Nonabean
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This last week has been very difficult.
Don't get me wrong, it's not baby blues, I adore being a mum. And I love my little boy to pieces.
It's my OH.
Alexander's still poorly. Although his eye has completely cleared up, the sick kids in the hospital passed on a cold, and he's had awful sickness and diarrhea since then.
It's made the poor wee soul really unsettled, sometimes it takes us 7 hours to get him settled.
I've also had antibiotics, because I had an infection so I've felt like shit this week.
Between my Mum and me we've been looking after Alexander, but my Mum suffered an angina attack on Thursday night and so she's been ill too.
My OH is doing virtually nothing, in terms of looking after the baby, or helping round the house. I'm lucky if he does one feed every two days, and if he's got a dirty bum I've got virtually no chance of a hand. But when I want him put down in his pram/cot (I really don't want him cuddled to sleep all the time) he wants to play with him/cuddle him. I've asked him not to do this, but he insists on still doing it.
Sometimes he undresses him too, for no reason, sometimes just because he doesn't like what I've put him in. But he'll leave him naked, with no heating on. And I've tried to tell him, he shouldn't be naked like that, but he just has a go, and says I don't care about the way he wants him looked after....
So, to my dilemma....
OH's family are in Stoke-on-Trent. We're near Edinburgh. I said before I had the baby that we'd go and visit before baby got too old. And, I do "want" to go.... sort of. His Mum isn't a very nice person, and when she came to visit Alexander was only 3 days old. She wasn't supporting his head properly, his niece almost dropped him because she got fed up of holding him (she was sat on the sofa, but that's beside the point) and his Mum won't listen to how I want it done - she woke him up after his feed and kept him awake for three hours, then f***ed of to her hotel and left me with a cranky baby. I feel like we need to go, because his Aunts and Uncles who live there have all sent presents, but haven't met the baby, and I have friends there too, who are desperate to meet the baby.
But with lack of support from OH, and MIL driving me up the wall, I'm freaking out about going. I need OH to see his GP soon. And I want to speak to his GP too. Any advice for coping? We need to go Friday - Monday, because of travel etc.
I'm really, really sorry for the rant/moan. But I'm mega stressed, and I'm going to make myself ill.
Don't get me wrong, it's not baby blues, I adore being a mum. And I love my little boy to pieces.
It's my OH.
Alexander's still poorly. Although his eye has completely cleared up, the sick kids in the hospital passed on a cold, and he's had awful sickness and diarrhea since then.
It's made the poor wee soul really unsettled, sometimes it takes us 7 hours to get him settled.
I've also had antibiotics, because I had an infection so I've felt like shit this week.
Between my Mum and me we've been looking after Alexander, but my Mum suffered an angina attack on Thursday night and so she's been ill too.
My OH is doing virtually nothing, in terms of looking after the baby, or helping round the house. I'm lucky if he does one feed every two days, and if he's got a dirty bum I've got virtually no chance of a hand. But when I want him put down in his pram/cot (I really don't want him cuddled to sleep all the time) he wants to play with him/cuddle him. I've asked him not to do this, but he insists on still doing it.
Sometimes he undresses him too, for no reason, sometimes just because he doesn't like what I've put him in. But he'll leave him naked, with no heating on. And I've tried to tell him, he shouldn't be naked like that, but he just has a go, and says I don't care about the way he wants him looked after....
So, to my dilemma....
OH's family are in Stoke-on-Trent. We're near Edinburgh. I said before I had the baby that we'd go and visit before baby got too old. And, I do "want" to go.... sort of. His Mum isn't a very nice person, and when she came to visit Alexander was only 3 days old. She wasn't supporting his head properly, his niece almost dropped him because she got fed up of holding him (she was sat on the sofa, but that's beside the point) and his Mum won't listen to how I want it done - she woke him up after his feed and kept him awake for three hours, then f***ed of to her hotel and left me with a cranky baby. I feel like we need to go, because his Aunts and Uncles who live there have all sent presents, but haven't met the baby, and I have friends there too, who are desperate to meet the baby.
But with lack of support from OH, and MIL driving me up the wall, I'm freaking out about going. I need OH to see his GP soon. And I want to speak to his GP too. Any advice for coping? We need to go Friday - Monday, because of travel etc.
I'm really, really sorry for the rant/moan. But I'm mega stressed, and I'm going to make myself ill.
