Just wondering...

[firstfreakout]

Anyone else just really fed up with being pregnant?

Sciatica, heat waves, not working. I'm about ready to get this kid outta me but still have 8+2 weeks to go before due date!

 

[Kimi89]

I feel the same at times. I've had trouble with my hips for months, carpal tunnel in both hands, it's too damn hot all the time! I still have two weeks of work left then 2 weeks until bubba is due. Sleeping at night has been a nightmare for ages, sometimes I just want to cry!

 

[firstfreakout]

Oh kimi

I also find I'm incredibly paranoid. I don't trust easy and now I find myself doubting everything. I don't know if that's me being an unstable mess because I'm pregnant or because I'm an unstable mess haha

 

[Kimi89]

Personally being pregnant makes me feel quite vulnerable. This is my first too so I have no experience to compare. Midwife always asks if I have a good support network. I always said yes but one appointment I asked what that meant. I have my partner, and dad and step mum, but my friends are being pants, do I have enough people to make up a support network? We're all just doing the best we can right?

 

[Rose83]

Me! I'm 32 + 5 and am in agony. Thing midwife keeps helpfully remarking that this is what I should expect having three babies so close together! I have terrible sciatica and am limping around today. Terrible right side rib pain. I'm huge so my back hurts all the time and just wish it was time now. I've not felt like this with either of my other pregnancies which makes me sad I was talking to my OH last night and worked out that I could tell him my arms, my head and my knees didn't hurt but that absolutely everything else did! X

 

[JulyBug]

Personally being pregnant makes me feel quite vulnerable. This is my first too so I have no experience to compare. Midwife always asks if I have a good support network. I always said yes but one appointment I asked what that meant. I have my partner, and dad and step mum, but my friends are being pants, do I have enough people to make up a support network? We're all just doing the best we can right?

I agree, I have felt very 'vulnerable' and If I'm honest I've not enjoyed being pregnant at all.. I just haven't felt like myself at all and it's a very strange feeling..

Luckily I'm almost at the end of my pregnancy and I can't wait to meet my little boy but I'm also so excited to get my body back!!

Xx

 

[firstfreakout]

I think "vulnerable" is the perfect word to use, Kimi. This is my first too, and to be honest, outside of my partner and my mum, I don't really have anybody else that is here for me so I don't feel like I have a good support network at all. His parents live in the countryside and I haven't known them all that long, so the only person I have around that understands what I'm going through is my mum!

Rose83 - even my finger joints hurt! I have good days with my back though, like today I woke up and it's not so bad after yesterday being quite painful, but it still inhibits me from doing anything I want to because I can't travel on transport or walk for very long (not that I'd want to in this heat wave!) and even doing chores around the house becomes a nightmare!

Julybug - I get what you mean. This is my first and I haven't enjoyed being pregnant for the majority of it, and feel guilty for it I always imagined loving being pregnant and being super excited, but I am definitely counting down the days now until I meet my little dude. It's very weird for your body to not be your own anymore, and I don't think the men understand that!

 

[Kimi89]

One piece of advice a friend gave me was that it's ok if you don't enjoy being pregnant. Some people expect you to love every minute of it regardless of the strain it puts on you physically and emotionally. Some ladies are super lucky and might not get any of the negative symptoms. Yes I wanted this pregnancy but that doesn't mean I can't moan about how rubbish I feel!

 

[firstfreakout]

You're right kimi. When I was still at work everyone was telling me to enjoy it because I'll miss it when it's over etc and made me feel guilty for struggling with it. This pregnancy wasn't planned but is so wanted and I love this kiddo more than I thought I could before he was born, but I'm struggling with giving up my body for it!

 

[Rose83]

Actually I forgot that my finger joints hurt! They do, I seem to have repetitive strain type pain from typing and using my phone!

I loved being pregnant with my first and second - although I got really ill in the final weeks with second with a sinus infection so that wasn't any fun and this one has been fine until now. It's just such a strain on your body to cope with pregnancy with two toddlers to run around after and pick up. My partner has never really understood what it's like, I very much need to keep on doing the things I always do so that mentally I feel ok - for example painting and decorating is something I always do and have carried on doing throughout both my last two pregnancies (we bought a huge house to do up) and he doesn't understand why I don't stop when I'm sore. But for me if i stop doing all those things I've lost another part of my identity. Stopping working very much took away a part of who I am in my head and although I don't regret it I need to cling on to some other things so I'm not just mum! Last night he was feeling the crazy movements going on in my tummy and did say 'I can't imagine how weird that must be to have that going on all the time.' And it is weird because your body is never yours alone when you are pregnant. I wouldn't say I dislike that but it's just that sometimes you think it would be nice just to have a time out from it all! X

 

[firstfreakout]

I think my finger joints hurt because of swelling tbh. They feel tight and sore to bend and my fingers are definitely bigger than they used to be!

I found it hard to stop working at 25 weeks. My back pain got so bad I couldn't travel an hour in and an hour out every day on public transport and sit in a shitty rigid chair for 9 hours a day with an active work load, but stopping work hit me quite hard as it's a new career and I still have so far to go in it! With the heat wave, I find it hard to do anything during the day and there are now certain things I can do because of pain
So I definitely get what you mean about holding on to things that make you a person outside of being an incubator!

I know I'll miss having him in here kicking away and being all safe, but I can't wait for him to be on the outside and for me to be able to pick something up off of the floor without wanting to cry lol

 

[MissCharli]

Also feeling a bit fed up today. Got one week left at work but it feels like it might as well be a month!

I think I've finally got to the stage where I'd like my body back now! Bored of peeing 400 times a day and night and my foot being horribly swollen!

Only a month left to go...!

 

[MissCharli]

Oh I've also had Carpal tunnel since about 27 weeks, started with just one knuckle on one hand and now my wrists are really sore

 

[firstfreakout]

Oh I've got to say although I am really sorry you're all struggling like I am, it's actually comforting to know I'm not horrible and this is a fairly common thing to be feeling!

 

[MissCharli]

Haha nope I think it's normal. I was beginning to think I was weird for not particularly wanting pregnancy to be over... how silly I was x

 

[Kimi89]

I completely agree with wanting to be yourself again and not just someone who's pregnant. I'm still me! People stop me now just to comment on how big I am and how the heat must be a struggle!

I've got carpal tunnel too, both hands but left wrist has got really bad in the last week. I've had some time off work due to my hips being really sore, most days it's uncomfortable just to walk. I still have two weeks of work left but the tiredness is really making it hard.

I've loved being pregnant most of the time but I hadn't expected the emotional changes I would feel.

 

[firstfreakout]

I've also found that since being pregnant I've become awfully paranoid, insecure and almost have like a "cold feet" kind of feeling?

I'm starting to feel like I'm becoming a little unhinged... :/

 

[JulyBug]

lol yep! The cold feet thing definitely.. I find myself doubting myself, like 'what have we done?' 'can we really handle this?'.. is that bad? or just first time parent nerves?...

Pregnancy is nothing like how I imagined!

xx

 

[Skyeway]

I really hate being pregnant too. I love that i am having a baby but the experience so far has been awful. I'm 16 weeks and have HG and have been bed bound for 50 days so far. Its taken so much from me. My career/income, my social life, my indepndance, even my ability to use the bathroom or stay clean wihout causing myself distress at the effort of it.
I hope we all can find physical comfort somehow

 

[firstfreakout]

Oh Skyeway that sounds awful