Jealousy

[Titch85]

I've not had to see my cousin since she announced her pregnancy, we're not close so it's not mattered. However, we've got a family BBQ in a couple of weeks on what would have been my Grampy's birthday (he passed away a few months ago). Obviously her and her partner will be there, and this is really putting me off from going.

How do I stop myself feeling like this?

 

[LoopyLouize]

Please don't take this the wrong way as it is not intended to sound nasty!

I had a girl who I work with who had been trying for a baby for 3 years... I tried for 14 months, I never told anybody so it was a surprise to a lot of people when I announced I was 12 weeks pregnant... This girl I work with stopped speaking to me and avoided me at all costs. It hurt like hell that she resented me for just being pregnant and still to this day she never even congratulated me when Harlow was born. I took her into work when she was 6 weeks old as a lot of my colleagues wanted to meet her... The girl walked out the office without a word. I felt like crying.

I very nearly sent her a text asking wtf is her problem but in the end I have just left it. As much as it hurts her , the world cannot stop turning.

I am sorry you are jealous and upset but please try not to resent her. It's nobodies fault x

 

[Titch85]

I know, and that's why I really want to stop myself from feeling like this. I'd hate to make someone feel like that.

 

[leean10]

I do know how you feel, I really do as I want a baby so bad that it hurts. I lost my 3rd 7 weeks ago and I thought I was coping but I have been in a real mess for the past couple of days and keep seeing pregnant women everywhere.

It isn't their fault that they don't know how you are feeling but I really do sympathise with you xx

 

[mishi]

I really can sympathise, but I think it does you no good to feel like this.

Jealousy just eats away at the person feeling it. Its fine to feel a fleeting dissapointment when someone falls pregnant and you don't, but I truly believe that you should then be happy for them.

Think positively and be happy for your cousin. A body and mind full of jealousy is probably not a conducive one for conceiving.

I'm not a hippy but I do believe in Karma, maybe if you let go of it good things will happen