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mum2A&L

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wish me luck girls, ive got my first pnd meeting group thingy tomorrow. they have hv's looking after the babies so i can sit and have a chat. im dreading it! im crying writing this now! a, i don't like leaving alice with family, let alone someone i don't know!!!!! and b, talking about how i feel makes me get really upset.

on one hand i need to go to try and sort my head out, but on the other im worried its going to make me feel worse. :cry:

:cry: :(
 
I went to these after I had Chloe, i was so nervous as i get really shy in a group of strangers, but everyone there is going through similer things you are and it really helped to just talk about whats worrying you and get reasured and to hear that your not alone in how your feeling. You'll probably feel abit crap and tearful after your first one but im sure it will help in time, good luck hun x :hug:
 
o hun im sure it will be good for u, i clam things up til im ill then wonder why my bp is so high!!
alice will be fine too, hugs :hug: :hug: :hug:
 
Oh Sam hunny, I have a lump in my throat for you...you will be just fine I am sure. Its always the apprehension of these things, in reality it will be less upsetting than you think.

It does help to talk, I am open now with my friends and family about my fears and feelings over the first few months, so people are shocked by my bluntness of how bad I felt, but I have been honest now, and feel by admitting how hard it was, I have turned a corner and now I am feeling much more positive...the anti depressants help too I am sure.

Alice will be fine, and will have a big smile for mummy when you go back to her.

Good luck, hope it goes well xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx :hug:
 
:hug: good luck I am sure you will be fine. The staff are there to support youso if you really can't leave your LO with the HV then say so - I am sure they will understand.... alternatively could youleave her with your partner instead?
 
it was wonderful! the ladies looking after alice where fab! i think the fact that as soon as i went in, alice started smiling at them, and the other babies. it still hurt like anything, and a few mins after we had all sat down i started blubbering like a baby, but i felt proud of myself for doing it.

i sat and spoke about how i feel now and felt during the later stages of my pregnancy. they recon (as do i) that my depression started before i gave birth, as i used to get so worried over my body murdering alice whilst she was still in me.

they read a couple of lovely poems out. they made me cry :cry:

i felt like a con though... ive got adam to help me, and there where a few single mums there. i realised how lucky i am to have him.

i was walking home after, and i came over alll funny! i couldn't breathe, my head felt dizzy, i felt sick, and i wanted to cry, run and scream at the same time. i ended up calling adam to come pick me up. i felt like everyone was looking and me. ive never felt like that before :think: It took me a good hour to calm down after i got home. i still feel crappy now :(




:hug: thanks for the kind words though ladies.
 
Definately sounds like a panic attack, I have had that happen before and its really awful. The best thing to do is breath in really deeply and slowly. Then breath out again the same. When you get panicky like that you naturally dont breathe right making it worse. If you do the slow breathing thing the bad feeling definately goes away quick and I hope if it happens again and that works for you then you wont be frightened cos you know how to stop it. Hope you feel better soon :hug:
 
So glad it went well Sam, you did fab!

It defo sounds like a panic attack, I have sufferd with them last year, they are awful...try and relax when you feel one coming on, and talk to your HV about them...
 
thanks ladies. :hug:

it was horrible! i was more worried that if i passed out, that someone would run of with alice... Ive never gripped the buggy so hard!

i might give my HV a bell tomorrow and ask if i can pop into the clinic and speak to her for a bit.


god, what would i do without you all! :hug:
 
i did it again today. i was sitting in boots waiting for the chemist to sort out my meds, and my sister was over the other side of the shop buying carrots. i came over all funny. it was horrible. luckly my sister came over and managed to calm me down :(

i hate this :cry: i feel so pathetic!!!
 
You're not patheitc at all hun, so please don't think that about yourself. :hug:

You're going through a rough time just now, but yet your still being a superb mummy to your gorgeous Alice and that's all that matters hun.

We're all here for you to rant at anytime you feel the need, and please don't forget that! :hug: xx
 
Sam&Alice said:
i did it again today. i was sitting in boots waiting for the chemist to sort out my meds, and my sister was over the other side of the shop buying carrots. i came over all funny. it was horrible. luckly my sister came over and managed to calm me down :(

i hate this :cry: i feel so pathetic!!!

You are NOT pathetic!! Not a day goes by when I dont feel unwell and anxious at the moment, I have daily chest pains and dizzy spells...I keep thinking I am suddenly going to die and Ruby will be left alone in the house. Just by talking I find it helps...I hate ringing anyone when I feel unwell-OH isnt very sympathetic and mum/sis tend to make me worse by trying to rush me up to hozzie ever time....I try and stay calm, talk myself into remaining calm and I soon feel a bit better. Just wanted you to know you are not alone and I am thinking of you xxxxxxxxxxx
 
thanks ladies.

Tuesday night i ended up in a&e again with the pain from my gall bladder, and had yet another attack. I fell against the wall in the hospital and hit my head, but i don't remember doing it!? I can remember adam and a nurse lifting me into a wheelchair.

but one of the nurses sat with me for ages and just talked to me. she was lovely, and alice couldn't stop grinning at her :)

still had my hospital appointment today. they are going to book me in to have my gall bladder removed! it could be weeks or months away though :( still, will be glad when it is over and done with.

thanks again :hug:
 
Rubys mummy said:
I keep thinking I am suddenly going to die and Ruby will be left alone in the house.
thats exactly what i feel like. :cry:

:hug:
 

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