Hi all,
I'm so down at the moment and really need to vent. My mil has always been really controlling but I've always let it slide. We generally get on quite well but she never takes my point of view seriously and as I don't have much confidence I don't stand up for myself.
Since having my baby things have gotten bad and I dread seeing her (she lives 5 mins away so see her at least 3 hrs a week). Basically she takes over my baby when we're there. She never asks to have him, just snatches him out my hands. And then she does what she wants with him. For instance, yesterday he was really screaming because he was overtired and teething. OH and I were both trying to soothe him, but she just walked up grabbed him and said 'he wants his nanny' and walked out the room. Then she took him out into the garden even though it was freezing and he only had a thin top on. I asked her to bring him in but her and fil just kept ignoring me saying 'hes fine, he likes it out here'. My OH says I'm overreacting but its not like I never want her to see him. I just want her to ask before taking him and to listen if I say no. I'm so hurt that OH knows how I feel and how much it hurts me but he won't stand up for me. He is quite happy to tell my mom off when she does things he doesn't like and even if I don't agree I support him. Just feel like I'm second best to his mom and I hate feeling like I have no control over my baby. I just don't know what to do. They won't listen and OH doesn't see a problem. Any advice? Do you think I'm overreacting? Thanks.
I'm so down at the moment and really need to vent. My mil has always been really controlling but I've always let it slide. We generally get on quite well but she never takes my point of view seriously and as I don't have much confidence I don't stand up for myself.
Since having my baby things have gotten bad and I dread seeing her (she lives 5 mins away so see her at least 3 hrs a week). Basically she takes over my baby when we're there. She never asks to have him, just snatches him out my hands. And then she does what she wants with him. For instance, yesterday he was really screaming because he was overtired and teething. OH and I were both trying to soothe him, but she just walked up grabbed him and said 'he wants his nanny' and walked out the room. Then she took him out into the garden even though it was freezing and he only had a thin top on. I asked her to bring him in but her and fil just kept ignoring me saying 'hes fine, he likes it out here'. My OH says I'm overreacting but its not like I never want her to see him. I just want her to ask before taking him and to listen if I say no. I'm so hurt that OH knows how I feel and how much it hurts me but he won't stand up for me. He is quite happy to tell my mom off when she does things he doesn't like and even if I don't agree I support him. Just feel like I'm second best to his mom and I hate feeling like I have no control over my baby. I just don't know what to do. They won't listen and OH doesn't see a problem. Any advice? Do you think I'm overreacting? Thanks.