I've been told to go home and wait to miscarry:( absolutely devastated xx

[Louisexx]

Sorry for the shocker of the title but unfortunately it's true. I'll tell you my story so far and would really appreciate your advice and story's similar if you have experienced anything.

I'm a mum of 2 and me and fiancé were over the moon to be expecting baby number 3 I suspected I was 5 wks pregnant and had slight pain in one side also slight swelling to one side so went to the doctors for reassurance I guess. This is where my nightmare begins.....
I got rushed to a&e with suspected ectopic, put in a wheelchair, told it's potentially life threatening, bloods taken etc all very scary felt like I was being swept along by it all but in little pain as I kept telling them. They couldn't fit me in for a scan till the next day so discharged me to return for my scan.... Oh ok panic over on the life threatening I guess.
Went to our scan at 10am nxt day, would be told that I probably wouldn't see anything as too early, scan showed sac measuring 4-5wks, they wouldn't rule out ectopic until yolk was visible so told to return in 2 weeks. although we were relieved and felt positive.
No more pain and starting to feel very pregnant, bloated tummy, even thinking it was twins!
We returned for our scan to confirm all was ok and def not ectopic. The scan showed a 25mm sac and yolk measuring 7wks but no baby :s was asked if I wanted internal scan which I did, still no baby the scan technician abruptly informed us that she would of hoped to see an fetus by now, it's def not ectopic but looks embryonic pregnancy and I can expect to miscarry in the next couple of weeks. Absolute shock horror, this isn't what we expected.
Have been asked to return in 8 days for another scan but she can't saying how she wasn't hopeful.

So that's my story so far I still feel very much pregnant! And I also feel almost cheated out of the natural grieving process if I am going to miscarry by expecting it. I still feel they are wrong and my baby is just small but my partner is very factual and has excepted what dr has said
Do u have a similar story? I'm prepared to hear the truth no matter if it's not what Im hoping.
Thank you in advance xx

 

[Nurse 26]

hey hun, so sorry to read this. i've not had exactly the same but 2 missed miscarriages where baby died around 6-7 weeks which required D&C as you do i had all my symtoms and felt very much pregnant. it a horrible thing to go through, i hope you are ok thinking of you.


xxxx

 

[faithangle]

Sorry to hear that hun, I haven't got any answers for you but didn't want to read and run. You might get more answers if you post in the the miscarrage section and there are lots of unfortnuate ladies there with different experiences. xx

 

[mookie]

I haven't got any advice or experience but I just wanted to give you a hug xx

 

[kanga86]

i had something similar to you. I went for a early scan at 11 weeks as my midwife so worried because i had bleeding on and off the whole time. I had an internal scan to and the sonographer told us the sac only measured around 5 weeks, 6 weeks less than what i thought. there was nothing visible in the sac either. I went to speak to the epau nurses who told me they expected me to miscarry because my dates indicated i was at least 9 weeks, but they still sent me home saying we will re scan next week just to make sure the dates aren't wrong!

I left believing i was going to miscarry, at my next scan they saw the yolk sac as well so said that because there was change between the 2 scans they couldn't help me miscarry. The changes indicated a 5 and half week pregnancy, so an increase of half a week in a full week, so told me i would still miscarry but the weren't allowed to help!! 2 days after the 2nd scan i miscarried naturally when i should have been 12 1/2 weeks.

I had really bad nausea, sickness and sore boobs up until i miscarried naturally at home. so had no idea it was going to be a missed miscarriage. I a so sorry u are having to go through this xx

 

[TORino]

So sorry to read this lovely. I had a kind of similar experience to you but I had some brown discharge which prompted a trip to the doctors. I got sent for a scan when I was 7+4 and they told me they could see a baby with an intermittent heartbeat and that it didn't look good and I should prepare myself for the worst. I had to wait an agonising 2 weeks to see if it had grown and when I went back it hadn't.

At the time I was really cross with the sonographer for making me wait as long as I did but I understand now that they were giving my baby the best chance they could to grow and develop, in 2 weeks they will have a definite answer apparently. When I went back it was bad news and the embryo hadn't grown any, I hadn't had any more spotting and still felt pregnant so even though I was told to expect the worst it was still a bit of a shock. I was devastated that my body was clinging on to a baby that had died.

I am sorry you are going through this, it is a truly awful thing to happen. Take care of yourself xx

 

[Sunbeam638]

Ah I don't have a similar story, I did misscarry a few years ago but i didn't have the swelling. So sorry to hear about your loss xxx

 

[l_maclean]

so sorry to hear this.
xxx

 

[Sleepy sue]

x

 

[charliebear]

so sorry x

 

[roxane 1985]

Sorry for the shocker of the title but unfortunately it's true. I'll tell you my story so far and would really appreciate your advice and story's similar if you have experienced anything.

I'm a mum of 2 and me and fiancé were over the moon to be expecting baby number 3 I suspected I was 5 wks pregnant and had slight pain in one side also slight swelling to one side so went to the doctors for reassurance I guess. This is where my nightmare begins.....
I got rushed to a&e with suspected ectopic, put in a wheelchair, told it's potentially life threatening, bloods taken etc all very scary felt like I was being swept along by it all but in little pain as I kept telling them. They couldn't fit me in for a scan till the next day so discharged me to return for my scan.... Oh ok panic over on the life threatening I guess.
Went to our scan at 10am nxt day, would be told that I probably wouldn't see anything as too early, scan showed sac measuring 4-5wks, they wouldn't rule out ectopic until yolk was visible so told to return in 2 weeks. although we were relieved and felt positive.
No more pain and starting to feel very pregnant, bloated tummy, even thinking it was twins!
We returned for our scan to confirm all was ok and def not ectopic. The scan showed a 25mm sac and yolk measuring 7wks but no baby :s was asked if I wanted internal scan which I did, still no baby the scan technician abruptly informed us that she would of hoped to see an fetus by now, it's def not ectopic but looks embryonic pregnancy and I can expect to miscarry in the next couple of weeks. Absolute shock horror, this isn't what we expected.
Have been asked to return in 8 days for another scan but she can't saying how she wasn't hopeful.

