked what your surname was and she said "all this time you've talked about Ash and I bloody know him!!" It was wierd!
The baby lol... OK, well I'm 30 weeks, got 10 weeks to go now, it's a girl, I'm calling her Evie, her "Sperm Donor" as I like to call him lol hasn't been in touch since New Year so he doesn't want anything to do with her so it wasn't very nice at first but he's definitely not going to be suddenly turning up on the doorstep... I guess it's just a case of getting on with it and doing my best. Not ideal in the slightest but we'll manage I'm sure.
Hope everything else is going well for you. It is really nice to hear from you )
xx
Who the f*ck is Reece?! (Army ex) I've completely dropped him now because of this "old flame" - I haven't even thought about him once!
I'm absolutely crumbling here... Can't believe this is happening and part of me HATES Ash for contacting me again, he KNOWS how much it hurts me when we talk again, only for me to later realise he was "just wondering how I am and doesn't want to meet up for a chat"
Now he's contacted me, I'm checking my emails constantly, I even set my alarm this morning for 8am to check them because I know he goes to football at 9am
I genuinely believe that I am "meant" to be with Ash and that if there was ever the chance to be with him I wouldn't even hesitate. I questioned Reece, I've admitted how worried I am about relationships, and yet, here is a bloke who I am head over heels for STILL and I would happliy drop everything to just be with him again.
I know what love is, I just didn't nurture ours the way it needed to be nurtured I let it fall apart and however much Ash tried to stop it, I actually let it and I am so angry with myself - it's my biggest regret in life.
Just needed to get it all off my chest... xx
*UPDATE*
I emailed Ash today (after no reply to my last message) saying;
Hello again,
I'm just replying again because this has been playing on my mind (you contacting me so out of the blue like this)...
It's really hard for me to hear from you knowing that it's not going to lead anywhere and that it'll end on "ok, well take care of yourself and good luck with everything".
You know how I feel, I know you do. Nothing's changed. I absolutely adore you still and if you said to me tomorrow "let's try again" I wouldn't even hesitate and you know it! Fact is, I KNOW that's not going to happen, but there's part of me that holds that hope and it always will. So to still have "inbox empty" after what feels like a life time of waiting for a reply (lol OMG how sad am I sounding right now!?) is devastating for me!
I guess what I'm trying to say is that I know there is no hope for us ever to even try to sort things out and see how things go, I know there isn't, but when I hear from you I can't help it but those feelings come flooding back of missing you, loving you, realising how IN LOVE I was (and still am) with you etc and it hurts so badly to feel that again Then of course the guilt of everything comes back and it's just horrible. I really couldn't explain it properly if I tried.
See, I don't think you realise that this is going to take weeks to get over now. Even just a quick hello message has an affect on me which makes it hard to get through an hour without thinking about you!
Basically, only contact me if you're going to suggest us running away together to Gretna Green and getting married lol!! I'm joking! But you know what I mean? Hope so..
Sorry, I know you were probably "just seeing how I am" but when I check my facebook every 5 mins to see if you've replied really gets me upset.
I'm sorry, you're probably thinking "WTF?" but if I don't say all this now, I'll just keep checking my messages constantly in the hope that you ask to meet up or something...
xx
He then came online and said "hello, I've just got your message on Facebook Dan" and by the time I'd finished speaking to my Mum and read his message, he'd gone offline again!
I think this will be the last bit of communication between us now... There's no way he'll reply x