Jobseekers and Post Natal Depression?

[AcesJaybirds]

I'm currently undergoing a whole load of appointments for Post Natal Depression and Anxiety.
My partner, who is on jobseekers (unfortunately we both are) is set to go on a four week course as of Tuesday to help him find work.

My problem is that in the four month since my daughter was born I have never really been alone with her for more than an hour and I'm now terrified I can't do it on my own. I had a panic attack earlier today just because I couldn't stop her crying, and that's when my partner was here...

I dont know what we can do, if he doesn't go our money stops but I really don't think I can do this without him and there is nobody else around us that can help either

 

[Baby Bean]

It sounds like a really difficult situation. I think how you're feeling is perfectly natural, you've not had to be on your own yet so of course you willffeel anxious, but that doesn't mean you can't do it. We will all be here (albeit virtually) for support but I'm sure you can do it. It might be worth having your partner go out for an hour or two today and tomorrow to help build your confidence until its for a longer period of time. Big hugs hun xxx

 

[Foxini]

Is there anybody who can visit, or who you can visit? Or a place where you can go to help pass time like a walk to the park/feed the ducks?

 

[Baby Bean]

Also local children's centres are really good, you can get a lot of support there xxx

 

[Mrs N]

He has to do the course so you need to build up to it, start with having him in the house and looking after lo with no help then get him to go out a for a few hours and build up to the amount of tokens will be away! I suffered pnd and hubbie had to go to work as normal (very long hours) so you do get used to it but I'm not going to limit was hard to start with!
Xxx

 

[k8_005]

Look up mother and baby groups now you can then meet others and get some extra support my antenatal ladies have been fab and we take it in turns each week to meet at someones house with the babies and can be honest and open with each other about how hard it is some times now I don't have post natal depression but I had several bouts of crying when I couldn't settle Ben or he just wanted constant boob etc. It's normal and that was sometimes when tom was here in fact one night all three of us were crying!! But at 2weeks after birth he had to go to work and I was left with the baby.... I rang my friends for support. I then went out for a walk I find I am happiest if iv gotten out in the day and iv learnt new ways to settle Ben which have made me more confident sometimes a dummy sometimes music a car ride or sometimes the Bjorn baby active carrier (magic sleep carrier in my eyes) its given me confidence and my life back and you know what no matter how hard it is You can do it and if you need to put baby in Moses basket or cot safe close the door so the crying is less and count to ten/twenty with deep breaths then go back in and pick him/her up its ok to feel frustrated I promise it gets easier xxx