Men make me laugh

[littlemonkey]

I'm sorry I had to share this here! I'm currently in hospital and it's looking increasingly likely I'll be here for the next week until my planned section date or they will deliver baby early.

I've just been on the phone to OH who is having a complete nervous breakdown about everything that needs done around the house, he's complaining about washing needing done and put away, a food shop needs done and there's loads of stuff that needs tidied up.

I think he's finally realised all the hard work I've been doing on my days off and mat leave! I have no sympathy for him!!

 

[mylullaby]

Sounds like the perfect way to show him how much effort goes into running a household - and that's before you throw a baby into the mix! Hope you're ok xx

 

[Pismo]

This made me LOL He must be feeling lost without you at home telling him what needs to be done...

x

 

[Coletteypie]

Lol....oh my goodness!!! Men - i am shaking my head for you. He's stressed out and you're the one in hospital!? Oh dear... lol!

 

[littlemonkey]

Sounds like the perfect way to show him how much effort goes into running a household - and that's before you throw a baby into the mix! Hope you're ok xx

Mylullaby, we have a two year old already and up until a month ago I was working full time as well!

He's suddenly realising that the days I was off in the week and LO went to the childminders weren't actually days off at all for me!

I've only been in hospital two days as well! I'm dreading to think what my home will be like when I get back!!

 

[Durhamchance]

Lol! Mine went through this last week when I was admitted.

 

[buggy1]

It's true, they just don't realise how much we do until they're forced to help out!

 

[Nomad]

Yep, mine would be exactly the same! I've got a toddler and work three days a week, the two days I'm at home with lo I try and get things done round the house but it's not always possible but he still refers to them as my 'days off' and thinks I've got it easy! I'm far more tired at the end of my 'days off' than I am when I've had a day at work!!

Hope you're doing ok in hospital x

 

[Snaveanator]

Mines been using his paternity leave to have nice long lay ins (until 10:30) followed by leisurely gym workouts so he isn't usually home until 2pm!)

I have to single handedly get myself, my newborn and my son up dressed and ready to get him to school on time every day!

 

[Ionaprie]

Oh dear!! Won't do him any harm!! My husband would be exactly the same!!

 

[littlemonkey]

To be fair to my OH because we both work full time and I was on shifts, he does pull his weight around the house with certain things. Like the dishes, washing and hoovering. There's other jobs he's oblivious to, like putting clothes away and cleaning the bath room!

He just doesn't have the same sense of organisation I do. He didn't realise we needed the food shop until giving LO his breakfast this morning and realised half the stuff was out of date, whereas I have it in the back of my mind to pop to the shop for fresh stuff every few days.

It's also helped me see how much I've been doing and realise why my blood pressure has been going up!

 

[monkeynut]

Mines been using his paternity leave to have nice long lay ins (until 10:30) followed by leisurely gym workouts so he isn't usually home until 2pm!)

I have to single handedly get myself, my newborn and my son up dressed and ready to get him to school on time every day!

no way on earth would that be happening in my house!

This post does make me laugh, my husband is fab as we work opposite shifts (but his are a lot longer) and he has to sort the kids/house out when I'm at work but he thinks the bathrooms clean themselves, the bedding changes itself and his washing washes itself and puts itself away
Since I've been on maternity leave we have been taking it in turns for lie ins (he doesn't start work until 11am ish).

 

[MrsS143]

I'm really lucky
We share everything
We have a white board in the kitchen and anytime stuff runs out it goes on the bosrd as a shopping list
And any big 'to do' tasks that we think oh need to remember that!

He'll do dishes, hoover, mop, laundry (wash and dry, sometimes he'll fold)
Some stuff hes oblivious to like cleaning the bathroom, stripping the bed, polishing etc ... id need to prompt them but he'd do it if i told him it needed doing... he rarely moans about stuff
And we tend to go shopping together, cook together and so on
I've got it quite good

From early on i think i made him feel guilty i was always busy tidying his crap up... so we became a team and done it together as it meant it was done quicker then we could just spend some nice time the 2 of us x

 

[bigbee]

Oh monkey, your poor husband!!! How will he cope?

Reading posts above just makes me so grateful for mine. He is amazing! I can't remember the last time I cooked a meal. He goes food shopping every weekend, and deals with all our bills. He has always been like this, I guess because he lived on his own until he was 31.

To be fair, I would be lost without him!!!

