Moving to her own room..

[Momma`Kat]

Ok this isnt about when to move a baby, its in here for a reason

My OH wants me to move her at 6 months into her own room so that at bedtime, he can have me to himself so to speak. But to be honest, I REALLY couldnt care less about DTD and would MUCH rather lie in bed with her next to me and bond with her while she is still little, she is growing way to fast and I already feel like im missing out.

So how do i nicely tell him to shove it, shes staying?

 

[tinytoes]

I would just tell him straight that your not ready to move her into her own room yet and that it would upset you , I'm sure he will understand . Suggest that he finds other ways of enjoying "alone time " with you there is always nap times other room .

 

[Laverne]

If you did comply with your hubby's demands Momma K, what would you feel that you're missing out on? I can only speak from personal experience but my daughter was in her own room after a couple of weeks. She's now three and a half and my bond with her is as strong and loving as ever - I certainly don't think that moving her into her own bedroom at what some consider to be too early has ever had a negative effect on my relationship with her (nor my OH incidentally ) at all and nor did I feel that I missed out on any part of her development by doing this.

The tie that you have with your little one is a work in progress and continues throughout his or her life, I very much doubt that a small break from your child at the end of the day is going to influence those ties detrimentally - just ‘cos your baby isn’t at your side 24/7 it doesn’t mean that the parenting bond is gonna be negatively affected.

Why don’t you both try to come to an agreement that suits both parties? For example have some family cuddles before your little ones bedtime and then put her in her own room. My OH, our daughter and I still do this before her putting her to bed, just chilling out on our bed with some books for 30 minutes before her 7.30pm bedtime - it’s one of my favourite times of the day.

I’ve re-read the above and I apologise that it doesn’t necassarily support your opinion however as mentioned, I only have my own experience as a point of reference.

Good Luck with whatever you decide.

 

[AugustMum]

As tinytoes has said really, just be honest I think. He might be a little mardy about it but maybe while she has naps you could have some time together if you both wanted, meet in the middle kind of thing.

I don't think that mommakat believes shes going to have less of a bond with her LO if shes in a different room, I think it's more than she want to take advatange of the little time we have with our babies while they still so young.

I think its lovely to lay in bed with them when they're so young. I cant do this with Paige anymore as she'd rather try jump off the side of the bed now or crawl around the landing. I miss our little naps and sleeps together.