I 've just had some shocking news!

[Vickyleigh]

I just got a phone call to say that my ex boyfriend of 5 years is dead!
He died last week after falling from a balcony in tenerife.

We split up 2 years ago and we had a lot of bad times in our relationship but I was with him for 5 years, we were engaged and tried for a baby. But I don't know how I should be feeling. I'm devestated and shocked but I can't show it infront of OH because how would he feel, after all I am carrying his baby and i'm with him now.
I feeling like crying my eyes out but I dont know if I should be crying. I feel numb but I can't show it

 

[mary70]

have u told him about the call hun he might be more understanding than u think

 

[Vickyleigh]

I have told him but he hasn't said anything about it. he might not know what to say.

 

[grace]

oh no what a predicament. thats awful. you need to talk to your oh and see how he reacts. if he looks hurt or gets annoyed you will have to keep quiet but the guy died, surely he wont feel threatened. i think he will understand.

put yourself in his situation, how would he be? its a shock and a half, what a pointless way to go, how sudden and unexpected. his family must be so upset. how old was he?

im sorry for your loss.xx

 

[grace]

was this the guy who you were with and he was violent? if it is, i change my mind, i dont think your oh will be very understanding. its still terrible news but he loves you and will not be very forgiving to the man who hurt you.x

 

[Vickyleigh]

He would have been 28. Yes it was the violant one and I still think he was a nasty horrible person for what he did but after 5 years with someone your bound to be a bit upset. [/code]

 

[neeko_1]

oh no i'm sorry

but i'm sure your OH would be okay... i mean someone just died and you where with him for 5 years... yeh it's in the past but he has just died

it's upsetting when anyone dies

hope your okay hun

 

[trixipaws]

it's upsetting when anyone dies

yes what she said

i'm sure he'll understand if u need to cry, its even harder to control emotions with all the hormones

i'm sorry for ur news.

 

[jools221181]

I'm sure he will understand it is a shock to you and no matter what, as the others have said, it's upsetting when anyone dies regardless of if you were with him or not. So it is understandable you are upset you spent 5 years with him!
So sorry hun

 

[Charlotte & Emily]

im really sorry to here this
it is really upsetting when anyone dies before their time.
i think your OH should understand if you're upset, you were with him for 5 years.

 

[budge]

I just got a phone call to say that my ex boyfriend of 5 years is dead!
He died last week after falling from a balcony in tenerife.

We split up 2 years ago and we had a lot of bad times in our relationship but I was with him for 5 years, we were engaged and tried for a baby. But I don't know how I should be feeling. I'm devestated and shocked but I can't show it infront of OH because how would he feel, after all I am carrying his baby and i'm with him now.
I feeling like crying my eyes out but I dont know if I should be crying. I feel numb but I can't show it

oh dear

 

[mummykay]

sorry vicky, i dont know what to say? sendin u these tho

 

[Alfiesmummy]

Im so sorry hun, you are entitled to be upset, no matter how horrible he was etc you gave 5 years of your life to this man liker you said even tried for a baby. Your OH may not like it but you are allowed to grieve, you loved this man, you should shed a tear for him.

 

[Bee]

sorry to hear that

Try talking to your OH again and tell him how u feel.

 

[happy-chick]

Really sorry to hear that hun

 

[Vickyleigh]

Thanks for your replys it means alot

I have my ex's name 'Dean' tattooed above my belly button and last night I told OH I couldn't look at my stomach because of it and he said I should change the N for D so it spells Dead!!! I wasn't too pleased about that.
I had a serious chat with him and I said I know it can't be nice for him but he's got to see it from my point of view. I was with him for 5 years and now he's dead. It's going to effect me in someway.
I've decided I dont want to the funeral, I might regret it but I got to think of bump now.

 

[Baileysmummy]

aww huni.. big hugs to you...