 

[littlemonkey]

[QUOTE Snaveanator;4188717]Mines been using his paternity leave to have nice long lay ins (until 10:30) followed by leisurely gym workouts so he isn't usually home until 2pm!)

I have to single handedly get myself, my newborn and my son up dressed and ready to get him to school on time every day![/QUOTE]

No chance of this ever happening in our house!

With our first my OH was doing a lot of night feeds etc cos I'd had a section he wanted me to have the rest at night. I didn't mind an early morning then.

I'm having another section so won't be able to drive and I've already advised OH he's getting our son out in the morning.

To be fair to my OH every thing has been done and he's visited me in hospital twice today. It was just so funny listening to him complaining about it all like I had no idea!!

 

[Snaveanator]

Baring in mind as well that I'm exclusively breastfeeding so I'm doing all the night shift as well! I get her on whilst she is still rooting so she doesn't make that much noise so it's not like she's up crying all night!

He's honestly been a complete and utter disappointment. Our normal thing is that I do house and childcare, he does work (as when he's working he does long hard hours) and usually he gets to the gym for 7. This worked well for us. We both did our things no resentment.

For the week before she was born he had 'gastroenteritis' (read: alcohol poisoning from attending a stag do when I was 38 weeks pregnant) so I was heavily pregnant looking after everyone else and cleaning everything frantically as we had a planned home birth, when really he should have been looking after me and taking little one to school.

Since she's been born it's been his routine... Have a bath in the evening, go to bed, sleep all night, leisurely lay in, long gym work out, come home and help out with Kimberley and Dexter for a few hours (usually until about 6) then when things start getting difficult (cooking and eating dinner, Kimberley starts cluster feeding and it's Dexters bed time) he starts playing on his bloody phone, then it's his bath time and all over again! He's not working ATM as he's on paternity leave. He seems to think that means 2 weeks off, not 2 weeks to help the partner to adjust

Last night I wanted to have a bath, and typically as soon as I've ran it Kimberley starts whinging, and straight away it's 'kara she's hungry!' Rather than try to rock her or pat her or shush her!

ARGH

 

[MrsG81]

Baring in mind as well that I'm exclusively breastfeeding so I'm doing all the night shift as well! I get her on whilst she is still rooting so she doesn't make that much noise so it's not like she's up crying all night!

He's honestly been a complete and utter disappointment. Our normal thing is that I do house and childcare, he does work (as when he's working he does long hard hours) and usually he gets to the gym for 7. This worked well for us. We both did our things no resentment.

For the week before she was born he had 'gastroenteritis' (read: alcohol poisoning from attending a stag do when I was 38 weeks pregnant) so I was heavily pregnant looking after everyone else and cleaning everything frantically as we had a planned home birth, when really he should have been looking after me and taking little one to school.

Since she's been born it's been his routine... Have a bath in the evening, go to bed, sleep all night, leisurely lay in, long gym work out, come home and help out with Kimberley and Dexter for a few hours (usually until about 6) then when things start getting difficult (cooking and eating dinner, Kimberley starts cluster feeding and it's Dexters bed time) he starts playing on his bloody phone, then it's his bath time and all over again! He's not working ATM as he's on paternity leave. He seems to think that means 2 weeks off, not 2 weeks to help the partner to adjust

Last night I wanted to have a bath, and typically as soon as I've ran it Kimberley starts whinging, and straight away it's 'kara she's hungry!' Rather than try to rock her or pat her or shush her!

ARGH

WOW!! Have you pulled him up about all this? If that was my husband it would be like WW3 in our house!

Both me and hubby work full time so generally split the chores. I usually do end up doing more than him but he's actually tried so hard during this pregnancy and has probably done more than me lately.

 

[Snaveanator]

Not yet. I'm going to point it out to him soon... Or wait until his mother makes another comment like she did the other day about the mornings 'yes but you have help.' And point out that, actually, I don't!

Ah you're lucky, fingers crossed mine bucks up his ideas soon!

 

[kitten2014]

after a fantastic home waterbirth you dont need that...defo speak to him about it as many have told me that the first two weeks are a two person job....it must be hard too if you're exclusively breastfeeding as that kinda lets him off some of it but I would make him sole nappy changer and washing organiser as a result... split the chores...my hubby is also off work but aside from popping to post office or supermarket he is home helping me...

 

[littlemonkey]

Snaveanator, you do realise most jury's would let you off with murder in your current condition if you did feel the need to bang any members of your family over the head with a frying pan