Can PND come and go day to day, or is it a constant thing? Some days I am so in love with Tim, and then other days I don't even want to look at him. On the bad days, I cry all day, i resent feeding him, and it makes me angry when he cries, then on the good days i feel guilty for being resentful and angry. I very often feel useless and overwhelmed, and that i'm not a very good mum. I'm scared to talk to the HV or GP because I want to be a good mum, and i don't want them to think i can't do it...
first of all you're not a bad mum, and im sure the health visitors have seen it all before and i would talk to them as they are there to help. I do think pnd can come and go, i had it after millie and i felt exactly like you do. if i were you i would mention it to someone. xx
Hi hun! You are not a bad mum!! PND is an ilness, something you cat control. If you would get a flu, you would go to the doctor. Same is with the PND. You have to talk about it and definetly mention it to your HV or MW! And it is already a big step, realising that you have it! Well done
I would definately have a chat to the HV/midwife. I didn't want to open up about the feelings I was having but found that once I knew I had PND, everything sort of lifted and now I had identified the problem I could fix it. I'm going to a support group on tuesday and was prescribed anti-depressants but I'm not taking them unless the support group doesn't help. We're all on here to talk to, but HV/midwife might be able to help you out much better by putting you in touch with groups in your area etc. Seriously chick, they will have heard a lot worse. I told my HV I used to self-harm and she didn't think anything of it and didn't think anything of me as a mother because of it. Let us know how you get on. Please don't feel alone. I could link you to several of my depressing threads, and the support in the replies I received was fab. x
thanks girls! i have made an appointment to see my GP (she's is much nicer than my HV!!), although the appointment isn't until this time next week!!!! hopefully she'll be able to help and we'll get me fixed!!
