Memorials

[Sunshine_1]

What are you going to do to remember your lost little one?

I am making a memory box, placing in it my pregnancy test (sorry if you think thats a bit yuck!), my scan pic, my diabectic clinic record card (I was there every week from 6 weeks onwards) and not sure what else.

I am going to finish the cross stitch I was doing for the nursery and we are going to hang it in our room to remember baby.

I am also thinking of doing a balloon release, but can't even properly talk about it let alone organise it yet, and am also considering having the date I lost baby tattooed on me.

 

[claire23]

Hi Hun. sorry for your loss We are slightly diff situations so I won't put everything iv put in the memory box. but I'm having a tattoo for jack, you can buy lovely photo frames for scan pics in clintons and on eBay, I got my OH one for fathers day, you can also change the words on moonpig.com in cards to anything you like, I done one for fathers day and an "in loving memory one" for the memory box with a scan pic and a short poem inside (don't mean to sound morbid it's actually nice) I also have a scan pic and photo in my locket xxx

 

[claire23]

The cross stitch is a lovely idea by the way xxx

 

[jojo3972]

hiya i am going to do this but im not ready yet i hyave a scan and my notes and my pregnancy tests and i will buy a tiny little teddy that i can put in there but like i said im not ready yet, i to am getting a 2 tatoos for for both my losses at the end of the month on each wrist i will have the date of my loss and 2 tiny foot prints, some ppl may say this is a constant reminder for me but i say its a memory for my lost beans and i will think about my lost beans every day so a tatoo wont make aan ounce of difrence i will wear them with pride xxx

 

[Sunshine_1]

hiya i am going to do this but im not ready yet i hyave a scan and my notes and my pregnancy tests and i will buy a tiny little teddy that i can put in there but like i said im not ready yet, i to am getting a 2 tatoos for for both my losses at the end of the month on each wrist i will have the date of my loss and 2 tiny foot prints, some ppl may say this is a constant reminder for me but i say its a memory for my lost beans and i will think about my lost beans every day so a tatoo wont make aan ounce of difrence i will wear them with pride xxx

I think this baby is as much my baby as the one that is now nearly 14 years old, her name is on my shoulder, and as 'Blob' never had a name, I don't see why the date shouldn't be there. I am thinking of putting it on my hip or back or something, somewhere where it's not in my face and everyone won't ask about it all the time, but I know it's there. I'm just not rushing in to it as it is a permanent thing, I think I need to get my head together before I take on something like that so it won't be for a while yet.

The memory box is different, I see that as storing things away and getting on with my life, I asked for my record card back, but didn't want the rest of my notes.

Claire....how far gone were you? You sound like you have lots of things, I have sadly very few things for a very large box

 

[claire23]

That tattoo sounds lovely Jojo but do everything in your own time when your ready Hun xx

I was fullterm sunshine so thats why I have lots it's so painful losing a baby at any stage iv lost earlier babies too but didn't have anything to keep there are ways if you want to fill the box Hun, I have a personalised candle with the date on, we also named a star (it doesn't have to be a name) and have the certificate for that with the location and distances on, if you ever need a chat I'm only a message away xx

 

[Sunshine_1]

That tattoo sounds lovely Jojo but do everything in your own time when your ready Hun xx

I was fullterm sunshine so thats why I have lots it's so painful losing a baby at any stage iv lost earlier babies too but didn't have anything to keep there are ways if you want to fill the box Hun, I have a personalised candle with the date on, we also named a star (it doesn't have to be a name) and have the certificate for that with the location and distances on, if you ever need a chat I'm only a message away xx

Oh you poor, poor thing

I feel like wrapping every pregnant woman in the word up in cotton wool right now, in hope nobody ever has to go through this. I know it wouldn't work, but I just don't want to think of even my worst enemy suffering anything like this, and I can't even imagine what loosing one so late would be like

 

[claire23]

That's exactly what I feel like, would do anything to stop it happening to another mummy If only cotton wool worked eh?! Hope things get easier for you in time xx