winnie89
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hi ladies so i was having a really good day today, harry's been feeding really well today and sleeping better (he was wide awake for 3 hours yetserday) so i thought if i went up to my nans house for tea she wouldnt say anything but she just couldnt help herself it's really upset me.
i'd changed and fed harry and he was fighting going to sleep (which he does all the time) i could see he was tired (yawning and rubbing his face) and she said harry's obviously not had enough so i'll go and make a bottle for him i told her no and she still did it anyway and tried to give it to him i told her if you give it him ur going to give him a tummy ache and can you please just back off and let me get him to sleep
so she looked at me disgustedly and said well olivia (my niece) sleeps through the night and she's a better behaved baby than harry i was fuming the only reason olivia sleeps better is because she is ff (not that hanna didnt try bf but they were both getting stressed because hanna wasnt producing anything) and there is 4 month between them so obviously she's gonna be better behaved she's just starting to become her own person (i.e talking and starting to feed on solids ect) so she went out of the room and rang my husband and i could hear her slagging me off saying i'm a bad mum because i was letting harry scream and get really upset when i wasnt (he was grumpy because he was tired!)
i just walked out because i could see it ending up in a screaming match me and my husband have spoken to her about backing off and telling her that harry is having the best that i can give him and it's what we as parents chose to do. she's blatantly just doing this to upset me, i hate going up there because everytime i see her she makes a snide comment and it really breaks my confidence in myself because she makes out i starve harry and i dont he has 8 feeds a day (up to 12-13 when he's having a growth spurt) i'm refusing to cry because i dont want to give her the satisfaction of knowing she made me cry, i already feel like crap because i couldnt have harry naturally and i hurt every day, i'm sick of her making out like i'm a bad mum and i'm not!
i'd changed and fed harry and he was fighting going to sleep (which he does all the time) i could see he was tired (yawning and rubbing his face) and she said harry's obviously not had enough so i'll go and make a bottle for him i told her no and she still did it anyway and tried to give it to him i told her if you give it him ur going to give him a tummy ache and can you please just back off and let me get him to sleep
so she looked at me disgustedly and said well olivia (my niece) sleeps through the night and she's a better behaved baby than harry i was fuming the only reason olivia sleeps better is because she is ff (not that hanna didnt try bf but they were both getting stressed because hanna wasnt producing anything) and there is 4 month between them so obviously she's gonna be better behaved she's just starting to become her own person (i.e talking and starting to feed on solids ect) so she went out of the room and rang my husband and i could hear her slagging me off saying i'm a bad mum because i was letting harry scream and get really upset when i wasnt (he was grumpy because he was tired!)
i just walked out because i could see it ending up in a screaming match me and my husband have spoken to her about backing off and telling her that harry is having the best that i can give him and it's what we as parents chose to do. she's blatantly just doing this to upset me, i hate going up there because everytime i see her she makes a snide comment and it really breaks my confidence in myself because she makes out i starve harry and i dont he has 8 feeds a day (up to 12-13 when he's having a growth spurt) i'm refusing to cry because i dont want to give her the satisfaction of knowing she made me cry, i already feel like crap because i couldnt have harry naturally and i hurt every day, i'm sick of her making out like i'm a bad mum and i'm not!