My secret is out! :(

[kedi376]

I've not really told anyone I'm pregnant. My immediate family know and I know my parents have told my auntie and uncle, but I don't see them, so that's cool and my best mate knows.

I'd told my boss from around 9 weeks, as he knew about the miscarriages but that is all.

Today one of the girls at work pulled me aside and asked if I was pregnant. She has noticed my belly has change (!) and I've been looking really tired for weeks. She knew about one of the miscarriages so I guess she has been looking out for it.

But DAM!!! I thought nobody would notice for another few weeks! I'm still wearing my normal clothes so didn't think I had changed that much.

I've sworn her to secrecy, as I still don't want people to know, I don't want the attention or people talking about me.

So I guess my secret is out

 

[katey123]

I understand what you mean, It's weird isn't it , all the time in beginning I was just dieing to tell people, but now I've had my scan and it's time to tell my mum and all the family I feel like I don't want to any more I like my special secret my little bubble . xx

 

[calphurnia7]

i'd told everyone and also that I am having a boy, I am crap at keeping my mouth shut

 

[kedi376]

I understand what you mean, It's weird isn't it , all the time in beginning I was just dieing to tell people, but now I've had my scan and it's time to tell my mum and all the family I feel like I don't want to any more I like my special secret my little bubble . xx

Yeah at the beginning I thought I would burst. But not now, I like it being a secret.

 

[babyem]

I quite like it that people at work know, as they're always looking out for me and making sure me and baby are ok They're always asking after me and making sure I have a stool to sit on, or a brew! x

 

[Loula]

youve kept it secret for soo long x

 

[EssJayPea]

i'd told everyone and also that I am having a boy, I am crap at keeping my mouth shut

Ditto. I'd be crap in an interrogation scenario xx

 

[kedi376]

youve kept it secret for soo long x

I'm hoping to get to 20 weeks before I have to tell other people.

 

[JJ Mum]

Oh no!! I had a cvs and so we waited till 17 weeks to tell the kids, and then I decided I liked people not knowing like you do! Then at 20 weeks, I walked from the photocopier to my desk and saw a male workmate do a double take at my belly, so I got to my desk and sent an email round to tell everyone to save any questions etc or staring but not asking as I was not really fat either, but it's amasing how much you will have changed and not notticed yourself....

 

[leesey]

I started showing early so I basically told people at work after my 12 week scan. I was glad people knew, so that they realised when I was tired and sick, I wasn't just being lazy or making excuses. I don't think I could've got through the last 4/5 months at work if they hadn't known, I'm just getting more and more exhausted and sore.
I think it's a totally individual thing, but even if I hadn't wanted to tell people I'd have been rubbish at keeping the secret!! xx

 

[CARNAT22]

I see my family and OH's family very regularly so we didn't feel right keeping it a secret (even though I loved no-one knowing) we told immediate family at 10 weeks, but we'd already both told a few friends?

I told work after 12 week scan only as I started to show from about 11 weeks

I wasn't super slim (size 10) but my belly was noticeable.

I wanted to tell people rather than be "outed" so to speak so that was my main motivation.

You have to do what feels right for you though sweetie

xxxxxxxxx

 

[babyem]

I started showing early so I basically told people at work after my 12 week scan. I was glad people knew, so that they realised when I was tired and sick, I wasn't just being lazy or making excuses. I don't think I could've got through the last 4/5 months at work if they hadn't known, I'm just getting more and more exhausted and sore.
I think it's a totally individual thing, but even if I hadn't wanted to tell people I'd have been rubbish at keeping the secret!! xx

Same!

 

[Leah04x]

You've done sooo well keeping it a secret until now! I'm rubbish at keeping secrets haha xx

 

[kedi376]

I guess I haven't felt that bad during the past 15 weeks and I feel really good now. Yeah I'm tired, but I'm always tired. I'm normally up by 5am, in the office by 7am or driving 2 hours to get somewhere else. I'm fairly used to 12 and 14 hour days.

People at work will always talk about it if they know and I want to stay professional. I'm a senior manager and don't want people thinking I can't do the job because I'm pregnant.

I'm still not gonna say anything, I'll just let people guess I think. There are a few that would never guess, they are way too stupid! LOL

 

[babyem]

I like seeing peoples faces when they realise you are pregnant and never knew!

I was at work on Monday and in theatre with a doctor and my mentor, and my mentor mentioned me being pregnant in conversation. Well the doctors face was a picture! She never knew or had any inclination that I was! I wish I had a pic of her face! My mentor said how did you not know, look at her bump! To which she replied, 'well I dont really tend to go round looking at nurses tummys!'

x

 

[katey123]

I told my mum today , she said she knew and was worried why I hadn't told her , which made me cry which made her cry too. After we'd finished sobbing she said congrats and that she's very happy for us all , and I welled up again, bloody hormones ,his parents next weekend I best take plenty of tissues xx

 

[janey78]

I can't believe your still in your normal clothes :O This is my first am may be because I am quite slim but my stomach is big and has been for a few weeks. There is no way I could hide mine

 

[kedi376]

I can't believe your still in your normal clothes :O This is my first am may be because I am quite slim but my stomach is big and has been for a few weeks. There is no way I could hide mine

It's probably because I am plus size?

 

[kedi376]

I told my mum today , she said she knew and was worried why I hadn't told her , which made me cry which made her cry too. After we'd finished sobbing she said congrats and that she's very happy for us all , and I welled up again, bloody hormones ,his parents next weekend I best take plenty of tissues xx

It's strange how you're Mum knew, Mum's are so clever! I wonder if I'll ever be as clever as mine?? I can't imagine how she must have felt you not telling her and the relief when you did. I'm not surprised you cried, I think I would have without the hormones!! LOL

 

[katey123]

I use to saying with my kids all the time ' mum knows all' it just shows how true it is .
It was the fact that she had been worrying because she thought there was a reason that I hadn't told her that's why I think it got me badly then obviously the relief that everything was ok after all your right kedi it was very emotional day all round .