my dads ashamed

[Vicki & Nathan]

well i dont really know where to start.
i have been with my OH since last march and now have a baby boy.
but.... im still married to someone else!
i got married at 18 (in secret) and lasted for 5 years. i was never really that happy and it ended march 2006.
i had been talking to paul (my fiancee now) for a few months online and he only lived 5 mins away. it got me realising i wasnt happy and that i was too young to be 'stuck' so i ended my marriage.
anyway we started seeing eachother and things got serious and in oct last year i fell pregnant.
i knew by this point i was happy and wanted the baby and that i was mature enough to cope with it.
anyway my dad works with my ex and refuses to tell him about nathan (even though he himself has now moved in with someone else)
he hasnt even told anyone at work about him cos he thinks they will slag me off cos im still married
so basically he wont tell anyone he is a grandad now which i think its something he should be proud of not ashamed!

 

[krystal&jack]

i'm really sorry to hear your dad won't tell anyone, have you told him how you feel?

I too am still married but now with someone else and we have just had Jack. Your nt the first and you certainly won't be the last. I sometimes think our parents find it hard cos they were brought up to think differently, in those days it was bad to have a child with someone other than your husband.

have a good chat

 

[Vicki & Nathan]

my dad is quite old fashioned
i have tried talking to him but he just says he wont tell anyone at work about his private business
its my business not his!

 

[mrs_tommo22]

I guess the only thing is not to br upse about it, just remind yourself your dad was brought up in a different era with different traditons and values.

Hes not ashamed, it was called keeping mum in those days.

 

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[M&Ms]

Wow! I'm not alone on this one. I too am still married (welll at least until divorce comes through late this year) and have a baby with someone else. I'm not with the father of my baby now either. Does this make me a government statistic all on my own? Afterall I am a married/single mother all at the same time

 

[Minime]

My folks are quite old fashionned but they hate my ex husband with such a passion that anything I do now is soooo much better lol!

I was married until I got a divorce literally weeks before eefie was born. I'm with eefie's dad but we're not married which in his culture is a bit naughty but like I care

I'd confront your dad and say something along the lines of him having more respect for your ex than his grandson and this is the 21st century where women have a choice!

 

[Babylicious]

I can totally sympathise with you, I'd definately say it was an era thing doesn't make it any easier for you though

 

[lisa&alex]

i would say try not to worry about it. alex is quite private and has only told one person at work that i am pregnant.. and that was coz i fell down the stairs and he needed a lift home.. so he told him then.. at the end of the day.. telling people at work shouldnt matter to you? if he doesnt have a relationship with your son thats his loss.. as long as your family (3 of you) are happy try not to stress.

 

[*saulino*]

Hi

i would be so upset too maybe sit down and have a long talk with him and tell him how your feeling?
Katrina