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Ladies with PND - How has your relationship been affected?
- Thread starter poppy160
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I think it is so hard for anyone who hasnt had depression to understand it and for some reason, men are so much worse at trying!
My OH couldnt and often seemed like he wouldnt understand my PND and it is so hard! My OH wasnt a nice man back then! Now he is completely changed but thats a different story!!
The thing is, this isnt going to go away anytime soon! He really needs to try and understand that!
Sometimes I think men dont deal with depression well as they think it is something to do with them, they arent making you happy etc and dont understand that it isnt anything to do with that!
Other men just dont care and Im hoping for your sake that isnt your OH!
I think suggesting a break may help him see how serious the situation is but will you be ok with the break?
I have had depression on and off now for nearly 8 years! Its something that needs to be understood by all it affects and Im sorry your OH is being that way with you now! I just hope that soon, he will see that you need his support not his dismissal of the subject!
Apart from this problem with your OH you seem like you are doing great!!
Its just a shame that the person we most need to be supportive isnt!
Sorry there is no advice or help in this post at all!?
Im crap at this kinda thing! I just wanted to give you some of these!
My OH couldnt and often seemed like he wouldnt understand my PND and it is so hard! My OH wasnt a nice man back then! Now he is completely changed but thats a different story!!
The thing is, this isnt going to go away anytime soon! He really needs to try and understand that!
Sometimes I think men dont deal with depression well as they think it is something to do with them, they arent making you happy etc and dont understand that it isnt anything to do with that!
Other men just dont care and Im hoping for your sake that isnt your OH!
I think suggesting a break may help him see how serious the situation is but will you be ok with the break?
I have had depression on and off now for nearly 8 years! Its something that needs to be understood by all it affects and Im sorry your OH is being that way with you now! I just hope that soon, he will see that you need his support not his dismissal of the subject!
Apart from this problem with your OH you seem like you are doing great!!
Its just a shame that the person we most need to be supportive isnt! Sorry there is no advice or help in this post at all!?
Im crap at this kinda thing! I just wanted to give you some of these! It nearly spilt me and my OH up. He tried to uderstand but found it very difficult to, and I know hew got worried about me being around Seren on my own which made me feel terrible etc etc. It was a horrible time but we just talked and talked. My OH didn't want to talk about this with anyone else, I respect that as I am not a fan of apeaking to strangers but he realised that he had to talk to someone, and so in the end he did open up to me.
Try writing him a letter with how you feel. My OH seemed to take things personally and it was so hard to explain that it wasn't him it was my depression. He found it hard to understand why his confident outgoing girlfriend had gone, and in her place was this upset, tearful one who couldn't cope. He has been better this time round as we have both learnt some hard lessons.
Try writing him a letter with how you feel. My OH seemed to take things personally and it was so hard to explain that it wasn't him it was my depression. He found it hard to understand why his confident outgoing girlfriend had gone, and in her place was this upset, tearful one who couldn't cope. He has been better this time round as we have both learnt some hard lessons.
Its not great tbh. I seem to have lost the ability to communicate with OH and am really working hard to find it again. I feel so resentful towards him then other times, I pity him for being with me. I don't feel that splitting up is the answer (for us) though - I know we'll get through this.
My OH tries to pretend its not happening too, so I know exactly how you feel.
Valentine Xxx
My OH tries to pretend its not happening too, so I know exactly how you feel.
Valentine Xxx
