Hi there. If you do a search on crowgirl you will see that me and my partner have been through a long and drawn out pregnancy which sadly ended up not being viable. I had a missed misscarriage at 9 weeks and had to decide whether to wait for it to happen naturally (which could have taken a month or more) have a d and c or a medical miscarriage.After a lot of soul searching I opted for the medical miscarriage as I thought it was slightly more natural and less intrusive than a d and c (although my consultant siad that in my case, either were viable options).The natural way appealed because it was natural but I realised that I was sectretly hoping for a miracle and that it would prolong the grieving process for too long to be good for me.Ive decided to post my experience as I know when I had to decide I searched and searched for peoples expereinces of both to help me decide what to do. I was very scared of having this done as I hate blood and pain, but actually I handled it alright and think I made the right decision. It was sore but not agony as I imagined and I was surpised at how well I coped as im a real wuss and hate gore and pain!.On Friday I went to the early pregancy unit and had one last scan to reassure me that a miracle hadnt happened.This was very important for me as I had not bled or lost my symptoms and kept having tearful moments when I wondered if theyd made a mistake and if it was ok after all (the cruelty of missed miscarriage is that you never feel there is anything wrong as your body carries on being pregnant even after the baby has stopped growing) The scan still showed the baby had not grown any more so I took home the tablet and took it on saturday morning (this softens the cervix) and apart from the odd slight cramp I had no symptoms.The weekend was long and I dreaded monday. When it came I was calmer than I thought, as id been through such a lot over the last 3 weeks I felt stronger than id anticipcated.i was teary just before they gave me the first suppository (3 tablets) but the midwife reassurred me I was doing the right thing and siad that she was pro life and would never have suggested a medical termination unless she was sure. I had mild cramping but no bleeding until the second batch 3 hours later when the cramps were a bit worse and I had a bit of bleeding.I worried then as I really wanted it to happen in hospital where I felt safe. the third batch bought on more cramping (like really bad period pains) and I took co codomol to help and passed a few blood clots but I still didnt pass the sac which would normally happen within the day.I was really upset as the midwife told me it may take a week to pass on its own and the whole point of having the medical mgt was so that I could move on with my situation and get back to normal and TTC asap. (The alternative would have been to come back in 48 hours and do the whole thing again.if this didnt work i could wait to do it naturally or have a d and c) What happened in the end was that I went home very deflated and crampy but thank goodness within 1/2 hr of getting there passed the sac (which looked like a big blood clot/livery thing ......which again very weirdly didnt freak me out...I just felt a huge sense of relief the second Id done it. I put it a container as the hospital will analyse it to see if there was anything obvisouly wrong to cause it). I continued to cramp (and still am) mildly and bleed mildly but am really ok apart from being extremely tired and a bit weak as ive lost a fair bit of blood I suspect. (I wonder if a D and c makes you feel like this.....if not I guess its worth baring this in mind if you are deciding too...)Tomorrow I am going to the hospital for a scan to check the pregnancy has gone and have blood tests. I hope I havent been too graphic in this post, but I know I was looking for one like it myself before I made my decision so really hope it helps someone. I think these decisions are very personal and its really important to chose whats right for you. For me I feel like ive come full circle by doing it this way and have got some kind of closure.i know im going to have some sad times ahead but the main thing is we can try again was soon as I get my next period (which will be 3-6 weeks) so we are trying to look ahead and not back. Very very good luck to anyone going through this sad time and thank you to all those who have taken the time and trouble to post me over the last few weeks and support me through this difficult time.I hope to see you in the first trimester website before too long. lots of love and good karma to you all... cx