i'm really angry

[winnie89]

hi ladies so i was having a really good day today, harry's been feeding really well today and sleeping better (he was wide awake for 3 hours yetserday) so i thought if i went up to my nans house for tea she wouldnt say anything but she just couldnt help herself it's really upset me.

i'd changed and fed harry and he was fighting going to sleep (which he does all the time) i could see he was tired (yawning and rubbing his face) and she said harry's obviously not had enough so i'll go and make a bottle for him i told her no and she still did it anyway and tried to give it to him i told her if you give it him ur going to give him a tummy ache and can you please just back off and let me get him to sleep

so she looked at me disgustedly and said well olivia (my niece) sleeps through the night and she's a better behaved baby than harry i was fuming the only reason olivia sleeps better is because she is ff (not that hanna didnt try bf but they were both getting stressed because hanna wasnt producing anything) and there is 4 month between them so obviously she's gonna be better behaved she's just starting to become her own person (i.e talking and starting to feed on solids ect) so she went out of the room and rang my husband and i could hear her slagging me off saying i'm a bad mum because i was letting harry scream and get really upset when i wasnt (he was grumpy because he was tired!)

i just walked out because i could see it ending up in a screaming match me and my husband have spoken to her about backing off and telling her that harry is having the best that i can give him and it's what we as parents chose to do. she's blatantly just doing this to upset me, i hate going up there because everytime i see her she makes a snide comment and it really breaks my confidence in myself because she makes out i starve harry and i dont he has 8 feeds a day (up to 12-13 when he's having a growth spurt) i'm refusing to cry because i dont want to give her the satisfaction of knowing she made me cry, i already feel like crap because i couldnt have harry naturally and i hurt every day, i'm sick of her making out like i'm a bad mum and i'm not!

 

[BevG]

woah, she needs to f##k off. id refuse to go there til she does, your baby your choice on how to feed him.

 

[MrsMushroom]

As a mother of a formula fed baby, I can promise you that it DOES NOT make them sleep through the night!

 

[pinkyprincess]

How can a baby be bad? It knows nothing of the world except to cry as it's the only form of communication. I'd refuse to go again. How dare she treat you guys like that. I'm sure he is thriving! Remember that!!

 

[Samsgirl]

Oh dear. Hugs hon x

 

[winnie89]

i just feel really crap atm harry is normally a really happy baby and he's putting on 6oz a week in weight so he's not being starved he was just grumpy that he was tired i dont think i shall be going up again until her attitude improves

 

[TORino]

Oh Lordy!

How did she have formula to make up?

I'd be livid if someone gave my breastfed baby a bottle like that.

You need to teach her a lesson by staying away until she can behave properly.

What strange views she has. She sounds like an ignorant woman tbh.

Chin up sweetie, you are doing great. Don't let the haters knock your confidence xx

 

[pinkyprincess]

Oh Lordy!

How did she have formula to make up?

I'd be livid if someone gave my breastfed baby a bottle like that.

You need to teach her a lesson by staying away until she can behave properly.

What strange views she has. She sounds like an ignorant woman tbh.

Chin up sweetie, you are doing great. Don't let the haters knock your confidence xx

I agree if he's gonna have formula that'll be my choice not someone else!

 

[winnie89]

she'd brought some for when i go up because i told her if i definatley couldn bf then i'd put him on a bottle and once my milk came in and he started feeding propperly then i never needed it

 

[katie_lou]

I hope ur ok Hun , your his mummy and you know best. This witch of a woman needs to back off , also it's aload of crap saying that babies who are FF sleep for longer a baby will not sleep through the night until they are ready to . nothing to do with how you feed them. Xxx

 

[AndreaJayne]

I would tell her right where to go, she doesn't know your baby like you do. I would tell my OH that unless she changes her attitude she can visit you to see the baby in your home and she must respect being in your home.... winds me up when ppl r like that. Don't doubt yourself hun you are more in tune with your baby than anyone ever will be xxxx

 

[winnie89]

thanks ladies i'm gonna talk to the hubby tonight about us not going up as much because its not worth fighting over harry is having the best start if nan doesnt like it the fuck her i dont want this negative attitude to afect my son

 

[hellywelly]

God, I WISH ff babies slept through the night!! Must be my imagination I was up 4 times last night then??! I definitely wouldn't go again til her attitude improves. I would even go as far to say that she owes you an apology...

 

[winnie89]

Thanks ladies really appreciate all the support I've just found out aswell she did the same with my sister in law when she first had olivia and she said nasty things about her aswell behind her back she just can't help but judge how we raise our children

 

[Olive]

I wouldn't go round til she apologised at least. Thats awful behaviour.


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[benjis mum]

That's awful. Keep strong, you're doing a fab job

 

[Princess81]

How rude you're his mummy you know him best and what he needs. I would stay away until she apologises.

 

[BabyNumber1]

FF definately dont sleep through the night!! I breastfed for 6 weeks and when i went on to FF, yes Francesca was a bit more settled but i think it was because i wasnt producing enough BM not because its better for them!

He is your baby, not hers! I wouldnt let it get to you hun! You know whats best for your baby, and if you want to BF you BF, if you want to FF, then FF its got nothing to do with anyone else!!

Us mums have enough to deal with, with having a new baby without people interferring!!

Hope your ok!!

 

[BevG]

i combi feed and Alyssa has always only woken for 1 feed during the night after her bedtime feed at 11 regardless of wether i was ebf, combi or if she had had bottles all that day. i tend to bf the night and morning feeds now as she usually falls asleep on the boob in the night so its easier