Hi I'm a man. I've been a bit daft / irresponsible so please bear with me.
I went to Africa in early August and stayed there for 3 weeks with a lady I hardly know.
In that time we had unprotected sex - in fact we were irresponsibly trying for a baby - many times and towards the end of the holiday the girl showed me a positive pregnancy test.
Here I have to be controversial but realistic. Africa is full of scammers. Not saying the lady I was with is but I would be a fool if I ruled it out.
So, I didn't believe her. So we went to a private clinic, where she urinated into the sample in front of me and the test was positive. It was witnessed and certified as such by a doctor. We also both tested neg for HIV but that's an aside.
If the date she told me of her period is true I arrived 1 day before the dangerous time and had sex many times during this dangerous time. We simultaneously orgasmed which, I feel, increases the likelyhood of conception (but I'm no expert).
Also please bear in mind that I've probably got what it takes down there as my 1st child with my ex-wife was an accident as we were using the withdrawal method.
She wants to have the baby and I am perfectly prepared to send her money to support her but I don't want to be scammed. I just don't know enough about pregnancy tests to know if they can be made positive in some way. Or I don't know if she will terminate or have a miscarriage.
Of course, I don't know that the baby is mine but that is something that I am fully prepared to find out in the end. If she is pregnant there is no way that I will "abandon" her.
Please bear in mind this is Africa we are talking about. If she is pregnant there is no way she can keep doing her profession - erm, prostitution - and without my money she will be kicked out of her rented accommodation and have no food. There's no welfare state over there. No money means eat from bins or die. She has no family, they are dead (this I do 100% believe).
I can go to Africa again in December to visually inspect her belly as she will be showing by then as she will be 4 1/2 months pregnant. But between now and then I would like concrete proof that she is pregnant. I can arrange for a man to go and visit her between now and then. So please, when is the earliest time that a bloke can 100% tell by looking at a ladies belly that she is undoubtedly pregnant. And I don't mean a doctor. I just mean a typical bloke.
I have already sent her £200 and I don't want to send another £200 between now and December if I am being scammed. I also only want to go back to her country in December if she is genuinely pregnant. If she isn't then I'd rather go to a different part of Africa. So I don't want a wasted journey to her country.
Please don't flame me for being irresponsible. I know I have been. This is about finding out whether a destitute woman is genuinly pregnant so that she will continue to receive my help or scamming me so that I can put all this behind me.
Thanks in advance.
I went to Africa in early August and stayed there for 3 weeks with a lady I hardly know.
In that time we had unprotected sex - in fact we were irresponsibly trying for a baby - many times and towards the end of the holiday the girl showed me a positive pregnancy test.
Here I have to be controversial but realistic. Africa is full of scammers. Not saying the lady I was with is but I would be a fool if I ruled it out.
So, I didn't believe her. So we went to a private clinic, where she urinated into the sample in front of me and the test was positive. It was witnessed and certified as such by a doctor. We also both tested neg for HIV but that's an aside.
If the date she told me of her period is true I arrived 1 day before the dangerous time and had sex many times during this dangerous time. We simultaneously orgasmed which, I feel, increases the likelyhood of conception (but I'm no expert).
Also please bear in mind that I've probably got what it takes down there as my 1st child with my ex-wife was an accident as we were using the withdrawal method.
She wants to have the baby and I am perfectly prepared to send her money to support her but I don't want to be scammed. I just don't know enough about pregnancy tests to know if they can be made positive in some way. Or I don't know if she will terminate or have a miscarriage.
Of course, I don't know that the baby is mine but that is something that I am fully prepared to find out in the end. If she is pregnant there is no way that I will "abandon" her.
Please bear in mind this is Africa we are talking about. If she is pregnant there is no way she can keep doing her profession - erm, prostitution - and without my money she will be kicked out of her rented accommodation and have no food. There's no welfare state over there. No money means eat from bins or die. She has no family, they are dead (this I do 100% believe).
I can go to Africa again in December to visually inspect her belly as she will be showing by then as she will be 4 1/2 months pregnant. But between now and then I would like concrete proof that she is pregnant. I can arrange for a man to go and visit her between now and then. So please, when is the earliest time that a bloke can 100% tell by looking at a ladies belly that she is undoubtedly pregnant. And I don't mean a doctor. I just mean a typical bloke.
I have already sent her £200 and I don't want to send another £200 between now and December if I am being scammed. I also only want to go back to her country in December if she is genuinely pregnant. If she isn't then I'd rather go to a different part of Africa. So I don't want a wasted journey to her country.
Please don't flame me for being irresponsible. I know I have been. This is about finding out whether a destitute woman is genuinly pregnant so that she will continue to receive my help or scamming me so that I can put all this behind me.
Thanks in advance.