Is your pregnancy a surprise or planned?

[Sarah13]

Bit nosey I know but thought I'd see what sort of reactions you've been getting now the happy news is out there. Think we've told most people now and nearly all have asked if it was an accident! I know we're not the most likely couple to have a baby (think of your least likely friends to have a baby and that's us!) but everyone is so surprised and shocked we've been planning and trying for this baby for a while! I'm almost embarrassed to say now when people ask! Guess when you have a 14 year age gap and in your mid 30's people don't expect it!

 

[rachyryan]

We have a nine and twelve year age gap and everybody asks us if it was a surprise. It was for us but still why do people feel the need to know? I felt like a 16 year old telling my mum and dad lol

 

[knopk@]

I dont get why people need to ask. I told work it wasnt planned, in fact we had fertility problems and werent preventing so wasnt a complete surprise for us.

Still, I dont think its anyone's business really, esp random ppl

 

[Lulu_Laroo]

First time around (last year) was an accident, but I miscarried and we were so devastated that we said we'd try again in a few months. So this pregnancy was planned, I just didn't expect it to happen so soon (first month of trying!) - I also have friends who have said they didn't expect us to have children (I enjoyed my nights out!) but at the same time said I'll make a brilliant mum which is nice

 

[Sarah13]

We have a nine and twelve year age gap and everybody asks us if it was a surprise. It was for us but still why do people feel the need to know? I felt like a 16 year old telling my mum and dad lol

I've been feeling like Im 16 telling people too lol!

 

[pringle88]

Ours was a complete suprise, I was actually taking the pill but got quite ill in February so didnt work as it should have done. Now it feels like the best thing in the world and i cant imagine not being pregnant or planning my life with a baby! x

 

[KellyHook]

With my daughter, she wasn't planned as I was on the pill so was a shock, but was happy as soon as I found out! We knew after brooke was born we would like another one, so now she was four (well 3 at the time) we thought that it was perfect time to try for our second baby. I had the implant out on the 5th nov and thought it would take a couple of months but I actually concieved on the 21st nov so we were really lucky to fall within 2-3 weeks! no one knew we were trying so was a suprise to everyone else! Xx

 

[Mummy2Adam]

All three of my pregnancies were planned, the first and second were a suprise to everyone as no one knew we were trying but I dont think anyone asked whether they were planned or not. But after having a mmc with my second, this pregnancy wasnt a suprise for anyone x x

 

[Sassysugar]

I wasn't sure that I wanted kids when I was younger and a lot of my friends knew this. We didn't tell anyone we were trying and when I announced on facebook with my scan pic at 12 weeks everyone was so shocked!!

Nearly 100 people either commented or liked my pic, I couldn't believe it. I had a lot of people text saying they were so shocked I was pregnant (a lot of ones swore ie holy s%$t didn't see that coming ) I only had a couple of people ask if it was an accident - which I was a bit taken aback by.

Felt like a naughty school girl telling my dad , not 29 and married lol

 

[tinks77]

Planned pregnancy, my OH would say like a military operation he just didn't know it at the time lol.
Don't think anyone has asked me either way though

 

[Tracey M]

Totally planned. I have been on this wite from WTT to TTC to Tri 1 and now Tri2.... I wanted to lose 2 stone before TTC so I did. Ideally I wanted a 3 year gap between but work commitments would not allow. I wanted to have my 2nd before I was 40 and turned 39 yesterday - made it!! Isnt is odd how some people just come right out with it and ask if baby was planned??

 

[Froslass]

Ours was a surprise, I was on the pill for a few years, and had to change as my periods were getting really heavy!! The new pill obviously wasn't as effective as the old one! xx

We're both delighted now though xx

 

[HeppiBean]

Ours was a surprise, we weren't trying but we weren't preventing... If you get me x

 

[PrincessPeanut]

I was on the pill and in October last year I miscarried. Totally surprise but we were both devasted. We then decided we'd just see how things went. I started getting a bit depressed about it all and went back on the pill mid january and didn't have my normal cycle, I tested and found out i was pregnant. I'd started the pill again when i'd already been pregnant. Panicked like hell but my GP said i'd be ok.
So far so good.

So kind of a surprise xx

 

[Piglet's Mama]

Ours was planned but I didn't expect it to be so quick...! I don't recall anyone asking if it was planned but I remember a few people saying "Well done...!" I remember thinking "Well done, what for? Doing the deed!" Even my GP said well done, that was quite odd x

 

[PrincessPeanut]

Ours was planned but I didn't expect it to be so quick...! I don't recall anyone asking if it was planned but I remember a few people saying "Well done...!" I remember thinking "Well done, what for? Doing the deed!" Even my GP said well done, that was quite odd x

Same here, few people said well done and congratulations. I'm not one for being centre of attention or anything and during the first month or so I couldn't quite grasp people saying congratulations to me. I was like... 'What for?'!
lol xx

 

[DW1978]

I have had one unplanned pregnancy which we terminated in 2000, when I we were both 21 and too irresponsible to have a baby!

Then I have had 3 planned pregnancies, 1 of which we unfortunately lost to a late miscarriage.

I have noticed how many people have asked me this time if it was planned or not and I think it's really rude. I would never dare ask someone that question myself and why do they think it's their business?!! LOL.

 

[EmmBee123]

isn't it strange that now we're pregnant, random people just feel they can make inappropriate comments out of the blue. One of MIL's friends (who I'd never met before) actually said to me "oh i bet it was an accident" just makes me feel like going up to them and asking, "did you have sex last night" or "oooh you're a bit fat aren't you" just to show them how annoying it is.

Felt so strange telling my dad, he was family member we told first (have always been his baby and thought it would be best coming from us rather than my mum, who would have broadcast it to the world before dad knew). Had been married over a year before falling, so can't see how people were so shocked. Then again, married relatively young at 24 so perhaps people thought we'd wait a while. Then again OH is 13 years older than me, so we couldn't exactly wait forever.

We were not trying and not preventing for about 2-3 months (came off my implant mid cycle) then the bug kicked in and I joined here, fell after 2-3 months of actively trying. Worked out yesterday that with my new EDD, I've been pregnant (well according to the NHS book) all year.

 

[PrincessPeanut]

Worked out yesterday that with my new EDD, I've been pregnant (well according to the NHS book) all year.

Hehe, me too....

 

[Chookette]

Ours was a surprise in that we had been trying for two years and were about to go and see an IVF clinic and start that process. Did my usual test thinking nothing of it but when it came back pregnant my OH and I was in complete shock but in a good way... Was a big relief not to have spent the money on IVF.... Our Gyno was not surprised as he said it would probably happen like this.

As everyone knew we had been trying for a long time it was not a shock but a relief from them. Definitely no questions of it being an accident....