In a state

[Lilelephant]

I have got my self in a right state about tomorrow
I am so worried it's gonna affect Orlando! I don't think I have stopped crying since last night!
I don't think I can face it

 

[1986princess]

Oh no hun try to stay calm and go in and hold ur head up High! If u going and try it and it's awful then u will have to decide with ur managers/boss what the best plan of action is! But ul feel better by trying it and also maintain credibility. So it can show the horrible staff that u aren't scared of them! Just think it doing it for Orlando x

 

[BabyBrain]

Then don't face it.

2 years ago I was signed off with stress because of bullying by my old boss. I would go to sleep crying and would cry in my sleep. The thought of going to work made me physically sick. This amount of stress can affect you physically as well as emotionally, I had 7 periods in 9 weeks. I would shake, I didn't want to go out, I was literally a wreck. I was referred to counselling by my doctor and whilst in with her I was in such a bad state she called in 2 doctors to sedate me.
You have everything written down and you have been threatened with physical violence. You don't really need a witness to this to be honest, the doctor would know the truth just by listening to you.
Ring your doctor now, or your midwife and tell them everything hun, and stress the point that you have been threatened. Please don't let yourself get into the same state I did, it very nearly ruined my entire life and you have baby to think about too.
Speak to ACAS for free advice but only when you feel able to go through this without getting into a state. Your employer has the obligation of Duty of Care towards you and they are failing in this.
Please don't go in and suffer the way I did. I am welling up now just thinking about it, it takes a hell of a long time to get over.
Much love to you hun, feel free to pm me if you need to get stuff off your chest xxxxxxxx

 

[Lilelephant]

I am seeing midwife on Thursday so gonna say something to her! I had counselling after my 3 miscarriages cos I was being bullied too and I thought about one day just driving and not turning around! OH is the only thing that keeps me going sometimes!
That used to make comments about the mc's like some ppl aren meant have kids etc and when i went back after the last mc they would say can u do this? Or is it too stressful smirking
I am honestly not a horrible person I try and do my best all the time! And I don't understand why they r like it to me!
I am the main bread winner so I can't just leave and y job is so specialised I can't just go work somewhere else unless I do something different.

 

[Lovisa]

I haven't got no advice for you hun, especially as I'm only picking up some details on this thread.
But I didnt want to read and run.
I hope whatever you decide to do tomorrow is the best that suits only you and hopefully you get the support that you deserve.
Is it some kind of meeting at work to confront the bullies?
Sending yiy BIG hugs hun xx

 

[redbear]

Aww Hugs for a start! And as for a second this is out of order i have just been commenting on your other post but didnt realise you where this bad or about the sick jokes about your Mc's (Hugs again)
You need to 1. talk to your doctor/ midwife as babybrain rightly said, 2. write in a letter to work giving all the details you can on all incidents even the ones not about this pregnancy but the last ones 3. go see a lawyer for the hour free consultation or a no win no fee one for some advice on the best steps to take, if they don't act on your complains and are putting you and your unborn baby into trouble due to there lack of action against the bullying then they are liable. They may offer paid leave untill your materernity starts so you dont loose money by leaving early, they may give out warnings to co workers involved to stop the harrasment.
They can't just sit and do nothing!!!

Honestly i feel like marching over there the six foot pregnant beast that i am and kicking off redbear style... they would know what harrasment was then trust me!!

I hope you do go get some advice because you shouldn't be put through this when you have been through so much already and you and your baby's health are the most important things and any decent person would see that. xxx

 

[Lilelephant]

Thanks hunnie xxx

 

[Hunnie]

Without sounding too harsh and I know they have been complete and utter *******s with you for no reason but without a doubt i know that the more you worry about it the worse it will seem when actually when you get there, other than having to be round those nobs, it won't be that bad!
I've always suffered from anxiety issues and panic attacks and they would leave me sitting in floods of tears and too afraid to go out to places other than where I felt comfortable (so basically either at home or the stables!), so i can completely understand exactly how you are feeling and how you are making yourself feel!

Please don't let them win!!

 

[Pickledonions]

i dont know whhats happening but lots of love to you hun

 

[Lilelephant]

Thanks that is true anxiety always makes things seem worse x

 

[Mrs N]

Remember they are only bullies coz they are jealous of you!!! GO in with your head held high and remember you only have a couple of months till your home with little orlando!!
xxx

 

[Susanne]

Only catching up on all of this now. What a complete bunch of *******s they are at your work!! I agree with the others that you shouldn't let them get away with this and should seek legal advice. In the meantime, if you feel that you have to go in, I hope that they are as cowardly as they are horrible and don't actually have the courage to live up to their bullying threats. I have been bullied a lot a school and have found out that the best (often the only) way to stop such *******s in their tracks is to seem completely not bothered - just looking at them with a raised eyebrow or a bemused smile and a little shake of the head when they are doing their best to get an angry or upset or defensive reaction out of you often does the trick. Anyway, I will be thinking of you tomorrow - good luck!!

 

[ForestLas80]

Keep your head up high and remember work is not worth it. I know it's hard when u r specialised and don't want to relocate, I am in the same boat there but honestly honey work is not your priority and if u have to move jobs and take a pay cut you can manage as babies don't need as much stuff as we think and really being happy and loved is all that matters. Calm down, think of all the positives in your life and get a tough protective bubble around u to get through tomorrow. Don't let them hurt you!! That's an order lady! They are not worth our tears!!! Xxx

 

[Sleepy sue]

Good luck for today Hun x x

 

[JensBump]

Good luck today - thinking ok you x