Mmc

[Rach beattie]

My typing is woeful I am so tired ATM. Still trying to get used to this full time working business haha in bed for 9 every night and asleep around 10 flip sake lol. I guess we will just have to see what each cycle brings us. I am def going to opk next time tho x

 

[Melly41]

I used opks for several months last year with no luck. Fell pregnant in july without using opks so who knows! Hope you sleep well x

 

[Melly41]

Morning....how are you?? Did you cave? If not...well done! Keeping fingers crossed for you. Could do with some good news! Still feeling low...cannot seem to shake it off. Also feeling a bit sick today so think i might be coming down with something....usually would be wishing to feel sick but as im cd7 having just finished af...it would be a miracle!! Haha!

Might head home a bit earlier...hope youre doing ok x

 

[Rach beattie]

Hey no I haven't caved altho was a bit crampy again earlier so maybe af is coming soon! Fingers crossed. I'm trying my best not to test until at least Sunday as I have no symptoms of either af really or pregnancy so don't want the disappointment. Took myself shopping with my first full time pay and hit the bank account hard to cheer myself up haha but at least Xmas shopping is now started. Sorry to hear u r feeling low it really is ebbs and flows and u think ur ok and then bam it hits u again. I would have been 17 weeks today and we would have knew what we were having and it's hard. How is ur monitor going? X

 

[Melly41]

I would have been 17 wks yesterday too! Monitor going ok. Just wonderinv if we should do the sperm meets egg plan. Has really good success for those that have had a recent mc....40%! It suggests to dtd every other day from cd8 (tom) yhen when opk is positive to dtd 3 nights in a row, have 4th night off the dtd one final time for luck the day after your night off! Might talk to DH to see what he thinks but tbh i reckon he will just say lets enjoy it and not stress over it! So who knows! Well done for not caving....sensible plan x

 

[Rach beattie]

I have read about that too and I think I might give it a go. We have just been dtd every other day ATM the whole way through since I don't know where I am in the cycle haha x

 

[Melly41]

Youvr definately got yourself covered.just hoping its good news for you....it would be fab x

 

[Melly41]

Just checking on with you. Is af staying away? Hope so! Im cd8 today so will think about dtd ltr. Talked with DH about egg meets sperm plan so if we decided to do that then need to dtd tonight....am knackered tho and feeling a bit coldy...maybe after dinner and a rest i'll be up for it! Haha!

 

[Rach beattie]

Af is still away altho I don't no if that is a good thing flip sake lol. Nipples were sore again last night altho boobs aren't and I have had heartburn which I do get anyway so who knows. Don't feel pregnant tho. Treating myself to a wee glass of mulled wine tonight haha. I know the feeling it's hard to have the energy all the time but I think the smep sounds very promising so worth a go x

 

[Melly41]

Lovely...mulled wine! So comforting! Sore nipples are a really good sign, esp if you dont usually get them. Altho tbh, who knows what happens to your body during your first cycle after mc! Youre right emsp does sound good...for over 40's and for those that have had mc....anything is worth a try i guess x

 

[Rach beattie]

Still no af every so often I get a bit crampy then it goes

 

[Melly41]

You should do a test...even if to just rule it out as you prob 12dpo now so any hcg likely to be picked up now. At least of its negative you know af will arrive soon and you can move onto new cycle xx

 

[Rach beattie]

I might test tomoro altho I've only ic but I'm sure they will work ok. So so tired today have no motivation for work. How r u today? X

 

[Melly41]

IC's arent very reliable so dont be disheartened! Exciting stuff...will be checking regularly tom! If its not your month....i reckon next month will be! Would be lovely if you get bfp but the time between bfn and ttc again is so short...it does come around really fast!

Im ok thanks. Had a heart to heart with DH about ttc....we didnt finish conversation as kids were about. Trying to work out if ttc is the best thing for us. I have two lovely kids and worry about impact on them and how we will cope with such a big age gap. I was so happy to get bfp in july even though it wasnt planned. I think it was much better that it wasnt planned as we didnt have a choice like we have now and we are the type of people to make the most of things so were really excited after the initial shock! Think my head has been all over the place this week. I also read 50% of women over 40 have mc's so its very likely id have to go through this again which i dont know whether i could. DH is perhaps less keen to try again than i am but think he would still be up for trying if i want to. ATM i really want to be pregnant again but then last night was having doubts....im so confused and have no idea what to do....if only i was a few years younger...i think it would be so much easier to decide! Still dtd last night with plan to dtd tom if we agree to continue to do emsp.

Will talk again tonight with DH...but have parents evening at 7.30 so not much time alone again to talk! Sorry for offload....you need to distract me with a bfp! X

 

[Rach beattie]

Hi melly sorry the late reply work was manic. Please don't think ur age is a factor in how u r feeling cus I have felt exactly the same way. It's a very hard decision to make to have another child as the consequences r huge, will money be ok? What will we do for childcare? Etc etc and when it is planned u sort of feel like well we made this decision. But when it just happens u have to deal with it. If that makes sense? I have the same am I doing the right thing? Should I just be happy with what I have got? But only u will know deep down what u want. Onto the age gap lol. I don't think I have told u this bit I have a sister 12 years younger than me. I adored having a baby in the house and it taught me responsibility. (Plus it's child care on tap in a few years haha!) now her and Ruby r so close as she was an aunty at 10 and Ruby looks to her like a big sister. Anyway I hope this makes u feel better and u choose whatever is best for u and ur family big hugs x

 

[Melly41]

Just think ive had a very emotional week. We talked again and decided to go for it. Im not hopeful it will happen so being realistic. We might give it till after Christmas and then call it a day. I think we need to have an end point.

How are you this morning? Did you take the test? Got everything crossed x

 

[Rach beattie]

It's an emotional rollercoaster this business. I'm ok felt nauseous this morning before breakfast which was weird but a bfn. Very bloated so maybe af is coming altho no symptoms x

 

[Melly41]

If it was an IC then i wouldnt take that as a bfn. Theyre not reliable. Saw someone photos on another thread....a definate bfn on IC but a lovely pink line on first response.both are supposed to be 10miu/ml. If youre bloated and feel nauseous thats positive signs

My end ive got an increase in cm but not ewcm yet (sorry tmi!) So i think ovulation is likelt in next few days. Cb fertility monitor was high again but opk at lunchtime was negative. Not sure whether to dtd tonight or tomorrow. DH out tonight so would have to be quick! Only CD10 so reckon CD14/16 will be peak.

Will you get a different hpt or wait? I dont think i could wait lol!

Btw...thanks for your kind message....made me feel alot better about being older and having a big age gap. Sounds like it was nice to be the grown up child? X

 

[Rach beattie]

I might get a first response over the weekend altho I'm hesitant to test as don't want to see a bfn lol. I don't have sore boobs which has been a sigh for me both times before tho. Ooo that sounds good sound like ur cycle is getting back to normal this time which is fab.

No problem at all. Yes I loved being the older sibling and always helped my mum out and on the plus side while I'm at work this morning my wee sister is babysitting haha so it all works out. My aunty is 38 and her ds is 13 and she had a little girl in January so it's quite common in our family x

 

[Melly41]

I bet your wee sister is not so wee now! Defo get first responses and remember if it is a bfn you can at least be sure of dates in you conceive next cycle! I guess if you wait till sunday/mondays and still no af then youd be 15/16dpo so if negative then very unlikely youll be pregnant. Testing today at 13dpo (?) With an IC might just be too early or not using a reliable test.

Apparently full moon tomorrow so there is an old wives tale than more women conceive on a full moon! Might have to dtd tom aswell lol!