My bloody mother!

[Melanie]

My mam is doing my head in, she has been since the day she found out she is going to be a grandma.

She is understandably upset that we are leaving the country for two years in June, fair enough i get that but hell she doesnt have to tell every single person we meet that I'm taking away her grandchild. Its getting old and real annoying.

This morning she told me she hates both the baby names we have chosen. She think the girls name (Thea Louise) sounds old and frumpy. The boys name (Gabriel Lucas) is in her words just totally stupid and laughable and she will just call the baby Luke instead.

Right now i dont care if I ever speak to the miserable cow ever again!

 

[weestar21]

omg thats terrible hun!!!!! maybe the break away for 2 years will make her think about what shes saying and hopefully if and when yous get back she will be back to her old self before you got pg.

Good luck and all the best for the future

xxxxxxxxx

 

[Daggers]

oh dear! Sort of know what you're going through as my mom lives in Holland, my poor sister got the brunt of it last year when she had her baby boy (mom's first grandchild). My mom was over protective and sometimes quite pushy! Don't think she quite understood her role as a grandmother. She has chilled out a 'bit' but still I feel at times that she gives us the guilt trip, at the moment she keeps going on about HAVING to see me before I have the baby - apparently she is threatening to come in June, July and August (a bit much for my liking!!). Luckily we haven't really discussed baby names, but trust me what ever we chose she'll have to deal with (as per the rest of the family!).
Sounds like maybe your mom just feels the need to be in control, after all you are her daughter (of which she always had control over - or at least when you were young), and maybe she feels this is her role now. Might be worth looking at a few of the grandparenting books out there, might get one for my mom!

 

[Hypnorm]

i love the name Thea! don't worry i think shes just laying the guilt trip on you. she will probably be fine once you've gone away, you can jsut send her loads of pics, or videos.

 

[budge]

oh lord melanie don;t fall out with your mum . Mines the same. Critisising everything i do and the names i choose and suggesting vile names instead. Its the way they are and we'll never change that./
You know what i do now. I never breath a word of the chosen names until i have the baby then i say ' ive had a girl mother and her name is....' and she doesn't have chance to say she doesn't like it as its all done and dusted.
Try and tollerate her. I reckon some mums are jealous too of the position we are in.
Make up mel - lifes too short to bicker over things that in a year or so's time won't be remembered or matter.

 

[Melanie]

Thanks girls,
Budge i know you are right and I need to make things up with her. She's my mam and i love her but man i want to strangle her lately!

Well there will be five countries between us soon so that should stop the arguing lol

 

[budge]

i suspect you will miss her terribly too.

 

[snowbunny]

Well i'm really sorry to hear you and your mum are struggling i havn't told mine yet i'm 10 weeks and honestly i now she will be therefore me but i think her and my dad are gonna be really funny when they find out. To them my choice of partner is not a desirable one!

Any ideas on how to drop the bomb

Love Snowbunny X

 

[lauramumof2]

Its like me calling you Jennifer. Its not your name so you arent going to acknowledge it. People have to be called by their proper names.

Its not even worth falling out over hunny, those are the names you have picked and thats what the baby will be called. End of story.

It sounds like a defence mechanism to me though, if she can think of a reason to be annoyed with you and the baby then right now it wont let her miss you as much but she is going to so she will have to face up to it.

These days people jet around the world like second nature so its not as if she wont see you and there is email, forums, webcams etc.

Did any of that make any sense or should I stop now.