athenamarie
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in a really weird off putting situation (didn't even want to share this but av 2)
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littlesmoosh
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hey!
do you love him?
the fact that the trust is gone is a big tell tale sign to me.
and he doesnt sound like he deserves your trust anyway!
i think you need to ask yourself are you with him because you love him?
or are you with him because your scared of going it alone?
i understand why you havent told your family the situation, your scared they would judge him.
if he was a good guy who had just made a silly mistake then surely they would understand?
or could it be your ashamed of him for what hes done?
i dont think the other girl sounds like a shit stirrer. i think she must just be scared and confused. your confused and your babydaddy is still with you, imagine what it would be like if you were going it alone? im sure your head would be all over the place, i think thats the deal with her.
if you love him and you think hes a good person who just made a mistake then id stick with it. hes chosen to be with you even though you live further away. he could have chosen her but he didnt, so if you wanna make it work id think of it from that angle.
however, if your not sure how you feel about him and your just scared of bein a single mum i understand. but youve got to do whats best for you and baby. and maybe being on your own would actually be better for you?
sorry if this is no help xxx
do you love him?
the fact that the trust is gone is a big tell tale sign to me.
and he doesnt sound like he deserves your trust anyway!
i think you need to ask yourself are you with him because you love him?
or are you with him because your scared of going it alone?
i understand why you havent told your family the situation, your scared they would judge him.
if he was a good guy who had just made a silly mistake then surely they would understand?
or could it be your ashamed of him for what hes done?
i dont think the other girl sounds like a shit stirrer. i think she must just be scared and confused. your confused and your babydaddy is still with you, imagine what it would be like if you were going it alone? im sure your head would be all over the place, i think thats the deal with her.
if you love him and you think hes a good person who just made a mistake then id stick with it. hes chosen to be with you even though you live further away. he could have chosen her but he didnt, so if you wanna make it work id think of it from that angle.
however, if your not sure how you feel about him and your just scared of bein a single mum i understand. but youve got to do whats best for you and baby. and maybe being on your own would actually be better for you?
sorry if this is no help xxx
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I have to agree ^^^^
And don't worry we don't think your silly its very difficult situation. He may have just made a silly mistake even if it went on for a while it might have made him think and realise how much you mean to him. I can understand why he doesn't want to talk about it as he is properly ashamed and knows what he done was wrong. You will have to be patient with him if this is the case. If you feel as if there is no point being together as you don't see each other and - you have to see each other to be in a relationship then maybe call it off a little just see how you feel give it time and see how you feel after the birth if he still isn't ringing your bells just tell him.
And don't worry we don't think your silly its very difficult situation. He may have just made a silly mistake even if it went on for a while it might have made him think and realise how much you mean to him. I can understand why he doesn't want to talk about it as he is properly ashamed and knows what he done was wrong. You will have to be patient with him if this is the case. If you feel as if there is no point being together as you don't see each other and - you have to see each other to be in a relationship then maybe call it off a little just see how you feel give it time and see how you feel after the birth if he still isn't ringing your bells just tell him.
it seems like your already sort of already going at it alone as you dont see him much and you communicate mostly through text.
so was you in a relationship when he got with this other girl? he seems to show no remorse and sounds like he isn't to fussed your both having his baby? and sounds like a waste of space.
chances are IF they live close to each other.. the reality of it is that he prob sees her and will tell you a different story as your not going to know any different.
Is he going to move closer once youv had the baby?
If you are already thinking its not going to work - dont stress yourself with trying to make things better when deep down your sad, you need to be strong for when baby comes.
I understand you not telling your family as it may cause awkwardness.
x
so was you in a relationship when he got with this other girl? he seems to show no remorse and sounds like he isn't to fussed your both having his baby? and sounds like a waste of space.
chances are IF they live close to each other.. the reality of it is that he prob sees her and will tell you a different story as your not going to know any different.
Is he going to move closer once youv had the baby?
If you are already thinking its not going to work - dont stress yourself with trying to make things better when deep down your sad, you need to be strong for when baby comes.
I understand you not telling your family as it may cause awkwardness.
x
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What a nightmare, you poor thing. I just want to give you a big hug. I can't imagine what you are going through. One thing you must remember is you are blessed to be bringing your little girl into the world, you can do it on your own as can the other woman and without being cynical I'm guessing you will both have to. He sounds like a loser.
I don't blame you that you're thinking about the other woman, I would be. If it is possible try and share with your family and friends what is going on, I am sure they will be very supportive. You shouldn't have to deal with it, it's his problem.
I am speaking from experience in a way, not two people pregnant but a man that was noncommittal. He has gone and I am on my own, working full time but its the best thing I've ever done. My son is amazing; it's tough but worth it, so much less stress without FOB.
Take care of yourself and keep in touch. X
Ps I wouldn't have him at the birth, although I let mine.
I don't blame you that you're thinking about the other woman, I would be. If it is possible try and share with your family and friends what is going on, I am sure they will be very supportive. You shouldn't have to deal with it, it's his problem.
I am speaking from experience in a way, not two people pregnant but a man that was noncommittal. He has gone and I am on my own, working full time but its the best thing I've ever done. My son is amazing; it's tough but worth it, so much less stress without FOB.
Take care of yourself and keep in touch. X
Ps I wouldn't have him at the birth, although I let mine.
