Lonely.

[bearsmummy]

Hi all,
I've sat around for the past week or so just feeling down. I talk to my friends that are too busy going out drinking to make any time for me and i cry for hours. I have no OH to moan to when i feel crappy and i don't want to only ever have my mom to talk to. I know she doesn't mind but i just miss having friends an OH, yeah my ex is a complete nasty piece of work but i even mss him sometimes. I know its probably just hormones but i just needed a bit of a moan.
Sorry about the long thread.

 

[Lovisa]

Don't be silly hun, thats what we are here for.
To help you through your journey. I'm a very good listener, feel free to talk to me anytime.

Have you tried having a relaxing bath whilst listening to relaxing music, or having your friends round for a night in and watching movies?
They are just suggestions to help you relieve your stress and be more happy.
If not talking on here always helps.

Hope you feel better soon hun

 

[megsmeadow]

Meeah sometimes with loads of people around you can still feel very lonely. We're all here, and there's no post to long to share your feelings!!

 

[bearsmummy]

I've tried inviting them round but because even the smell of drink makes me feel sick they won't come. I've tried to just shrug it off but it's just started getting me down. When i told people i was pregnant the news spread quickly and people that aren't fond of me made my life hell for ages. I guess i still get really upset about that. I know i'm only 19 and its to be expected of immature people but it really really hurt. Oh my god there is so much going on its stupid and again all i want to do now is cry lol. Sorry i keep going off on one. x

 

[megsmeadow]

Have a chat with your midwife, are there any groups you could join in your area that's maybe outwith your social group of friends. Maybe there are some young mums feeling exactly the same that already meet, and maybe some older mums feeling the same too! Sometimes life transitions come fast and it's hard to deal with all at once! It sounds like your friends aren't that supportive just now, or maybe don't understand how you are feeling. Maybe time to look further afield and see who else is out there, not easy though!

 

[bearsmummy]

I will try that. Thank you for the advice. x

 

[ToffeePop]

to you honey. Your friends have no clue how you're feeling and I agree with the above - perhaps getting to a group of people your age/any age, pregnant and being able to share , in person, how you're feeling.

Feeling lonely can happen to anyone even if they do have partners/family living with them/housemates, but come on here and chat, lovely! Happy to listen and have a giggle

It's a shame that your friends aren't mature enough to be able to pop around to see you without having a drink... Although I know we have some like that and it's currently driving me mad and I'm not pregnant

 

[pink_munki]

It sounds like you need a big hug *hugs*. I was 19 when I got pregnant as well and I don't see my friends much either and I am also very close to my Mum. You'll feel better soon I'm sure, the hormones will be making it seem worse than it is, don't be afraid to cry! How far gone are you? When I feel lonely I just think to myself that I'll never be lonely again after my little ones arrive. Maybe that thought might help you as well.

I hope you're feeling better soon.
xxxx

 

[megsmeadow]

It can be much easier to think of things when your not totally immersed in it yourself. I always find that my worries peak after 5pm, just the time when the GP surgery closes, the midwifes go home and everyone else relaxes! That's why I love having somewhere to come to vent and know that folk will understand! As Toffee says, a giggle can be good too!!

 

[bearsmummy]

I'm 18 weeks gone. I just want my baba to be baked ready now! lol.
I feel alot better now thank you too all!
Baby's kicking me telling me i'm being stupid i'm sure.
x

 

[Mervs Mum]

 

[Toonlass]

How are you feeling today ? xx

 

[titch]

Hope youre feeling better today, so sorry your friends arent being very mature about it. The last thing you need is to be around people who are only interested in drinking. I agree with what the others said, there must be some kind of expectant mums support group in your area, you need the type of friends who you can meet up with for a (decaf) coffee and look at baby clothes in town! I really hope things pick up for you xxx

 

[bearsmummy]

I'm feeling a bit better today thank you
I was meant to be going to college but i am not walking or driving in this weather so i'll be in trouble when i go back but i don't care.
x

 

[Lovisa]

Glad you are feeling better today hun.
It will def be a good idea to speak to the midwife and explain how you sometimes feel so she can look around to see what groups are about and what she can do to help you. Or net is always a goo start to look.

Hopefully you will meet more people (other than on here) who understand you and are willing to spend time with you without having to drink.

All the best with your pregnancy hun x

 

[Piglet10]

aww really hope you feel better soon. and at least your sad feelings arent about your baby.... maybe you could make new friends , kno anyone else thats preggers?? people that arent preg defo get sick of talking bout baby stuff but its cool to talk to other people that are preg cos it gets you excited. if all else fails, a dvd and a chinese/junk food??? but pick a comedy so you cant bawl!! xx

 

[mandplus4]

sending you a hug((((hugs))))) i hope you feel better soon xxxxx

 

[Katy_89]

I know how you feel. I haven't seen my friends at all since I found out I was pregnant really, could probably count on one hand. The thing that confuses me so much is that one of them already has a baby, so I don't see why I've been treated so different to them. I think it's because I've not been well while I've been pregnant and they just don't think to come and see me.

I asked my midwife if she could put me in touch with a young mums group but I'm just a teeny bit too old (20) so you should be able to go to those type of groups no problem Hopefully you'll be able to make new friends there who understand what you're going through. I know in my area they have special ante natal classes for younger mums too so see if you have anything like that near you xx

 

[bearsmummy]

I'm 20 in a couple of weeks so i think i might be to old too.
One of the girls from my year at school have just had a baby and i've started talking to her a bit so hopefully something will come from that
Thank you all.
I really love coming on this website the support is amazing
x

 

[seeful]

I'm sure youre not supposed to recommend other sites here but theres a site called net mums where you can 'meet a mum' in your local are and there are pregnant ladies of all ages on there theyre sure to better understand what youre going through