Jen & Her Men
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My Fiance and I have been together almost for 1 year and during this time we have gone out a lot and enjoyed a drink. We said long before I got pregnant that we need to cut down as he has been desperate for kids and I said that we needed to cut down on alcohol if we were going to get pregnant as I come from a childhood where my biological dad and step dad were both heavy drinkers and I didnt want my child growing up in that environment because its horrible! He agreed but I fell pregnant nearly immediatley after this. Of course I stopped drinking straight away and havent touched a drop since but he just keeps carrying on. Its really really horrible sitting watching him get drunk most nights. It s made me realise that its not just that he enjoys it but almost dependant on it which is worrying and also to be honest very unappealing.
I have talked to him about this time and time again. We ended up having a huge argument on Sunday as he went out drinking for 2 hours Sunday afternoon and came home steaming drunk. He can be very short tempered when he is this drunk and his personality changes - never violent but a bit aggressive and not like the man I love at all. I got v v v upset and he promised he wouldnt drink again. But every night since then he has gone on about having a drink ( although he hasnt) until last night when we had a big chat about why I didnt want him drinking - not just for the baby but also for me and his health and how he can change and how its not nice for me to see him like that. He said ok, then I went to bed as I was v tired and he was really pushing me to go upstairs. This morning I come down to find 3 empty beer bottles in the kitchen and he said he had had "just 3" last night and I didnt mind did I? THen he apologised and said he wouldnt do it again and told me not to go on! So now I dont know what to do - its as though he was shifting me off to bed asap so he could have a beer and then thinks that because he has said sorry I should just forgive him! But I feel he has deceived me and I really resent him - as a mother you have to sacrifice so much - surely he can give up beer for the sake of his wife to be and unborn child?? It takes two to create the baby and just because its me that carries it and not him, shouldnt mean that he doesnt take his responsibilities seriously - especially when he was so keen to have one in the first place! He keeps saying he will give up when the baby comes but I think he should be doing it for me and not just for the baby. Can anyone help me? Am I overreacting because Im hormonal??
I have talked to him about this time and time again. We ended up having a huge argument on Sunday as he went out drinking for 2 hours Sunday afternoon and came home steaming drunk. He can be very short tempered when he is this drunk and his personality changes - never violent but a bit aggressive and not like the man I love at all. I got v v v upset and he promised he wouldnt drink again. But every night since then he has gone on about having a drink ( although he hasnt) until last night when we had a big chat about why I didnt want him drinking - not just for the baby but also for me and his health and how he can change and how its not nice for me to see him like that. He said ok, then I went to bed as I was v tired and he was really pushing me to go upstairs. This morning I come down to find 3 empty beer bottles in the kitchen and he said he had had "just 3" last night and I didnt mind did I? THen he apologised and said he wouldnt do it again and told me not to go on! So now I dont know what to do - its as though he was shifting me off to bed asap so he could have a beer and then thinks that because he has said sorry I should just forgive him! But I feel he has deceived me and I really resent him - as a mother you have to sacrifice so much - surely he can give up beer for the sake of his wife to be and unborn child?? It takes two to create the baby and just because its me that carries it and not him, shouldnt mean that he doesnt take his responsibilities seriously - especially when he was so keen to have one in the first place! He keeps saying he will give up when the baby comes but I think he should be doing it for me and not just for the baby. Can anyone help me? Am I overreacting because Im hormonal??