M/C

Discussion in 'Coping with Miscarriage & Loss' started by fran_23, Jan 11, 2008.

  1. fran_23

    fran_23 Well-Known Member

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    fran_23 wrote:
    well for a few weeks i've been really tired, feeling really sick
    in the mornings and had loss of appetite until the late evening
    and needing to wee loads. i actually thought i was pregnant as i've
    also had a strong sense of smell! this week i've had a cold aswell
    and then the thing that happened this morning. i feel minimally
    better now- i havent been to my doctor as they are rubish and
    i hate going there!
    i'm now thinking maybe my iron is low as my periods have been
    really heavy (sorry tmi)

    i think i better just go to the docs!! i hope
    you dont get what i had today either cos its nasty, luckily
    hayden was out with his auntie today so i've had some rest!


    found out what was wrong with me- i got up with hayden at 7 this morning, was still being sick and then i felt really hot and shaky so i put him in his playpen and then i fainted, stewart phoned the doctor and they sent the district nurse out to me sorry if the next bit is tmi-
    i'm on the pill and my periods are light and last 4 days but i'm on the 7th day now and its still heavy i told the nurse that coz she was pressing my
    tummy and it was killing like bad cramp-anyway she asked to examine me and she thinks i'm miscarrying. i have felt ill for a couple of weeks
    but didnt think i was pg although i felt it- as i said i'm on the pill!
    so dont know how far along i was but i have to wait for the bleeding to stop and then be checked to make sure it was full and complete- just gotta rest for now- i'm really shocked! not sure how to feel really coz i
    didnt know about it and i just feel really really numb and confused.

    has this ever happened to anyone else??
    how the hell are u meant to feel?
     
  2. Linda

    Linda Well-Known Member

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    aw fran, im so sorry. I dont know how you should feel, i still dont feel anything. Up one minute, down next. Like you, I was using contraception and hadnt planned a pregnancy.

    I feel like I dont have the same right right to grieve because I didnt plan it, maybe it knew. Nobody on here has said anything to make me think that, the people on here are so supportive and Im so gratefull for them.

    Just let it all out or dont. Do what you have to and say what you want to.

    :hug: :hug: :hug:
     
  4. tracey 2

    tracey 2 Well-Known Member

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    sending all my love hun hope your ok and just PM if you ever need to talk we are all here for you :hug: :hug:
     
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    i dont know hun, im really sorry for your loss :hug: :hug:
     
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    take care hun and have plenty of rest, i dont really know what else to say :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug:
     
  7. fran_23

    fran_23 Well-Known Member

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    actually laura i think u just hit the nail on the head..
    i dont feel like i have the right to grieve because i didnt even
    know about it or plan it- i posted this in ask a mum coz it doesnt feel
    real or like a real problem, it doesnt matter if u didnt plan urs..you knew about it and felt happy you have every right to grieve! and btw if u ever wanna chat u know i'm here :hug: i feel guilty it being in this section with ppl who've had real losses! esp after what you've just been through hun!!
    i dont really feel anything just like maybe the nurse has made a mistake
    or something. although she took urine and phoned me back at 3.00 to
    say i had hcg levels or whatever its called so that confirmed there
    was a pregnancy.
    i'm just in a daze thanks for the support :hug: :hug: :hug:
     
  8. puppylove

    puppylove Well-Known Member

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    oh dear im sorry to hear about ur m/c take care :hug: :hug:
     
  9. babydust

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    :hug: i am really sorry :hug:
    there is no right or wrong way of how you should feel, but remember your emotions are bound to be all over the place just now, not only have you to deal with the shock of finding out you were pregnant but also the emotions of a m/c, just take it one day at a time :hug:
    take care
    and if you ever need a rant or support we are here
     
  10. chezzabell

    chezzabell Well-Known Member

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    awww Fran try not to beat yourself up about it, yes u didnt know you were pregant BUT you have still lost, and yes u can feel upset, and to be honest u have more things going on in ur head cos u didnt know, and now ur feeling, just as i know about the baby i have lost my baby, that alone is very difficult to deal with, as is knowing for a while then losing ur baby.

    I hope ur ok PM me if you need anything sorry hun :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug:
     
  11. Rubys mummy

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    Oh sweetheart, I am so sory to hear this :hug:

    Be kind to yourself xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
     
  12. LucyBee

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    So sorry Fran :cry: :hug:
     
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    Oh know, that must be quite difficult thing to hear that you are miscarrying without knowing your pregnant.

    IM so sorry, Only you know how you should feel hon as it has happened to you so just go with that.

    I hope you feel better soon

    :hug:
     
  14. fran_23

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    thank you to everyone for your kind posts-
    i cant sleep and reading them has made me feel much better.
    i know i'm gonna be fine i just feel numb and because i dont feel
    anything i feel like i'm evil- but i know i'm not i'm just shocked.
    anyway thanks again your messages are really appreciated,

    :hug: :hug: :hug:
     
  15. mummykay

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    thinkin of u Fran, take care of yourself - sendin lotsa hugs :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug:
     
  16. leckershell

    leckershell Well-Known Member

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    Fran the same thing happened to me when I was about 18. I was in no way trying for a baby and was on the pill, but then I had a miscarraige and I didn't have a clue what was happening - a pregnancy/miscarraige never occured to me until my boyfriends sister chatted to me about it (she was a nurse).

    I didn't know what to feel - I know I couldn't have dealt with a child at that stage of my life, or with that father... so I sorta felt :?

    If you feel sad or need to chat, please do come on here. Mine came back and affected me last year at work, completely out of nowhere, so deal with your situation as and when you need to so you don't bottle it up for years like me :hug:

    Hugs are definately in order for you :hug:, here if you want to chat if I can be of any help to you... I know exactly the situation you are in. x
     
  17. fran_23

    fran_23 Well-Known Member

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    Hi hun thanks for the message, it helps to know this can happen! i feel bad for not realising i was pregnant.
    anyway i've decided that it obviously wasnt meant to be.
    i'm gonna be happy with the gorgeous man i have and enjoy him
    i might ttc late next year. thats what i'd planned anyway! i'm gonna have
    to change pills again as this one also doesnt work for me or get the injection or something- and then get on with it- no point wallowing
    its not gonna help me or Hayden.

    thank you for your posts they have helped me,
    i'm too hard on myself a lot of the time- i'm going to chill out!!

    :hug: :hug: :hug:
     
  18. Dolly_R

    Dolly_R Well-Known Member

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    soo sorry to hear this fran, im here if you need to vent just PM me or im sure the other ladies are too#

    thinking of you xxxxxxxxxx
     

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