thanks sue...i think positivity can also come across as not caring tho sometimes...i found that out with my OH last night, i felt awful as i was just chuffed we could start again and the first question he asks "do you want a baby" i said yeah course i do and he said "well you dont seem that bothered" and when i thought hard about it, it may come across heartless etc so we had a good talk about whats happened anyway, it was fab just to talk about it together and get things off our chest, i hadnt realised how much this had hurt him :/ but were ok now xx