I would have been

[FebMum2Be]

12 weeks yesterday, I can't stop mentally setting dates for milestones and where I would be, what would be happening at this time.

I don't know how I'm supposed to deal with my mc. Do I talk, do I keep quiet, do I share my feelings with my mum. Do I try to move on and and bury my head. My scan is still on my fridge, I know there's not one way to cope but I just feel like C is coping and never talks about it but some days it's all I can think about. X

 

[Lou1103]

Hey,
It's such a bloody crap thing to happen. Do whatever u feel u need to. I found my mom to be amazing during mine and dont think i coulda got through without her. Did ur mum know u were pregnant? I have found talking helps xxx

 

[FebMum2Be]

My close family knew I was pregnant. My mummy is there whenever I need her but my sister and I are very close, she is 6 weeks ahead of me we would have had our pregnancies together. . She has had 2 mcs and I know she would talk to me about it but I don't want to bring up dark times for her now that she has good news.. I want her to be happy at this time..

Sorry you've went through it too. Its horrible, I hope you're keeping ok x

 

[Lou1103]

I see what u mean but if it was me i think id still want u to talk about it. Especially if she's 'out of the woods' so to speak. If not just talk on here, the ladies are so supportive and it really does make a difference to know so many others have been through it xxx

 

[Iwant3]

With my first mc I had all the milestone dates worked out in my head so found it hard not to keep thinking I'd be this many weeks and that many - and any special events etc I was hoping to be pregnant for, i had to go to with an empty belly. With the next mc i did it to a certain extent but didn't obsess on it to the extreme I did the first. i have to sit and work out how far I would have been now as it's not on my mind. For the book i would have either been 7 months or 4 months or almost 6 weeks pregnant right now - but I am neither.

I am not really able to talk much to family as my mum would rather I just stopped trying to prevent further heartache, most friends usuall change the subject soon after me raising any conversation about pregnancies and miscarriages.

i have found this forum and the miscarriage association to be a great support to me - I am now a member and volunteer of the Miscarriage association....which gives me focus and meaning to my difficult times.

 

[JJ Mum]

Hugs xx
Talk to your sister, shes been there and can fully relate
If i was your sister id want to be there gor you while your having hard times as much as the good times, it msy reslly help you , you shouldn't have to cope alone xx

 

[mummywanabe]

My baby would have been due this month, I still think about it and although im pregnant again, I will always think of the little one I never met