So that's my story so far I still feel very much pregnant! And I also feel almost cheated out of the natural grieving process if I am going to miscarry by expecting it. I still feel they are wrong and my baby is just small but my partner is very factual and has excepted what dr has said
Do u have a similar story? I'm prepared to hear the truth no matter if it's not what Im hoping.
Thank you in advance xx

i had a bleed at 6 wks and was taken for a scan where i measured 6wks 3 days, there was a gestational sac but it was completely empty, bo baby and no yolk sac, and that was from and internal scan,
was told to go back 2 weeks later for another scan and if still no sign then they would terminate my pregnancy.
i went back back and she did a scan but couldnt see wnything so did another internal and after zooming in as much as she could she found a baby,yolk sac and heart beat, im now 31 weeks

obviously i know not everyone has a happy ending so i will keep my fingers crossed but i have also read that some women still have what looks like an empty sqc at 10 weeks only to find out there is a baby but they cant be seen due to a tilted uterus

 

[Louisexx]

Thank you for all your kind support, it really does help.
Roxane1985- thank you for your positive story! Can I ask if you know or could find your paperwork how many millimetres your gestational sac was at 6wks3days? Xxx

 

[roxane 1985]

Thank you for all your kind support, it really does help.
Roxane1985- thank you for your positive story! Can I ask if you know or could find your paperwork how many millimetres your gestational sac was at 6wks3days? Xxx

just had a look they never put the results in for that scan but at 8 wks it measured 15 mm

 

[roxane 1985]

ps just had a little look on net a 5 wk sac measures around 8mm so a 6 wkk sac wouldnt be that much bigger xx

 

[AndreaJayne]

Sorry to hear the news I hope that all is well, you must keep hope as thats what will keep you going no matter what happens x

 

[raxx]

Hi hun - i'm so sorry to hear about your situation. I hope you are hanging in there. I have no answers for you, but I am currently in a similar situation. I went for a private dating scan, where they did an internal scan and told me that they could see a fetal pole but it measured only 5-6 weeks and I was almost 9 weeks at that time. I went to the EPU to get a second opinion, they told me it is what it is, i should come back for a scan in 2 weeks and that I should expect to miscarry.

I am currently in the waiting process for the scan which will take place on Monday. I have been keeping positive by reading positive stories on a website called Misdiagnosed Miscarriages. There are many stories (including a lovely lady on this board who posted support for me) where the fetus or sac or yolk could not be seen in early pregnancy but everything turned out to be fine after the first trimester.

I don't want to give you false hope, but this is the only way I know how to cope. Until I actually physically miscarry, or until I see the 13 week scan which confirms a missed miscarriage, I am going to continue to bond with my baby. I will have the opportunity to grief if the worst does happen, but I don't want to be robbed of the chance to positively bond with my baby if they are wrong.

I hope this helps you somewhat, if only to provide you some comfort that you are not alone.

Fingers crossed for you!

 

[charlie26]

Good luck for your scan hun, hope everything turns out fine xx

 

[k8_005]

Have no advice except to say. Hope they are wrong .at my first scan at my previous preg they found my baby had anacaphaly. I had to wait a week and half for termination and kept hoping they had it wrong. It was confirmed by 2 midwifes and another doctor on two seperate scans. So sadly in my case they couldn't do anything.It's very difficult to go thru a loss of any reason or kind and ill be hoping in your case they are wrong xxx

 

[Louisexx]

I just want to say thank you for sharing your own experiences and sending your thoughts, it really helps so much and my fiancé was so happy when I showed him the thread that all these people we didnt know have taken the time to write to me.

Update... Still waiting!! Scan due 10am tomorrow where I should be 8 weeks pregnant. Last week was an emotional roller coaster, keep crying, can't face work which isn't great as it's my own business! Just feel like jeckyl and hyde. Some days I truely believe my baby is very much alive then I feel like im bleeding so obviously doubt in my mind somewhere.
It's like having a silent illness, very much taboo that no one would feel comfortable talking about.

All I can say is roll on tomorrow!! Xx

 

[dyscochick]

I have everything crossed for you that the scan turns out to be good news. I am really hoping for you. xxx

I do want to say though that there are options if they can tell you for certain that the pregnancy is not viable. If you don't want to you don't have to go home wand just wait for it to pass, there are surgical and medical options. None of it pleasant, but when I was told at my 11 week scan that there was no heartbeat I couldn't bear the thought of just waiting for 2 weeks to see if my body would end the pregnancy naturally. I had a medical management which meant taking tablets at the hospital and then a pessary at home 2 days later. It wasn't pleasant but OH was there the whole day (it happens a few hours after the pessary) and supposedly this method can speed up your bodies return to normal (as opposed to waiting for everything to happen naturally). I really hope this isn't somehting you have to go through but i've been shocked by the number of people on here who are not given any option other than to go away and wait. Just know that if its not what you want, ask about the other options.

Really everything crossed for you xxxx