summer15
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Hello,
Firstly this is such a sad section of this forum and I can't believe in just 24hrs I have gone from the 'first trimester threads' to 'miscarriage and loss threads'. I am so sorry for what you ladies have been through, many of your journeys have been more painful and torturous than mine; but I appeal to you because I know that if you are here, reading this, then you know how I'm feeling ...
I'm 25, married and this was my first pregnancy. My husband and I were elated, particularly as we were told that we might struggle to concieve because I have pcos. We are in our 'compulsory year of trying' before docs will even assess us for fertility.
I have been religiously temping, opk'ing, cm checking and charting for months so although We only got our bfp a week ago it feels like we have been working forever for this bean.
14dpo - I got my bfp.
The next day I went to see my gp (she had asked me to come in straight away if I concieved on account of my fluctuating hormone levels) she sent off my midwife referral then sent me on my way. I asked about blood tests to check my hormones but she said it's not 'protocol'. I took comfort in the fact she wasn't worried.
16 dpo - got a darker line (along with a 1-2 week on digital. I should have been in the 2-3 band but I thought 'it's early days').
18dpo - a darker line still.
20 dpo - nice dark line came up straight away only a smidge lighter than control.
I lined up my tests staring at the pretty progression and dreaming about all the usual things.
Then on 21dpo (yesterday) I woke up with all my symptoms gone. I had been bloated and my boobs hurt like crazy and it was all just gone. I immediately panicked and although I only normally test every 2 days (to see the hcg double) I took a test - it was significantly lighter than the day before (more in line with my 16dpo) I also took another digi and it still said 1-2 weeks.
I burst into tears. My gp is away on holiday and I was told I'd have to wait until the following day for another gp appointment (but they could not guarantee they would refer me for a blood test because there's nothing they can do at this early stage anyway). I know this to be true but thoughts of ectopic etc were flooding through my head and for my own sanity I just wanted to know what was going on!
My husband paid for me to have a private blood test. They sent me the results within 4 hrs and I was not surprised to discover that my hcg was only 77.7 (21dpo) I know this means I'm losing our bean.
I have cried a lot, It seems like the past week was just some beautiful dream and I've been brought back to reality with a painful thump. I have resigned myself to the fact that this is not a viable pregnancy. I have been reading all 'silver linings' - at least it proves we can conceive naturally / women are more fertile after an early miscarriage etc ...
Another faint hpt this morning, I'm making my peace with the situation but for now I can't move on because this bean is still hanging on! Iv had no cramping or bleeding. This morning Iv woken up to find my symptoms have cruelly increased again! I don't know if my body's trying to hang on to it or what but if it's over I just want it to BE over now ...
I'm going back to the private clinic on Friday for another blood test.
Will I only actually miscarry once my hcg reaches 0? How long should that take?
Sorry for the long post, I'm sure you understand I need to vent as much as ask for advice.
Thank you xxx
Firstly this is such a sad section of this forum and I can't believe in just 24hrs I have gone from the 'first trimester threads' to 'miscarriage and loss threads'. I am so sorry for what you ladies have been through, many of your journeys have been more painful and torturous than mine; but I appeal to you because I know that if you are here, reading this, then you know how I'm feeling ...
I'm 25, married and this was my first pregnancy. My husband and I were elated, particularly as we were told that we might struggle to concieve because I have pcos. We are in our 'compulsory year of trying' before docs will even assess us for fertility.
I have been religiously temping, opk'ing, cm checking and charting for months so although We only got our bfp a week ago it feels like we have been working forever for this bean.
14dpo - I got my bfp.
The next day I went to see my gp (she had asked me to come in straight away if I concieved on account of my fluctuating hormone levels) she sent off my midwife referral then sent me on my way. I asked about blood tests to check my hormones but she said it's not 'protocol'. I took comfort in the fact she wasn't worried.
16 dpo - got a darker line (along with a 1-2 week on digital. I should have been in the 2-3 band but I thought 'it's early days').
18dpo - a darker line still.
20 dpo - nice dark line came up straight away only a smidge lighter than control.
I lined up my tests staring at the pretty progression and dreaming about all the usual things.
Then on 21dpo (yesterday) I woke up with all my symptoms gone. I had been bloated and my boobs hurt like crazy and it was all just gone. I immediately panicked and although I only normally test every 2 days (to see the hcg double) I took a test - it was significantly lighter than the day before (more in line with my 16dpo) I also took another digi and it still said 1-2 weeks.
I burst into tears. My gp is away on holiday and I was told I'd have to wait until the following day for another gp appointment (but they could not guarantee they would refer me for a blood test because there's nothing they can do at this early stage anyway). I know this to be true but thoughts of ectopic etc were flooding through my head and for my own sanity I just wanted to know what was going on!
My husband paid for me to have a private blood test. They sent me the results within 4 hrs and I was not surprised to discover that my hcg was only 77.7 (21dpo) I know this means I'm losing our bean.
I have cried a lot, It seems like the past week was just some beautiful dream and I've been brought back to reality with a painful thump. I have resigned myself to the fact that this is not a viable pregnancy. I have been reading all 'silver linings' - at least it proves we can conceive naturally / women are more fertile after an early miscarriage etc ...
Another faint hpt this morning, I'm making my peace with the situation but for now I can't move on because this bean is still hanging on! Iv had no cramping or bleeding. This morning Iv woken up to find my symptoms have cruelly increased again! I don't know if my body's trying to hang on to it or what but if it's over I just want it to BE over now ...
I'm going back to the private clinic on Friday for another blood test.
Will I only actually miscarry once my hcg reaches 0? How long should that take?
Sorry for the long post, I'm sure you understand I need to vent as much as ask for advice.
Thank you xxx