pre-natal depression

[minxies]

I did some serious research into pre-natal depression today. 2 of th most common factors of devloping the illness is depression in your family and previously suffering with depression before. Check was on anti -depressents and saw a councilor for years. Until I met my partner about 2 years ago. Also suffering a miscarriage. I didn't deal with my mc well at all, and even said to my mifdwife although I had no help after for it , I do feel like my depression came back.
Pre-natal is very common in the first trimester because of the sudden boost in hormones and all the bodily changes. I don't want to think I fit into this and I certinaly don't want to admit iv fallen back into the 'depression' I cant talk to my friends as they dismiss it as 'hormones'.
I know its more. The symptoms online are practically all I have. I'm not excited, I'm not happy, I don't smile. I'm worried, anxious, can't sleep properly, can't eat (although that's sickness aswell) I have no joy in anything. Like I'm in a big black hole. I should be so happy! I wanted this baby so much! Now when ever anyone says conrgats on the pregnancy it makes my skin crawl and I want them to stop. How selfish is that! I just wondered if anyone else knows about this or knows soemone who does. I know its a very taboo subject. I don't wanna feel a basket case. And I'm a bit scared going to mw. Although I know I need to. But its hard even admitting to my partner I think I'm struggling cuz I wanted this baby so much :'( . Just feel lost. I don't no what's wrong.

 

[lyndsey_28]

hey hun, didnt wanna read and run, but have no experience with any kind of depression taht i know of, but after i had my 1st son i went through a hell of a lot and the labour and birth was very traumatic, that all i wanted to do was cry!! everytiime someone asked me about the labour i just fobbed them off as i felt ike i would hav to relive the trauma all over again, but i got through it with support from OH and family!!! but i would speak with ur mw or docs to see if there is anything that can help you!! you will prob start to feel better in the next few weeks after you have ur scan and starts to seem more real as from what you have said you have been through a hell of lot just lately, and im happy to talk to you through pm or on the forum if it helps and im sure others will say the same

sending u hugs and hope someone else has some info for you on pre-natal depression xxx

 

[leesey]

Minxies you need to go to your doctor and ask to be referred for counselling. PLEASE do it.
You are not doing yourself or your baby any favours by keeping it to yourself, you will make yourself ill.

I've suffered badly from depression in the past, and my last 2 miscarriages have made me wonder if I should be talking to a counsellor about it. I don't want to be back in that pit of despair scrambling to get out.

You know you are suffering, please don't be ashamed of seeking help xx

 

[BellaRiven]

Hey honey, I know how depression feels when it takes hold, I had a very serious Mental Breakdown about 3 years ago ( it involved Portsmouth Harbour, all of my wardrobe ending up in the harbour and not remembering how I got there from Bournemouth but being told I got the train!!!!), I know how your feeling right now honey and its crap with a capital 'C'

All I can advise is to see your MW or Doc and tell them what is happening and arrange some counselling.

OurLoveBump mentioned on her thread about meditation, that is working for me as well and I have been able to keep myself in check, maybe you could try that.

In the meantime if you need someone to chat to I'm always on everyday at some point and you can message me, or I can give you my mobile number and we can text

BIG HUGS

 

[Toonlass]

I had pre natal depression with my second child and it was awful. I too have a history of depression and still struggle with it now.

Don't suffer in science, go to the doc, there are low doses of certain anti depressants they can give you in pregnancy. I took fluoxetine throughout my third pregnancy and LO was not affected. Anti natal depression hit me hard following pre natal depression so get the help now so people are aware of what's going on. Good luck and take care xx

 

[misscrazycooki]

I had pre natal depression with my second child and it was awful. I too have a history of depression and still struggle with it now.

Don't suffer in science, go to the doc, there are low doses of certain anti depressants they can give you in pregnancy. I took fluoxetine throughout my third pregnancy and LO was not affected. Anti natal depression hit me hard following pre natal depression so get the help now so people are aware of what's going on. Good luck and take care xx

I've been offered the flouxetine if mine becomes a problem as was on anti depressions before I found out i was pregnant. Didn't really want to take anything but is that one safe as I have been feeling down lately and I can't take the arguements and fighting with OH much longer x

 

[Toonlass]

It's one of the safer ones. The doc will only prescribe it if the benefits out weigh the risks which in my case they did. My son was only 8 weeks old when I got pregnant so I was still in the throws of post natal depression so I need something.

My advice to anyone suffering with depression is to talk to your doctor. It's a serious illness that needs attention, low doses of anti depressants are allowed in pregnancy xx

 

[ourlovebump]

Aww, Minxies, I can RELATE! I don't know if it is the surge of hormones or the overwhelm that comes with being pregnant, but I found myself feeling exactly like you describe fairly recently! I had & still have massive worries, and I saw a counsellor today I used to see for grief counselling in the past and she is arranging additional support for me (including my GP, and a specialist for crisis counselling) and I also remember that at my booking appointment with the midwife as soon as I mentioned how I was feeling she referred me to a specialist midwife team who deal with 'vulnerable' pregnant women for additional support in mental health. That has been my experience so far, I have had amazing support on this forum as well, so speaking about how you are feeling is much better than suffering in isolation, you are not alone hun!

Please feel free to PM me any time, day or night, I hope it helps you just to know that you are not the only pregnant woman that feels this way! According to my counsellor pre-natal depression is much more common than people realise.

Massive hugs to you!!!! xxxxxxx